One plays the dominant partner and the other the submissive partner. Each one has roles to play and rules to follow.
The dom-sub roles are under BDSM. The term BDSM stands for bondage, dominance/submission, sadism, and masochism.
Now, we’re focusing on how to be dominant in bed for your partner.
What are the responsibilities of a dominant?
Before we proceed with the fun stuff of how to be dominant in bed and the ways you can pleasure your partner, we first need to understand the roles of the dominant partner.
Do you think it’s time for you to dominate your husband or wife? Are you tired because your partner is always the one controlling your sex play? Then, start by familiarizing yourself with these responsibilities.
This is important because you will need to know if your partner is open to this type of thing. You’re lucky if your partner agrees to try the dom and sub relationship. This is when you can come up with your terms, and you can even talk about which one you can try out first.
2. Be your partner’s boss
The first thing you have to remember if you want to know how to be dominant in bed is to learn how to be bossy.
Being the dominant partner means you have to take control, and it would only work if you know how to be bossy. From how you act, your stand, the tone of your voice to all your commands – you need to be convincing and firm.
3. Wear something intimidating
Now that you’re into character, the next thing that you need to focus on is what you’ll be wearing. If you want to look like those very sexy women dominating sex play, you have to dress for the role.
Let your partner use their hands to slowly and passionately touch your body, give them the chance to shower every part of you with sensual kisses.
5. Blindfold and tie your partner
Do you want to know one of the sexiest ways to dominate your man in bed? Invest in those sexy bed restraints and blindfolds and use them to tie your partner in bed.
By doing so, you will have full command of your partner. Stroke him, tease him and kiss him until he can’t take it any longer. Of course, with consent, you can also grab his hair and spank him. Add naughty words, and you’ll feel that intense fire burning inside.
While it’s not common to dominate a man in a relationship, you can dominate a man in bed. Boss your partner around and ask him to do things for you. After all, you are the boss, and he’s the Sub.
Take this chance to let him know who the boss is and don’t forget to make him call you whatever you want. Of course, don’t forget to punish your Sub if he becomes naughty.
Make sure your partner calls you Mistress, Queen, or Boos, your choice, your rules.
7. Choose sex positions where you have control
You can also choose what sex position to try. Make sure that this position is something you can take complete control of.
Tie your partner in a chair or bed, proceed with penetration and start pleasuring your partner. Seeing your partner without control is such a lustful moment for the Dom, and the Sub also feels helpless and turned on by this sexual act.
Who doesn’t like roleplaying? She can play the young schoolgirl, and you can play the strict teacher. Don’t be shy and get into character. Use steamy words and phrases that will make everything realistic.
4. Choose dominant sex positions
Pin her and use your weight to control your chosen sex position. You can also lift her and pin her against the wall. Face-down doggy is one great position to try.
5. Control her orgasm
You would enjoy controlling your wife’s orgasm once you are in control. See her reaction as she reaches the big ‘O’, then you stop.
Tease her, kiss her, and let her grab your hair so you can enter her again. Watch her beg for pleasure – the pleasure that only you can give her.
Steamy, right? Having fun in bed and exploring each other’s sexual potential is such a great way to bond.
Learning how to be dominant in bed is enjoyable, but you have to remember that there are rules to follow. We don’t want to be carried away and end up physically hurting our partners, or worse, making them do something they don’t want.
Don’t get embarrassed if you want to know more about BDSM. If you won’t try it or be open about it, then you’re missing out on so much fun. Good luck and have fun!
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