Are you having amazing sex? Great sex is all about building anticipation, communicating about likes, dislikes, fantasies, and being fearless when it comes to trying new things.
You may be in a long-term relationship and think you know everything there is to know about having great sex but the truth is, there’s always more to learn! That’s why we’re teaching you 35 of the hottest sex tips around.
1. Communicate about sex
In marriage, communication is everything. It’s how you grow as a couple, problem-solve, and get to know one another better.
Research indicates that sexual communication is positively correlated both with relationship and sexual satisfaction. The easier it is for you and your spouse to talk about getting dirty together, the happier your relationship will be.
2. Create an atmosphere
One of the best sex tips for an amazing roll between the sheets is to set the mood. Create a romantic atmosphere is easy.
Start with a clean bedroom, light some candles, put on some mood music, and start romancing your sweetheart.
3. Use your mouth and your hands
One great tip for performing oral sex on men is to use both your mouth and your hands at the same time. These duel sensations will give him double the pleasure and double the fun during foreplay.
Doing a little roleplay in the bedroom is a great way to boost your sex life.
Let your imagination run wild and feel the heat radiating between the sheets.
You can be the naughty babysitter, seductress secretary and boss, vixen elf and magical mage. Whatever your fantasy is, roleplay it!
5. Find a toy you love
One great way to amp up your sex life is by introducing naughty toys into the bedroom. Not only will this spice up your routine, but it also helps women achieve orgasm faster.
6. Read dirty stories
For couples who aren’t into dirty movies but still want to spice things up, it’s time to read some dirty stories.
Get out your favorite erotica and take turns reading to each other.
7. Boost your oral skills
The “Kivin Method” is one of the best sex tips to come around in a while.
While performing oral sex on your female partner, approaching her from the side instead of straight on. This change of angle will heighten her pleasurable sensations and have her begging for more.
8. She comes first
Always remember this: When it comes to sex, once the guy is finished, the party’s over. So make sure you’re a good party host by ensuring your guests are always “served” first.
9. Make foreplay a priority
Foreplay is important. Really important.
Not only is kissing, touching, caressing, and pleasuring your partner a great way to connect before getting down to the deed, but it’s also a great way to ensure your female partner is going to orgasm.
10. Get loud
Remember when you first moved in together and you were able to express yourself as loud as you wanted during sex? Well, get the kids a babysitter tonight, because it’s time to get verbal.
11. The C-A-T position
The Coital Alignment Technique, or CAT position, is great for women who find it difficult to orgasm from intercourse alone.
Begin in the missionary position with his body flat against yours, then tilt your hips up. Have him do a rocking motion instead of an “in and out” motion. This way you’ll be grinding against each other and giving your clit a real workout.
12. Watch and play
One great way to play voyeur for the evening is to sit across from your partner on the bed and give yourselves a private viewing party as you touch yourselves.
This process will turn you both on so much, it’ll be impossible to keep your hands off one another.
13. Use exercise as foreplay
There’s no doubt that exercise is good for your health. It improves your cardiovascular health, reduces stress, and leaves you with a bangin’ body.
But, did you know that some women actually get turned on from exercise?
Even more of a reason to get fit with your spouse this year.
14. Tie each other up
You may not be ready for whips and chains, but there’s always room for a little light BDSM play in the bedroom. Experiment with tying one another up or using handcuffs.
15. Grind, don’t bounce
One of the best sex tips for women in the cowgirl position is to grind. Never, ever bounce.
Bouncing is a sure-fire way to tire you out in two minutes flat. Grinding, however, will be much better for your stamina and you’ll have a much better chance of having an orgasm due to the friction you’re creating against your clit.
16. Play a sexy game
Buy some sex dice, play truth or dare, strip poker, or only tease each other during commercial breaks on the TV. These games build sexual anticipation and result in a whole lot of fun.
17. Dirty talk
Don’t be afraid of a little dirty talk now and again. Roleplaying or getting a little crude is a great way to turn each other one and live out a fantasy.
18. Mix it up
Don’t be afraid to mix up your routine every once and awhile.
Instead of doing it in the evenings, have spontaneous morning sex. Instead of doing it in the bed, get naughty on the living room floor.
