Trust is the most important factor that contributes to the success of a healthy, meaningful, and loving relationship. It causes you and your mate to grow closer together, increases intimacy, and causes your love for each other to grow stronger.
Trust is the foundation on which your relationship should be built, and without it, the relationship will suffer. Healthy marriage and trust go hand in hand.
Trust is not automatic
The importance of trust in marriage cannot be overemphasized. Trust is the foundation of any relationship, however, trust doesn’t automatically happen. Trust in relationships is created based on hard work and time.
It takes time to develop and you must be willing to work together to build and keep it in your relationship.
Before asking how to build trust in a marriage, it’s very important to discuss the meaning of trust with your mate to make sure you know what it means and how it impacts the relationship.
Having a discussion will help you develop an understanding of each other and your views about trust.
An atmosphere of honesty is required
Honesty and trust in a relationship, together are the ingredients that keep a couple together, bonded. It’s important to create an atmosphere of honesty when building trust in a marriage, and that starts with making sure that:
- You don’t keep secrets,
- You are aware of each other’s intentions,
- You both know who you are and that your identity is created based on reality and not fantasy
- Your behavior matches your words
How many times has someone told you they loved you, but their actions/behaviors didn’t match their words.
This causes confusion and it’s a form of being dishonest, doesn’t create trust, it causes a breakdown in the relationship, that results in trust not being built. Only a relationship built on trust can survive the test of time.
Learn how to understand and define trust
Understanding and defining trust are the keys to developing honest perspectives when it comes to creating a healthy, loving, strong relationship.
To help you do that, I’ve come up with three questions for you and your mate to discuss. Here’s how they can help:
- Encourage open and honest communication
- Help you learn to ask for what you need and want in your relationship, as well as determine what you will and will not accept.
These questions open the door for trust in marriage to be built and play a huge role in keeping trust in your relationship
Be open and honest and don’t be afraid to ask each other each question, take turns listening attentively, if you need to, take notes while you listen to ensure you are hearing your mate correctly, and after listening, repeat back to each other what you heard to ensure you have clarity
If you don’t have clarity, ask your mate to explain further. These questions will help you become more aware of each other’s perspectives. Here you go:
1. What does trust mean to you? This question gives you the opportunity to develop; an understanding of each other’s perspective and it causes you to go deeper with the conversation.
2. What does trust look like in a relationship? This question gives you an opportunity to create a visual description of trust. For example: keep your word or coming home when you say you are or calling when you’re running late.
3. What are some ways we can work together to develop and increase trust in our relationship? This question gives you the opportunity to identify and discuss how you are going to build and keep trust in your relationship, and it makes you accountable to each other.
Important characteristics you need
Developing trust in marriage is not hard, it’s simple and when done sincerely, it helps you create and maintain a healthy and loving relationship.
As stated, defining and understanding trust is very important and discussing your viewpoints is key as well, but there are some other important characteristics you and your mate should exhibit, to build trust in marriage. Both of you should be:
Trust is the most important foundation and a key component to building a healthy, loving, and stable relationship, and you must possess these characteristics. If you’re in a relationship or thinking about being in a relationship, consider the questions and characteristics above. Relationships are built on trust, a break-off is inevitable if there is no trust in marriage.
If you feel that things are not working out, try talking to a close friend or a counselor, if need be, to sort out matters and strengthen your relationship.