Relationships are full of surprises, and they often have their ups and downs. What’s important, however, is that the partners don’t get bored, and manage to keep thelove burning.
And one of the best ways to go about it is to send sexy texts to the person you love.
Calling is a passé. Sexting is in. In fact, sexy texts are best at turning partners on, seducing them, or dropping suggestions about your desires.
Exchanging sensual, and at times outright dirty, seductive text messages for her or him have been known to spice up relationships.
Sexting is like a breath of fresh air that brings on the dark side of your personality.
Sex messages for her/him or sexting, as some people prefer to call them nowadays, has evolved into an important part of dating. But you need to be aware of how to use it to your advantage.
Figure out the kind of sex messages for her make her wet, and she will go wild for you every time you do it! Sexual things to say to your girlfriend on a text need to be carefully chosen, to intrigue and spark imagination.
You need to understand the rules of the game if you’re going to win it. Going in without a plan and randomly sharing sexy texts is likely going to end up turning your girl off.
So, before taking a plunge into writing the best sexy texts for her, let’s go over some of the basics.
Sexy texts for her that can make her go wild
I’m loaded, with work, but I just can’t stop thinking about you.
Now that’s an outright hot pun intended. This is definitely one of the seductive text messages for her, which you can share without annoying her too much. It’s naughty, but in a cute way, and doesn’t use any dirty words.
This is one of the safe and naughty messages to send to your girlfriend.
Want to come over tonight? I can’t promise I’ll be good though.
Still maintaining a fine balance between outright dirty and sweet, you’re asking her for a date and some good time, with subtle hints of a possibly sexy encounter. It is the right kind of sex talk to text your girlfriend.
I just can’t stop thinking about the last night.
We are getting there, a simple yet sexy text to remind her of the hot night the two of you shared. It’s a great way to make her feel good and to start her day off with some appreciation.
I have some plans for you tonight
This is the opposite of the example above, for those times when you are anticipating a sexually-charged date. Remember: this is going to work only if you are at an advanced stage of a sexual relationship.
Don’t create such sexy messages for her and send them if your relationship is still nascent. Sexting messages for her require good timing.
I love it when you …
Of course, you will need to fill in the blanks here.
This can be a sexy text bordering between naughty and outright dirty, so make sure to factor in the age of your relationship while mentioning something that you’ve done together in the past.
Using sexual things to say to your girlfriend on text to get her in the mood increases your chances of being intimate with her.
What are you wearing tonight?
Yeah, this one’s a classic and for a good reason too! It’s a great way to make your intentions clear when starting a conversation and a great way to test the waters.
When you are not sure if she’s into dirty texting, a slightly naughty yet sexy text like this can show you the way. Explore the area carefully to figure out which are the freaky things you are allowed to say to a girl over a text.
Can’t wait till you get here so I can pin you to the wall again while I kiss you
Ok, so this one’s a little rough and dramatic as well quite a freaky thing to say to a girl over text, but it gets the job done. Something this sexy is great to let her know exactly what you’re thinking, and it is visual enough for her to feel the heat.
You’re just too good with your hands
Flirtatious, seductive, dirty, this naughty message to girlfriend is all of these rolled into one.
Depending on the context, this message, a double entendre, could be totally innocuous and extremely dirty at the same time. This is also a perfect dirty message to send to your wife.
I want you. Now !
Nothing like a straight-forward text that shows her that you’re sexy, you’re turned on, and waiting to take charge.
One of the perfect dirty texts to send her at night. Women hate playing games, and a man who comes across as direct and fearless exudes sexual prowess.
We are sure you get the point.
Sex messages for her to be used judiciously
I don’t like sitting here at work when I could be at home doing filthy things to you.
Why can’t I just be lying beside you in bed instead of studying/working?
I have a surprise for you later tonight; I think you’re going to like it!
If I could only wear three items of clothing or less tonight, what would you choose for me?
I just laid in bed for the last hour thinking about you, guess what I was doing!
I cleaned the kitchen today, so I’d have room to fuck you on the table.
Your ass looks just as amazing in those sweatpants as it does in your little black dress.
I love playing with your hair and your _______
Do you want a back massage, a foot massage, or both?
I’d put on music, but I don’t want to drown out the sounds of your sexy little moans.
Don’t stop me once you come, because I’m planning on giving you multiple orgasms today.
I bought you a new vibrator, so I can thrust and play with your softness at the same time.
Do you care if my tongue is between your legs when you wake up in the morning?
Your mind is just as sexy as your tight little body.
