You may well have just gone through the motions when it came to learning how to make love in high school. Some experiences were probably better than others as you fumbled around exploring with your crush.
And while we imagine those beautiful lovemaking experiences were probably not as good as the red-hot lovemaking sessions you’ve had as you’ve progressed through to adulthood.
There is something sexy about getting full-on into different ways to make love – adult style!
If you learn how to make love consciously, intentionally moving, breathing, touching in all the right places, trying new lovemaking techniques, or trying some of the best lovemaking positions.
Your spouse will be replaying the memory for weeks to come, and you’ll find that you might turn up the dial on your sex life a notch or two and all because of a lingering kiss.
It’s all too easy to forget to put any effort into the simple art of making love, especially if you’ve been married for a while.
But it only takes a little bit of intense tongue action along with some seemingly talented moves to get your spouse in the mood.
So if you want to learn the best way to make love, we present you sixlovemaking tips to help you re-learn how to make love:
1. Focus on the angles
It’s an interesting observation to make but how you angle your bodies makes all of the difference when you are making love.
Angles can really create different vibes and take your lovemaking sessions to different heights and influence different moves, and so it’s one of the first factors to learn if you are going to learn how to make love sexy style!
Sit on his lap and wrap your legs around him.
Straddle over him or her, so you are kissing from above.
Use prop such as steps, or have one of you sit on the kitchen counter.
Lie down in a spooning position.
2. Focus on your lover’s breath
Senses can heighten and be heightened, but a frequently overlooked technique for learning how to make love is to pay attention to your partner’s breath as they lean in to make love with you.
It’s intensely sensual to feel your partner’s breath on your mouth especially if they practice good oral hygiene!
To do it, try brushing your lips lightly against your partners and take in the sensation of his breathing as it lingers on your skin.
3. Shake things up
Switch up your approach to making love in bed.
Change the way you move your mouth, your tongue, the angles, and how you let your partner feel your breath.
Use your partner’s tongue to demonstrate what you will do in other erroneous places, and don’t forget a nibble or two, especially on the lower lip!
Just don’t do all of these things in one lovemaking session, and you’ll have lots of inspiration and ways to keep things fresh.
Which will keep your partner guessing and build excitement, as you start to introduce steamier lovemaking sessions into your sex life.
4. Get into the moment
When you are kissing, don’t just focus on the lips, invest in getting lost in the moment, and the movement of you both together.
Here are some fun techniques to add some extra layers to your kiss:
Make it deep and meaningful by placing your hand on your partner’s heart and kiss in time with his heartbeat, gently move your hips in time too, and you’ll soon be swept away.
Play with his or her fingers as you kiss sexually.
Rub and grab or touch sensually parts of your spouse that are intimate yet often missed such as their inner thighs, or the curves under their arms, or the backs of their upper arms
Drag your fingers through your partner’s hair and lightly tug it.
5. Introduce full body contact
Getting in sync with each other’s bodies is a fast track to increase arousal, especially when you align your groin against theirs.
There are plenty of different techniques you can use to bring some full-body contact into your lovemaking session.
While your groins are locked together pulsate or grind to enhance the sensation.
Straddle your partner and be sure to kiss other parts of their body.
Start to unbutton some of their clothes, but not all.
Touch or stroke yourself where you’d like them to touch or stroke you in full view of your partner.
Simulate sex, yes, we know dry humping is a teenage thing, but seriously there’s something about simulating sex that makes doing it way more enhanced.
Put your lips everywhere.
6. Explore each other’s body
Exploring each other’s bodies during lovemaking is the best way to understand what your partner likes and where they like it the most.
Especially in women, there are many erogenous zones that even they might not be aware of when making love the first time.
So feel each other from the head toe and look for those unique pleasure points and exploit them to the fullest.
Now that you understand why understanding your partner’s body thoroughly is vital, it is time to learn how to engage in such an exploration.
Don’t be frantic touch them gently, starting from their head or face.
Stay above the belt at first, slowly explore their body while moving closer to them.
It is essential that you do not rush no matter how excited you are, remember this is not a quickie.
As both of you start to get comfortable, turn your attention to the groin region. Take your time and always, always be gentle.
Finally, don’t forget the importance of eye contact and a few not so sweet nothings to spice things up, and if you do this, you’ll soon see what an investment it is to learn how to make love adult style!
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Rachael Pace is a noted relationship writer associated with Marriage.com. She provides inspiration, support, and empowerment in the form of motivational articles and essays. Rachael enjoys studying the evolution of loving partnerships and is passionate about writing on them. She believes that everyone should make room for love in their lives and encourages couples to work on overcoming their challenges together.