Toxic relationship is a relationship that is involves behaviours on the part of the toxic partner that are emotionally and physically damaging or harmful to their partner. This does not mean toxic persons in a toxic relationship is directly physically harmful and life threatening to the life and health other partner. But it can simply be that the other partner feels frightened, threatened and scared to share his or her opinions because he or she is nervous and afraid of the toxic person’s emotional reactions.
Here are some warning signs that you are in a toxic relationship
1. Negative energy
In a toxic relationship, you get so tensed, angry and furious around your partner which builds up negative energy in your body which later leads to hatred for each other.
Negativity can drain you in all aspects of your life. Negativity drains you mentally, physically and emotionally. We’re forced to deal with this negativity, but your relationship should be a reprieve from that type of stress.
2. You don’t seem to do anything right
You are in a toxic relationship if you don’t seem to do anything right no matter how hard you try to do it perfectly.
The moment you get to that point where you feel like everything you do upsets him or annoys her, you are feeling quite uncomfortable doing things around your partner and you’re tiptoeing around in your own relationship, you have to understand that you are not the problem.
Most times, there is something with which your partner is not happy and he or she has not said it to you. Until he or she is honest with why he or she is really frustrated and unhappy, nothing you do will seem to be right.
3. You are not just happy anymore
We all know it is not possible to be happy in every moment of your relationship, but as a whole, your partner should make you happier. He or she should make you feel supported, engaged, joyous and capable of doing whatever you want to do. He or she helps you reconstruct and gives you hope that things can be the way you think they should be which makes you happy.
Once you don’t feel happy around your partner, it is a warning sign that you are in a toxic relationship.
4. Everything is so dramatic always
“Many couples thrive on high theatrics—screaming, accusations, hands, and words flying,” says psychiatrist Scott Haltzman, MD, author of the book The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity.
Every time, there is always heated argument, drama and exchange of hot words every time which makes it quite uncomfortable for you to understand each other every time.
It might not necessarily be physically assault, it might be through his or her behaviour.
5. Every Disagreement is a chance to score points
The relationship scorecard develops over time because one partner or both partners in a relationship use past wrongdoings in order to try to justify current righteousness. You do not only deflect on the current issue, but you’re bringing up guilt and bitterness from the past to manipulate your partner into feeling wrong in any present argument or disagreement.
6. You don’t talk about moving forward in the relationship
Partners need to talk about and iron a lot of important things out in relationships—not just whether to get sushi or pizza for takeout or the outfit to wear. If your partner refuses to talk about important relationship topics, like when to have a baby or buy a home or even when to get married, you are in a toxic relationship.
If the only thing your partner talks about are incentives that won’t foster the growth of the relationship, then your partner is stone-walling you which clearly indicates you are in a toxic relationship.
7. You don’t communicate effectively
A toxic partner will want you to automatically read his or her mind to figure out what he or she wants. A toxic partner will expect you to predict what he or she wants, he or she will expect you to know when he or she needs a hug and a chat, when he or she wants red not white, when he or she wants a yes not a no.
8. You start losing friends
Toxic relationship contaminates you. While you are still trying to figure out and correct what is wrong with your toxic relationship, your friends are busy wondering what is wrong with you mentally, emotionally and physically.
Your friends will start asking you and your relatives what is wrong with you that you have been acting up lately.
If your relationship changes you, it should only make you a better version of who you are. If you feel like you are losing yourself and your friends or you don’t recognize who you are anymore, it is a warning sign of a toxic relationship.
If you are observing, the above signs in your relationship, then your relationship is toxic and it can be harmful to you emotionally, physically and mentally.
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