I can’t decide what part of your body is more delicious. Give me another taste.
I bought some handcuffs and a blindfold. Should I put them on you or me?
I baked you some dessert, so you can eat it while I eat you.
Do you want to have sex in bed or in the bath I just made you?
Tonight is going to be about pleasure and pain.
I want to hear you breathing in my ear when I make you reach orgasm.
Tonight you’re not allowed to reach orgasm until I say so.
You’re not going to be able to move after I’m finished with you tonight.
Your heart is going to pulse with complete pleasure tonight.
I had a hard-on all day because I couldn’t stop thinking of that beautiful face.
Your laugh turns me on even more than your wetness does.
I stuck your clothes in the washer, and now I’m going to make out with you on top of it.
I’ve never gotten so horny just by kissing someone.
Do you want me to wake you up with breakfast in bed or oral?
I’m so horny thinking about seeing you later.
I miss having your arms around me.
I was thinking about you in the shower this morning!
I miss you dominating me.
There is something that makes me crazy wet when you are standing right over me when we’re kissing.
I tidied up the bedroom, but I don’t mind if you mess up the sheets with me.
I’m going to go down on you, and I won’t even let you think about returning the favor.
I miss having you around me.
I was thinking about you in the bed this morning and saying your name till I hit the big O!
I miss you smothering me with pleasure.
I’m so horny thinking about seeing you later.
I will whisper in your ear to reach orgasm while you dig those sexy nails into my back!
No matter how many cold showers I have, I still can’t get you off my mind.
I know someone who has a crush on you…
I adore the feeling of your soft, silky, and delicate skin against mine.
I love starting my day by saying your name out loud
You look great today! And how do I know? Because you look great every day!
Every time I close my eyes, I see you naked. But FYI, I like seeing you naked with my eyes open even more!
Hey, wild thing…. I was just thinking about you… and all my blood traveled south.
You would not believe what I dreamt last night! I was a fireman… and you were on fire… luckily I saved you with my firehose. Made you all wet, though…
I just want to nail you against the wall as soon as you come home! No words! Does that make me a bad man?
I know what you want, but I want you to beg me for it.
If you were here right now, I would rip your clothes off and throw you onto my bed and have my way with you. But you’re not, so… rain-check?
You are definitely the hottest girl in this part of the universe! Not sure about the rest of the universe though, I haven’t checked there yet.
Do you know that I spend my day thinking about you and my night dreaming about you?
So many options… which would you choose? The car? The couch? The floor? Kitchen table? Somewhere public?
Tonight I’m going to take it slow and savor every curve on your sweet body.
You are sooo much more than sex to me… even still… with each amazing episode, it just gets better and better.
You weren’t given lips like that for anything. Get into high heels, put on some red lipstick, and let’s put them to good use?
All I can think about is tasting you again and again and again…
I was thinking of buying some soft rope…should I get enough for your wrists and ankles or just your wrists? Actually, let’s leave it up to me…
I had the wildest dream last night… it was about you.
I just thought of a new position that I desperately want to try with you.
Are you alone tonight? Want to play a hot game?
Next time when I am around you, wear something that keeps me guessing.
I want to be naughty with you in the office.
I have heard that you should not fight it if you like it.
I can’t stop looking through those pictures you sent me. You look so sexy.
Tonight is going to be all about you, baby. Just lay back and relax.
I miss feeling the curves of your hot body pressed against mine.
I can’t wait to see you so I can run my lips across your beautiful neck.
You don’t have any idea how beautiful you are. A pantheon of Goddesses would envy you.
Somehow you get sexier every damn day.
I never knew what it was like to want someone this badly.
I’m going to start your night with a massage and end it with an orgasm… or two… or three…
I love the way you touch me. Come over?
You are the sexiest woman in any room.
I wish I was there with you right now. I don’t know how much longer I can wait to see you.
I want to spank your ass, pull your hair, and kiss your neck.
I love the feeling of your skin. It’s so soft and perfect.
Let’s act out one of your fantasies tonight.
Your moans are the sexiest sound in the world.
I may run out of flirty text messages to send to you, but my heart will never run out of space for you.
Do you like my shirt? It’s made of boyfriend material.
Seeing your name on my phone makes me smile like an idiot.
I’ve wanted you from the very first moment I laid my eyes on you.
You are turning me into an insomniac.
If you knew that my answer was “yes,” what would you ask me?
I’m so distracted by you, even in my thoughts. Could you stop being so damn hot for a second?
You’re like a tornado. You just blow me away!
