Being a newlywed is so exciting. You’re still on a high from the wedding and the honeymoon, and your life together stretches before you with the promise of glorious adventure.
In fact, you might well be wondering why you need marriage tips! After all, you’re madly in love and newly married. Could things be any rosier?
The time just after you get married is prime time to start laying foundations for the rest of your marriage. The actions you take and decisions you make now will influence how your marriage progresses. By paying attention to some practical matters and building god habits together, you’re helping ensure a long and happy life.
Make the most of that newlywed shine with our 10 must have marriage tips for newlyweds.
1. Sort out your budget
Money causes problems in many a marriage. It’s a contentious topic and one that can quickly descend into fighting. The newlywed period is the ideal time to sort out your budget. Agree on it and set it now, and you’ll be off to a great start with money before issues have the chance to creep in. You might have quite different money styles, so it’s important to find a compromise you’re both happy with.
2. Divide up the chores
Chores are just part of life. Decide now who will be responsible for what, to save disagreements later. Of course you’ll want to be flexible from time to time as life happens or one of you gets sick or worn out from work, but in general it helps to know who is doing each daily or weekly chore. If you find you can each take over something the other hates, that’s even better.
3. Plan for emergencies
Emergencies can happen at any stage of marriage. Planning for them isn’t being a doom monger – it’s simply being sensible and making sure you don’t get taken by surprise. Make a realistic list of what could arise, such as unemployment, illness, even a leaking appliance or lost bank card, and devise a plan for how you’ll deal with each eventuality.
4. Get to know each other
Chances are that if you just got married, you already know each other rather well. There’s always more to learn, though. The newlywed period is a great time for long walks or lazy Sunday afternoons relaxing together and talking about anything and everything. Get to know each other even better so you understand what the other needs, what they dream of, and where you fit into that.
5. Start the date night habit
You’d be amazed at how quickly newlyweds can become like housemates. As life gets busier, promotions arise, kids come along or family issues rear their head, it’s oh so easy to let quality time together slip. Start the date night habit now: Set aside one night a week where it’s just the two of you with no kids, friends, TV or phones. Go out, or cook a romantic meal in. Whatever you do, make it a priority and keep it that way as your marriage develops.
6. Set some long term goals
Long term goals promote team work and give you a sense of where your marriage is going and what your future might look like. Setting and then checking in about goals together is fun and exciting, and gives you a sense of shared achievement. Your goal can be anything you’re both enthusiastic about, whether that’s learning ballroom dancing, meeting a savings goal, or building your own deck.
7. Celebrate the everyday
Rather than letting every day life take the shine off that newlywed feeling, embrace and celebrate it. Make little daily rituals together such as always texting at lunchtime, or having a coffee together after work. Have fun while you do the grocery shopping and whip up that night’s dinner. The everyday things are the backbone of your marriage, so take the time to notice and appreciate them.
8. Make memories together
As the years go by, a store of beautiful memories is a blessing for both of you. Start now by keeping your phone handy so you can always snap photos of big, and small, occasions. Keep ticket stubs, souvenirs, love notes and cards from each other. You can even get into the scrap booking habit, if crafts are your thing, or keep a digital archive of your favorite shared moments to look back on in years to come.
9. Practice healthy communication
Healthy communication is a good foundation for any marriage. Practice healthy communication now and your marriage will stay strong as the years go by. Learn how to listen to each other with compassion, and approach difficulties together as a team rather than as combatants. Practice speaking kindly, and taking responsibility for your feelings, and the way you express them.
10. Have some adventures while you can
No matter what stage of life you get married at, one thing is for sure – there’s a good chance life has a few surprises in store for you yet. Why not take this chance to have some adventures before jobs, kids, finances or health get in the way. Don’t worry if you had a big budget wedding; fantastic adventures don’t have to cost a lot of money. Try something new, go somewhere new, or eat somewhere new to add variety and fun to every day.
Being a newlywed is wonderful. Make the most of it with our top ten tips and set your marriage up for success and joy for decades to come.