There are many ways people try and get over a breakup, some more and some less successful. However, as with any great endeavor in life (and surviving nasty separation surely is one), the absolute best way to succeed is to get inspired and motivated by some energizing quotes.
You can find tons online, but to save you trouble, we’ve picked a few for you. Moreover, we will show you how these inspiring quotes relate to the psychology of human relationships and in general.
“One of the best times for figuring out who you are and what you really want out of life? Right after a breakup.”
One of a few things in life that has a transforming potential for personality is +love. There are just a few instances in which people can change profoundly, such as getting a child, having a close encounter with death, in one way or another, and being in love. And, as things sometimes don’t go as planned, with love comes disappointment and pain.
Although breakups (especially divorces or marital separations) are hard and can wreck your life, there is a lesson to be learned from any such experience. Whatever your relationship was like, short or long, heavenly or hellish, you probably changed a lot during that time. Some people tend to lose themselves in a relationship, which may not be a good thing.
So, use the breakup to catch up with yourself.
Explore who you are now, after this experience. Are your values and interest still the same? Or did you discover some new areas that you want to pursue? Did the relationship hinder you in some way? Were you wishing for something you couldn’t do, but now, as a single person, can? It’s painful, or uncomfortable at least, to go through a breakup, but use it as a learning opportunity and venture on!
“Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”
The most difficult kind of a breakup is when it was a great relationship. People split for many reasons, and many good marriages end, regardless of how delightful they might have been. In some cases, the relationship itself has been great, but the spouses just drifted apart, and it has to end.
From a psychological standpoint, when a relationship was unhealthy, there is a lot to learn from it. And, it might even be easier to overcome, regardless of how toxic the breakup might have been. But, it’s difficult for exes to grasp why the marriage has come to an end and to overcome it if there are many beautiful moments to come back to.
So, what you should arm yourself with is the quote above, founded in Eastern philosophy. It is an optimistic outlook, but not an irrational one. If you analyze your relationship, and understand yourself and your own needs and wants, a loss of a good thing will be followed by an even better one.
“I can’t tell if it’s killing me or making me stronger.”
As anyone who has gone through a separation, a breakup, or a legal divorce knows, you will probably go through moments of feeling like you’re going to die. For some, such painful times last for days, and some feel depressed and barely surviving for months, or even a year or two after the actual breakup.
However, you will survive. You will get through and find yourself one day with a fresh zest for life. And when that day comes, what you will also find is that you’re immensely stronger psychologically than when you entered the now broken marriage. So when you feel that the breakup is killing you, remember, it’s not. It’s creating a new, stronger and improved YOU.
“Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.”
Although motivational, this quote isn’t something your psychologist would tell you the moment you enter their practice after a divorce. However, there is a lot to deliberate on in this affirmation. And it is, indeed, something many clients come to when they’re nearing the end of their sessions with a therapist.
Life is what it is; you rarely get it all the way you wanted it. Accepting this fact is a major lesson you get to learn the easy or the hard way. But, once you accept that not getting what you wished for (staying married for the rest of your life, as an example), you will start noticing how this situation opens many doors for you. So fear not, and discover all that wonderful things that await you.