You see, I’m like a Rubik’s Cube. The more you play with me, the harder I get.
I’d walk a thousand miles just to touch you tonight. And a thousand more if you let me kiss you all over.
I’ve had so many dirty thoughts about you today. Would you like to hear some of them?
Aren’t you exhausted? You’ve been running in my thoughts the whole day. Naked, most of the time.
If I ate a candy bar for every moment that I thought of you, I would have lost all my teeth by now.
I am sending you to an island full of kisses on a sea of love!
It’s always fun to flirt with you over texts. However, it makes it difficult for me to lean in and kiss you.
If kisses were raindrops, I would send you a flood. You’d need an ark.
You are my heart’s epic adventure!
Ever since I met you, all the love songs suddenly turned to be about you.
I miss your smell. You smell so good!
I miss your sexy bedroom eyes. You make me melt and hard at the same time!
Sending too many sexy messages, or doing it continuously, isn’t cute.
Especially if you are still in the early days of the relationship when you are still learning, compared to sending sex messages for a long time girlfriend whose taste you know.
Liking someone does not give you the liberty to message them non-stop.
It can be bothersome, or even annoying, to the person you’re messaging every time. Everyone has a life, which means they have work to do, responsibilities to attend to, chores to finish, and personal things to worry about.
Constantly texting them, especially sharing sexy texts, may appear exciting to begin with, but could become a burden after some time and can be a huge turn-off.
The quantity of the dirty texts to get her in the mood is as important as the quality.
2. Don’t complain when they don’t reply to your sexy texts immediately
We know, not getting a reply to a message can hurt your ego, especially if it is a sexy text which was meant to express your desires openly. But, it helps to realize that most people’s lives don’t always revolve around their phones.
In fact, there are jobs where people aren’t even allowed to use their phones while they are on the clock.
Imagine how bothersome it would be for people to break out of a shift only to see several messages, including a couple of sexy texts whining for a response? Your dirty texts for her would counter-effect. Not done.
Expecting immediate responses to your sexy texts makes you appear clingy and entitled, things that can make your girl cringe. Don’t blame us if you don’t heed this advice, and she ends up putting you on ignore pronto.
You create, and more importantly, follow a schedule that respects your girl’s time while allowing you to keep in touch with her. As an example, you can start sending her a simple good morning message every day is part of the schedule.
Keep your sexy messages for her short and sweet so that it gets her interested, and she gets into the habit of expecting these messages, making you a part of her routine. And that’s exactly what you are after.
As time goes by, you will begin to identify the time frames when she is more receptive, even anticipating your messages, helping you establish a more robust texting schedule.
This way, you begin to form an important part of her routine, without being a pain or a point of irritation.
That’s the magic potion to tapping into the power of texting in the early days of your relationship.
4. Act flirty, but not dirty
Making your intentions clear is important. You might be wondering what sexual things to say to your “future” girlfriend on the text.
You don’t want to keep sending her feel-good messages all the time and risk getting friend-zoned. If all you do is send good morning messages, chances are she’ll never consider you as a romantic prospect.
So, yes, go ahead and make sure to let her know you’re interested in her by sending flirty and sexy texts or script some highly seductive text messages for her.
Compliment her at every opportunity and let her know you miss her and express that you’re interested in something more than just friendship. A sexy text for her a day keeps the boredom away.
But at the same time, don’t send her dick pics!
Not everyone takes kindly to nudes, especially early on in a relationship, and can turn them off.
Let your relationship take a natural course, and when the time comes, you can type seductive text messages for her and send her with her consent, of course. Dirty sexting will come too all in good time.
5. Use emojis
That may sound “meh!” but, please, hear us out!
Emojis are an important aspect of texting because they can add levity to the conversation. Since when you text her, you can’t convey your emotions via facial expressions or the tone of voice, it’s possible to get into misunderstandings.
Using the right emoji can convey your feeling better and can add some life to the plaintext message. The ‘kiss emoji’ or the ‘middle-finger’ emoji’ is the perfect example of sharing sexy texts with her.
Such emojis will convey the meaning without wasting a single word.
Also, texting or sharing sexy texts virtually has some benefits as well.
Benefits of sexting
You can brainstorm each of your seductive text messages for her before sending them away.
Sexy texts can create sexual tension and throw suggestions if you shy away from verbally expressing them.
Sexy texts are also ‘training wheels’ for men who enjoy talking dirty.
Texting gives you time to think and carefully construct sex messages for her without feeling the pressure of the moment.
Alright, enough said! Now get sexting.
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