Defining a romantic relationship may seem like a trivial task, but in reality, when we engage in one, we get so caught up in it that it becomes difficult to remember what is it truly supposed to be about.
Sometimes it’s because we jump from one short relationship to another when none of them feels right, sometimes it’s because we’ve struggled in a toxic relationship for such a long time that dissatisfaction started to feel normal or because we are so deeply in love that it blinds us.
To get back on the right course, we need to remind ourselves what are the priorities and what are the signs of a healthy relationship. Here are some clues to help you remember the true meaning of being in a relationship.
Understanding each other
Not only that it means knowing each other really well, for example, knowing the name of your partner’s childhood pet, a favorite book or what he or she hates about the college, or at work, but it also means deeply understanding each other.
You should know what life goals and aspirations drive your partner, the values they cherish, their hopes and fears, their biggest virtues and flaws, and things they like and dislike about themselves.
Only when you truly understand your partner, you can understand their actions and therefore, support them for what they are no matter what.
Admiring each other
If there is something that your partner does that you can’t do or is good at something that you’re not, and you admire him for that, it is a sign of a healthy bond. Every partner should feel like the other partner is someone worth admiration and look up to them.
Having someone beside you that you could learn from constantly is a treasure you should preserve. This way, you point out the best in your partner and make them feel more confident.
If both partners learn from each other, admire each other for that knowledge, together they walk towards an improved version of themselves and eventually become wiser and healthier. Admiration is one of the keys to keeping the spark alive.
Having fun together
Oh, we sometimes tend to forget this important ingredient. What is a relationship without fun? If your partner makes you crack up, you are on the right track.
Developing your own language and having your own little jokes that nobody else understands; waiting to get home from work because you know that the time spent with your loved one is going to be enjoyable; having many activities that you like doing together are signs that you are a duo that can provide some positive energy and truly enjoy each other’s company.
When you are feeling down, your partner can make you smile easily, and that’s exactly how it should be, not the other way around.
Being affectionate with each other
In a healthy relationship, there’s not a day that passes by in which partners don’t say a kind word to each other, hug or kiss. They should be all over each other and enjoy exploring each other’s body.
Affection is what divides a romantic bond from a friendship. Your partner should be attractive to you and light up a fire inside of you. Of course, in long relationships, it is not so obvious, but it is important that it is still there, even if it’s sleeping, and that your partner can still make butterflies flutter in your stomach from time to time.
Accepting the responsibility to take care of your relationship
Both individuals should understand their responsibility to make it work and always try to be the best partner they can be. They don’t try to fix the other person to satisfy their needs. They accept the other person for what they are and help them if they can, but don’t try to control or fix them.
Knowing your boundaries and limits in a relationship and being aware that you can always self-develop and also, that your partner is never going to be perfect is the key to a relationship full of respect and empathy.
Being a team
When you are in a relationship with someone that you respect, care for, admire, look up to, and if it is mutual, you can be sure that you are in a happy, healthy place.
Always work hard on your relationship because you care about it and want to nurture it, not because you want it to survive one more day or a week. You and your partner are a team that fights together against the barriers that life throws at you, and for your goals and dreams. Both of you must try to create the best versions of yourselves.
If your partner is someone that makes you smile when you are feeling down, that understands you when you can’t even understand yourself, that brings up the best in you, teaches you valuable lessons and can’t wait to get home to you, then your relationship is what it is truly supposed to be about.
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