As it is generally known; humans cannot survive in the isolation of the mind, spirit body and soul. We must always interact and relate with other people which is what makes us want to be relationships. There are a lot of relationships you can be in but Love relationship is the best type of relationship you can ever encounter. Love relationship can seem to be the easiest but it is the most complex kind of relationship you can ever be into.
Before engaging in a love relationship most people think about the kind of person they would like to date, they often list the qualities we most desire in a partner—their dealmakers. But more often than not, people tend to forget to set ‘deal breakers’ in relationships. Deal breakers are the qualities that would disqualify someone as a dating prospect, regardless of how many other wonderful traits and characters they have.
Below is a list of the top 13 essential deal breakers in a love relationship. If your answer is ‘yes’ to one or more of the following questions, please tread carefully in the relationship or walk away. If you walk away now, you will be able to save yourself years of struggle and heartache.
1. Does he or she abuse you?
Is there any form of abuse in the relationship? This should be a question you ask yourself. Does he abuse you physically, emotionally, socially, verbally? Does he put the blame on you or others for things he has done? Is there any history of abuse in his family? If yes, you are in love with a toxic person and it is dangerous to your body, mind, spirit and soul. Try as much to critically this question.
2. Does he or she have an alcohol or drug problem?
Is your spouse addicted to alcohol or hard drugs? Does he use alcohol or drugs to engage in activities? Does he use drugs to clear his mind whenever he is troubled? These are pertinent questions you have to ask if yourself before getting more intense in the relationship.
3. Is your partner supportive?
A relationship is useless if your spouse or partner is not supportive. If your partner is supportive and compatible with you, that is great but what if they insult you? If your partner insults and is ashamed of you for your appearance, weight, job, friends or lifestyle choices, they are being cruel and manipulative.
4. Are you your spouse’s priority?
Does your partner put you above everything else? Does he/she put maximum value on you? Does your spouse frequently bail on your plans to see his friends, and he never invites you along? Your spouse must make you his number 1 priority.
5. Does your spouse lie to you?
The most important aspect of a relationship is trust and without trust in a relationship, the relationship is nought. Mostly people lie to cover their backs. It’s super hurtful when you find out that your partner constantly lies to you.
6. Does he or she try to control you?
Some people can be very dominant and controlling in a relationship. Does your partner try to use his/her dominative power over you? If yes, back out!
7. Is your spouse in another relationship?
Always try to inquire whether your dating prospect is in another relationship with someone else. Don’t be the girl or guy who gets cheated on.
8. How is your spouse’s temperament?
You have to know whether your spouse is swift to getting angry and how he/she explodes whenever he is angry. Always learn to avoid people with a bad temperament (anger issues).
9. How well does your spouse communicate with you?
You don’t deserve to be with someone who is unwilling to talk to you about pertaining issues. Does he talk to you about whatever is wrong or right in the relationship? You should be with someone that knows how to communicate effectively with you.
10. Do you fight a lot?
To sustain a relationship, there must be arguments and disagreements in the relationship. But it mustn’t get too excessive, you must also consider how well your spouse handles disagreements, does he insult you whenever you are arguing? Does he beat you? Does he make you inferior in an argument? Evaluate those questions to know if you are in the right relationship.
11. What is your Instincts telling you?
Is your conscience telling you that the relationship will not work? You have to pay attention to your instincts. It happens so often that we feel that something is not right but don’t have legitimate reasons to explain that, and ultimately something bad actually happens. That is because our instincts are generally never wrong. So listen to your instincts.
12. Does your spouse have health issues?
A critical question you have to ask yourself before committing your mind and body into a relationship is whether your spouse has health issues such as STDs. Make sure your spouse has no hereditary diseases so that it will not be a stumbling block for you in the future.
13. Is your spouse inattentive or uncaring?
Does your spouse care less about your wellbeing? Does your spouse care less about what you are doing? Does your spouse prove too busy to make spare time to listen to you and do the things you do? Critically evaluate those questions to know whether to go on with the relationship or totally back out.