As it has been proved, “humans cannot thrive well in isolation of the mind, body, and spirit”. It is essential for every human being to engage in a personal relationship. It might be a casual or romantic love relationship.
It is important to get to know yourselves in every possible way before you move into a committed relationship. Often, individuals go in search of a relationship without this essential knowledge.
What are the red flags in a relationship?
If your partner engages in suspicious behavior, has addictive tendencies or is a part of illegal or unacceptable activities that haven’t been resolved and continue into your relationship, then these qualify as relationship red flags for guys or girls.
Learn to ask some questions out of the gate, the first or second time you meet someone before the love opinions are formed.
Most of us seem to do well when we have no real expectations of someone, that is we accept whatever actions the person takes because we hardly know who they are and are not yet trying to impress them.
Whether it is red flags in a new relationship or red flags of an unhealthy relationship, if you fail to see them, you are falling into a bad relationship or dragging a stifling relationship.
Below are some relationship red flags or indicators that something needs to be questioned or verified in the relationship.
It is one of the early relationship red flags if the other person is finding it hard to communicate with you; they find it quite difficult to talk about issues or express how they really feel about you. Often, whatever is “communicated” is expressed through their isolation or moods, and sometimes even through the “silent treatment.”
2. Lack of trust
It is another one of the evident relationship red flags when someone is not totally or even honest at all. If they are not honest with themself, don’t expect such a person to be honest with you.
A person who lies to you and holds himself or herself unaccountable for their actions lacks integrity and respect for you. If your partner just changes the truth when they don’t like the way a conversation is going, it is a clear red indicator.
Everyone makes mistakes, but when the person you have sworn to secrecy just happens to slip right in front of the one person you asked them not to, chances are that it wasn’t an accident.
If it happens more than one time, you have gotten yourself a bonafide frenemy. By watching out for such red flags in a relationship, you can leave for good and not risk hurting yourself irreparably.
3. Abusive words and actions
Any form of abuse,—verbal, emotional, psychological, and certainly physical—is a red flag telling you to get out of such a relationship immediately and never look back.
Fighting and disagreements are bound to occur in a relationship.
In fact, disagreements strengthen the relationship, but it is one of the alarming relationship red flags when in an argument or disagreement your partner turns into a monster by hurling abusive words at you or even abusing you physically.
By not paying heed to the controlling relationship red flags like the above, you are setting yourself up for some unpleasant surprises and a stab at your self-respect.
4. Feeling insecure in the relationship
You may feel you don’t know where you stand or belong in a relationship. That is, you feel uncomfortable, uncertain, or anxious about where the relationship is heading. Such insecurities in a relationship are one of the easiest to spot relationship red flags.
When you start feeling insecure and uncertain about a relationship, talk to your partner and ask where the relationship between the two of you is heading. If they are unable to give you a convincing answer or reply, please back out of the relationship. Such a person is toxic, avoid them.
Once your partner starts keeping secrets from you, it is a huge red flag in a relationship. Either he feels insecure about you or they do not trust you.
So, why give all of yourself to someone that cannot trust and rely on you, why waste your precious time as you give your all to someone who you are willing to share your secrets with but they are not ready to do the same?
By taking timely note of such relationship red flags you will save yourself a lot of despair.
Also, watch this video on lying and keeping secrets in a relationship:
6. Your partner wants you all for himself
Anyone who wants you all to themselves is likely someone worth running far, far away from.
Isolating you from your friends, family, coworkers or other people in your social network is one of the silent red flags in a relationship. Isolation can deeply impair your overall wellbeing and failing to take note of such relationship red flags is a sure-fire way to experience pain, anxiety, and despair.
They will go as far as hating your friends and making your friends hate you. They are constantly making comments in an attempt to get you to question your relationships with your friends or even family members.
They will go as far as restricting your movements to the confinements of their comfort only.
By keeping an eye out for such red flags before marriage, you will be able to formulate some defined deal-breakers and save yourself from an unhealthy, binding relationship.
7. Dark secretive past
Before getting intimate in a relationship, get a little background information about your new partner or pal. Get to know their past experiences, their past life, what they are or were doing before meeting you. Don’t brush off any of these red flags in relationships when dating.
If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.
Sylvia Smith loves to share insights on how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. As a writer at Marriage.com, she is a big believer in living consciously and encourages couples to adopt this principle in their lives too. Sylvia believes that every couple can transform their relationship into a happier, healthier one by taking purposeful and wholehearted action.