As it has been proved, “humans cannot thrive well in isolation of the mind, body and spirit”. It is essential for every human being to engage in a personal relationship. It might be a casual or a romantic love relationship. It is essential to get to know yourselves in every possible way before you move into a committed relationship. Often, individuals go in search of a relationship without this essential knowledge.
Learn to ask some questions out of the gate, the first or second time you meet someone, before the love opinions are formed. Most of us seem to do well when we have no real expectations of someone, that is we accept whatever actions the person takes because we hardly know who they are and are not yet trying to impress them.
Below are some relationship red flags or indicators that something needs to be questioned or verified in the relationship.
1. Poor communication
As it is earlier said, keeping effective and timely communication between two partners is a rule and it is vital for the growth and development of such relationship.
It is a complete red flag if the other person is finding it hard to communicate with you; they find it quite difficult to talk about issues or express how they really feel about you. Often, whatever is “communicated” is expressed through their isolation or moods, and sometimes even through the “silent treatment.”
2. Lack of trust
It is a red flag when someone is not totally or even honest at all. If he or she is not honest with himself or herself, don’t expect such a person to be honest with you. A person who lies to you and holds himself or herself unaccountable for their actions lacks integrity and respect for you. If your partner just changes the truth when they don’t like the way a conversation is going, it is a clear red indicator. Everyone makes mistakes, but when the person you have sworn to secrecy just happens to slip right in front of the one person you asked them not to, chances are that it wasn’t an accident. If it happens more than one time, you have gotten yourself a bonafide frenemy.
3. Abusive words and actions
Any form of abuse,—verbal, emotional, psychological, and certainly physical—is a red flag telling you to get out of such relationship immediately and never look back. Fighting and disagreements are bound to occur in a relationship. In fact, disagreements strengthens relationship, but it is a relationship red flag when in an argument or disagreement your partner turns into a monster by hurling abusive words at you or even abusing you physically.
4. Feeling insecure in the relationship
You may feel you don’t know where you stand or belong to in a relationship. That is, you feel uncomfortable, uncertain, or anxious about where the relationship is heading.
When you start feeling insecure and uncertain about a relationship, talk to your partner and ask where the relationship between the two of you is heading. If he or she is unable, to give you a convincing answer or reply, please back out of the relationship. Such a person is toxic, avoid them.
5. Your partner keeps secrets from you
Relationships are built on trust and open mindedness. Once your partner starts keeping secrets from you, it is a huge red flag in a relationship. Either he feels insecure about you or he does not trust you.
So, why give your all to someone that cannot trust and rely on you, why waste your precious time as you give your all to someone who you are willing to share your secrets with but they are not ready to do the same?
6. Your partner wants you all for himself
Anyone who wants you all to themselves is likely someone worth running far, far away from.
He or she will go as far as hating your friends and making your friends hate you. He or she is constantly making comments in an attempt to get you to question your relationships with your friends or even family members.
He or she will go as far as restricting your movements to the confinements of his or her comfort only.
7. Dark secretive past
Before getting intimate in a relationship, get a little background information about your new partner or pal. Get to know his past experiences, his past life, what he is or was doing before meeting you.
Behaviours that are suspected to be illegal activities, and addictive behaviours that haven’t been verified and resolved and continue into your relationship are obvious alert signs. You should not ignore anything that strikes you as strange, makes you feel uncomfortable or makes you feel uncertain about the personality of your partner.