Healthy and long-lasting relationships go a long way in contributing to a happy and fulfiling life. A relationship is said to enrich our lives and add to our enjoyment to being alive, but we all know that there is no relationship which is perfect.
There are some relationships that lead to marriage. But before venturing into what you will eventually enjoy (or endure) throughout the rest of your life, there are some vital elements that must be considered.
1. Love and commitment
It is crystal clear that love is the vital element needed in any form of relationship. This applies to marriage too. Without you loving your spouse or your spouse loving you (for who you are), the marriage will not last, unfortunately.
Love is putting your spouse or partner above you, love means making your partner your major priority, it means they come before anything else.
Before you say “I do”, be sure that you truly love your partner and they love you the way you do.
Commitment is all about staying by your partner’s side no matter the circumstances. It means going through “thick and thin” with your partner. If you are not committed physically, mentally and spiritually to your partner, then your marriage is heading for “rock-bottom”.
There is nothing to over-emphasize about the importance of trust in every marriage. Trust is the most important determinant to the health and longevity of a marriage.
If couples can do what they say and say what they do, they create an atmosphere of trust and reliability in knowing their words and actions mean something to their significant other. Couples that rely on each other can both breathe a sigh of relief to know their partner has their back.
3. Effective communication
By now, you should know that effective communication is needed in every relationship. A bridge in the communication structure of a marriage is what often leads to divorce.
You are in a healthy marriage when you are able to openly express your deep feelings and avoid burying hurt or anger.
Both of you tend to deal with situations as they come up more effectively without wasting any time. It is a sign you are in a healthy relationship if and your partner is on the same page. No partner in a relationship should feel shy or timid about communicating their feelings at any point. Neither of you should have seconds thoughts about sharing your needs, desires, pain points and thoughts.
4. Patience and forgiveness
Nobody is perfect. Your partner is bound to make some mistakes, decisions, and statements that will upset you. Sometimes, you will be annoyed about the way your partner acts or treats you, but you have to be patient enough to forgive them.
If you communicate effectively with your partner, you will be able to see things from your partner’s perspective and then forgive them.
Patience and forgiveness will always be essential in a marriage. Understanding couples learn to show unending patience and forgiveness to their partner. You should humbly admit your own faults and do not expect perfection from your partner. Do not bring up your partner’s past errors in an effort to hold your partner hostage, it destroys marriages!
Selfishness in a relationship is like a wrecking ball that shakes the foundation of a marriage.
Most marriages break done due to badly managed marriage finances, lack of commitment, instances of infidelity, or incompatibility, but selfishness in relationships can lead to resentment, pushing the relationship to the verge of extinction.
Selfish people are dedicated only to themselves, they show little patience, and never learn how to be a successful spouse.
Give your hopes, beliefs, dreams, and your entire life to your partner. And begin to live a blissful life together.
Summarily, we need to value our marriages, treat your partner with great care and love, and invest into your marriage by being patient and trustworthy.
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