How to Create Romance in Marriage?
You cannot undermine the importance of romance in marriage. Few romantic gestures from either or both the partners keep the flame of love burning and can be considered one of the simple ways to make a marriage better.
Imagine sharing your life with the most unromantic person? Without romance in marriage, you will lose interest in spending time with your partner. Dissatisfaction will creep in, and the distance between you two will grow, leading to marriage separation, in some instances.
But, every marriage is unique. While the romance in marriage may come naturally for some, for most people, it takes forethought, energy, and effort. Love and passion are independent of romance; whereas in this context, romance is all about the doing.
It’s those small, deliberate activities and gestures that symbolize one’s affection.
Understanding the dynamics of marriage and romance
Romance is an ingredient we add to keep things fun and exciting. There are different ways to be romantic, which can be manifested through many activities, and it doesn’t have to cost a dime.
Whether your relationship has lost its romantic engine, or romance was never charging your relationship much, implementing a few subtle changes can yield significant benefit. Now, romance in marriage exists when both the partners are attracted to one another. There is nothing as beautiful as husband and wife romance.
If that spark is lacking in your life, then something is seriously wrong about your relationship. Lack of passion in a relationship or living in a sexless marriage can lead to infidelity, marital separation, and divorce, as mentioned earlier.
You may be surprised to hear that according to Nationally Representative U.S. Survey Data, 1 in 7 adults are living in a sexless marriage. Spouse unresponsiveness to one’s needs is yet another reason that has inspired partners to consider divorce as an easy way out of a passionless relationship.
And, there is another fact to surprise you, i.e., the term ‘sexless marriage’ is most searched in Google, over 21000 folks search for the same every month, according to NYTimes author Seth Stephens-Davidowich.
So you see romance in marriage is important. But if you are confused with how to be more romantic, you can always Google on romantic tips for married couples. You will get a plethora of best tips and advice to work on that lost passion in your marriage.
A book by Gregory Godek, entitled “1001 Ways to be Romantic” is recommended reading for couples wanting to know how to brings romance back into marriage and boost married couples romance.
Now, most experts will agree that you do not have to break your head, trying to figure out how to be romantic. After all, romance consists of little things –small but powerful gestures. These gestures will rekindle the lost charm and passion that once reign large in your marriage.
Also, read – The need to rebuild romance in marriage
Listed below are eight gestures to get you started on the path to a healthy, passion-filled love life.
How to bring romance back into a relationship
1. Bath towel
A woman will love you if you surprise her after her bath or shower with a pre-warmed bath towel, which you will then use to dry her off. Try it; it’s super sweet and romantic.
2. Love notes
Writing a short love note and placing it into his briefcase, or, into the book he’s reading, will pleasantly surprise him. When he’s done with the note, place it into a shoebox along with other memoirs. (You can even incorporate the memoir jar into a romantic surprise down the road)
3. Breakfast in bed
Bringing her breakfast in bed is an event she will cherish no matter how often you do it. Don’t forget to add her favorite garnish, or homemade espresso if she likes coffee, her favorite flower, and a love note.
4. Call her at work
Stevie Wonder said it best – “I just called to say I love you.” If he likes Stevie Wonder, you could even play the song to him or leave it as a message on his voicemail.
5. Take a class together
If there’s a special interest that you share, such as pottery, dance, or yoga, or, a brand new subject just for the heck of it – sign up for a class. Doing so can help you reconnect in a new way.
6. Back and foot rubs
These go a long way. Rubbing your partner’s feet or back brings intimacy and is a way of saying “I appreciate the hard work you do”.
7. Flower a day
Give her a flower every day as a way to remind her that she’s special. Remember that flowers have individual meanings. Better yet, give her flowers along with a guide so she can identify and trace back the meaning of each one.
8. Subscription service
For the workaholics or frequent travelers among us, a subscription service may be the ideal gift. If she loves truffles, for example, find a chocolate company that offers a subscription service for truffles.
The “truffle of the month” will always be delivered to the house. Every month when she receives her truffle, she’ll be reminded of your love while you’re away.
Also, read – Small gestures of love to strengthen relationships
Being creative is crucial to rekindling the lost romance in marriage
Note how your partner responds to the romantic gestures you introduce. Be creative and daring. Vary your strategy to incorporate themes you and your partner share. Use the above ideas as a guide to get you thinking, and modify them as you like to fit your unique relationship.
Have fun, and enjoy many blissful years to come.
Want to have a happier, healthier marriage?
If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.
Kelli H
Social Worker
Kelli Hastings is a writer, social worker, and proud advocate for women. She earned
her B.A. degree from the University of Oregon in 2007, and worked as a behavior
support specialist and program manager. She is inspired to support couples,
teach them skills that lead to healthy, happy and romantic partnerships. Her interests include cognitive behavioral therapy, mindfulness, visualization practice, and related therapies.