19. Don’t ignore the testicles
This area can sometimes go ignored, but the testicles can definitely provide some serious stimulation to men. The next time you’re pleasuring your guy, be sure to lick, suck, or gently tug or cup his balls for a sensation he’ll never forget.
20. Mirror mirror on the wall
One great sex tip for spicing things up is to watch yourselves getting dirty in a full-length mirror.
Banish insecurities and watch the sexy way you enjoy one another.
This is great because it’s not as invasive or dangerous as recording yourselves in the act, but you still get to watch the good parts unfolding in front of you.
21. Watch each other
Great sex involves equal parts chemistry and vulnerability. You can open up your vulnerable side and make sex hot and meaningful by maintaining eye-contact throughout.
Part of having a great sex life is being able to talk to your partner about anything.
Consider fantasizing part of your dirty talk. Relay one of your favorite fantasies to your partner or create one especially for them.
23. Send a care package
Are you long-distance lovers? If so, there’s no reason why you can’t keep things steamy from hundreds of miles away.
Send a care package to your lover complete with sexy lingerie, condoms, flavored lube, perhaps a naughty video, book, or letter detailing what you want to do when you see each other again.
24. Kiss like teenagers
Remember back when you first met your spouse and nothing sexual had happened yet?
Those were the days when you could kiss for hours and hours getting more turned on the longer it went.
Relive those days and make out shamelessly.
25. Take your time
Great sex doesn’t have a timer attached to it. If you really want to have better sex, make sure you have the right amount of time set aside for it.
26. Make a bucket list… For sex
Have you ever wanted to do it on an airplane? In the back of a car? Make a homemade dirty movie? Now is the time to get kinky with your spouse and make a dirty bucket list. Not only will this inspire you both to try new things, but you’ll turn each other on just talking about it.
27. Find a toy, you both love
Some lovers may be intimidated by sex toys, but there’s no reason to be. Instead of focusing on her pleasure, find a sex toy you can both enjoy, like a vibrating ring or a We-Vibe. The sensations will send you both over the edge in no time.
28. Grind with your clothes on
Research shows that 81.6% of women can’t orgasm from penetrative sex alone. That’s because most of their focus has to be on grinding the clit against something.
So, the next time you’re feeling frisky, grind with your clothes on (as if you were teenagers again!)
The friction from the clothes will get her excited and may even make her orgasm, just make sure you’re not wearing jeans or harsh materials that could chafe either of you.
29. Give him something to see
Men are extremely visual creatures, so why not give them something to see? The next time you’re getting down and dirty, be sure to keep the lights on so he can watch you work your magic.
30. Focus on emotional intimacy
One of the biggest sex tips for hotter lovemaking is to focus on your emotional connection. Spend quality time together bonding outside of the bedroom and you’ll see your sex life and the rest of your relationship improve.
31. Put your phones away
Research (disturbingly) shows that 1 in 10 couples admit to checking their phones – WHILE HAVING SEX!
Being intimate with your partner and working on your orgasm is the last occasion on earth you should be catching up on your texts.
Do yourselves both a favor by turning your phones to silent and putting them in a drawer for the duration of the ride.
32. The clit is everything
Most women need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm, so don’t neglect this special area. It isn’t just for foreplay!
Be sure to stimulate the clit with your fingers, sex toy, or choose a position where it can grind against your partner for the ultimate pleasure.
33. Compliment each other
Who doesn’t love to be complimented about their amazing sex moves every now and again?
The next time your partner does something you can’t get enough of, tell them so! Not only will this boost their ego, but it will let them know what turns you on the most.
34. Explore non-sexual touching
One of the biggest sex tips for boosting intimacy is to explore non-sexual touching.
Studies show that physical affection, such as holding hands, kissing, cuddling, and massaging one another, is strongly related to relationship satisfaction.
35. Sexy strip session
Does your partner love to see a sexy visual before getting down to business? Delight their senses by putting on your favorite “mood music” and doing a sensual striptease.
Married sex should never be boring sex. Spice things up in the bedroom by following our list of 35 sex tips for couples.
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