Ever Wondered How to Be the Best Husband?
You might think you’ve got it all figured out, you know how to be the best husband, and you’re on your way to becoming one. And even though this might be true, it’s never a bad thing to go over the basics and the advanced guidelines once more. This article will pinpoint some important things you need to be mindful of if you aim to be the best husband for your wife.
1. Emotional needs and how to meet them
Women are emotional beings. So are men, although the modern Western culture still somewhat denies this fact. We go about often with little insight into our feelings. But, on a side note, being married may open the path towards tapping into your own (sometimes very well hidden) pool of emotional intelligence.
Women are, once more, truly emotional creatures. Women, although also rather practical, still put their emotional needs at the top of their priorities in a relationship. They also know exactly what they feel at any given moment, they see nuances in every emotion, they understand how to express any feeling in a way that would be comprehensible to others.
As such, women also require someone who would be able to interact with the array of emotional experiences that they have. In other words, women need someone to respond to their emotional needs. And the perfect husband will know how to do it. So, start observing your wife more closely. Ask questions, if you’re uncertain about what she might be needing from you. Your wife will gladly share her needs and hopes with you if she notices your interest in what she’s experiencing. And one universal rule is – just always show care, interest, and kindness, and the rest will follow.
2. Support your wife in every area
When we first started dating, we were mesmerized by the woman we met. We admired her and loved every flaw that she had. These made her even more beautiful in our eyes. But, when the time passes, all married men tend to become a bit more criticizing and a bit less tolerant. We also start focusing on our own obligations and tend to assume a somewhat passive role in our households.
However, if you want to be a good husband, you should provide support to your wife at all times, in all areas of life. What this means is knowing her, understanding her, and being her cornerstone. In other words – yes, your wife may not be perfect. No one is. She might even have many flaws. But that is where you step in.
A perfect husband will be the perfect partner in arms. You should step in where your wife lacks abilities, strength, or endurance. This is a rather general advice that can be applied to any aspect of your relationship. For example, if your wife cracks under pressure at parental meetings, tell her to relax and stay at home for the next one. Maybe you yourself don’t like to go through it and that was why you delegated that to your wife in the first place. But the best husband is not selfish.
Or, your wife may be very talented and creative, but insecure about pursuing her passion. If you notice her making excuses just to avoid challenging herself, show her that you believe in her. Sometimes just the right kind of encouragement is all one needs to blossom. Offering support to your wife is not just about complementing the gaps in her own skills, it’s about helping her find her own path and develop her talents as well.
3. Never forget the small things
Small acts of kindness and love cannot be overestimated. Even though to us, men, this might seem like a trifle and utterly unnecessary, to women little gestures in which we show our love sometimes make the difference between a great husband and just a husband. Because women interpret such deeds as demonstrations of affection, you should always make effort to show how much you care.
Although modern men are now more open and emotional than ever, we still look like ice cubes to women sometimes. If you read any article written for women, you will notice how much our wives crave to be reassured of our love towards them. And they need such encouragement every so often. So, buy flowers for your loved one even when it’s not her birthday. Prepare breakfast for her. Buy the tickets for her and her best friend to go and see a show or a concert. Be creative about how you let her know you love her. No need for huge romantic gestures that take weeks to plan and execute – she will notice and appreciate even the smallest things.
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