It’s all too easy to slip into a steady and (sometimes dull) routine with your man.
Just like with work, study, going to the gym or even eating, your intimate life can become routine and boring too. When that happens, you and your spouse will start to drift away from each other, emotionally and mentally which will make it difficult to reignite the sexual spark that was once there in your relationship.
Don’t let this happen to your marriage!
These tips will provide some excellent ideas for any woman who wants to spice up the bedroom
1. Avoid the common sexual pitfalls that occur during marriage
So many married people often report that they dissatisfied with the amount of sexual activity within their marriage even though both spouses are feeling disappointed with the lack of activity there can still often be a problem or a withdrawal, particularly on the woman’s side.
This often occurs because a woman’s sex drive is usually not as strong as her man’s (perhaps this is nature’s natural contraception, but it is indeed a natural occurrence).
The problem that most couples find themselves experiencing is that the woman often feels pressured into having sex with her partner to keep him happy which then reduces the sexual enjoyment on her part.
A married couple should discuss their sex life more. They should be able to find alternative ways to keep the intimacy flowing in their relationship (for example, through, deep conversations, fun games, massage) and the man must ensure that he embraces these intimate moments.
This will make the woman feel relaxed enough to enjoy sex again and will probably increase the frequency of sexual activity.
If as a couple you can find a code word that one could say to the other if they felt they were drifting apart from each other sexually. A code word that you can use without pressure, perhaps even creating a plan in advance for a night of intimacy if the codeword is expressed; then you will avoid one of the most common pitfalls that most married couples experience – the challenge of being turned off by too much pressure.
More than anything though, it’s important to remember that both sexes have very different outlooks toward sex, intimacy and sexual drive, if you can invest time and effort into trying to understand, respect and support each other with these differences you will undoubtedly spice up the bedroom.
2. Face your fears
If you are uncomfortable as a woman with initiating sex or sexual activity, if you would like to suggest something new to try or would like to initiate a spicy evening together but feel too embarrassed, then it’s time to face your fears.
You are likely to experience a profound sense of trust in your marriage, which doesn’t exclude bedroom antics. The more you find your sexual voice or expression, the spicier your sex life will become and the more your husband will be expressing gratitude that you are his wife!
If you feel awkward at first, discuss it with your husband so that he doesn’t spoil the moment for you when his jaw hits the floor in shock at his new sexually confident wife.
This is one of the best things a woman can do to spice up the bedroom, after all, who doesn’t find a confident woman attractive!
3. Work out together
There is something very intimate about a couple who works out together. Whether it’s the psychological influence that working together to improve your health and vitality brings, or the suggestive connection between body and mind that promotes a healthy sex life, or even the fact that you are both connecting with your bodies, and taking ownership of them while doing so in front of your husband or wife.
Whatever the cause of this phenomenon is, it works, and it’s a healthy way for a woman to spice up the bedroom.
If you and your husband don’t exercise together already, why not make a start now. If you don’t exercise at all, entice your husband away from the sofa with the promise of a new lease of life for you both sexually. That’s sure to get him moving, and it’s a perfect way for a woman to spice up the bedroom.
4. Be more open
My cousin’s wife is a beautiful, down to earth, loving person who dearly loves her husband, but there also something so refreshing about her.
She doesn’t feel embarrassed to be open about most things that are natural and often taboo, she talks about these things as if they are completely normal (which they are) which makes everybody feel relaxed in her company.
While she doesn’t overshare with her family about her imitate life with her husband she assures me that she doesn’t hesitate to chat with her husband about her body, sex, his body, their sex life or anything else that may seem taboo to others.
An open, uninhibited approach keeps the communication around intimacy in the relationship open even during challenging times such as post pregnancy.
If you use this approach in your marriage, you will find it easy to introduce spicy love games, try different places or positions, or to just let go and be yourself. This is one sure fire way that a woman can spice up the bedroom.
While these tips might seem obvious, they are frequently overlooked but also very easy to do. So just get started today, take small steps (you don’t have to do it all in one go) and as you make a start you’ll soon find yourself learning how to express yourself in the bedroom and each time you do, you’ll keep on turning the heat up ensuring that your marriage is happy in all areas!