A Guide to Romantic Gestures for Him and Her

Whether you’ve been together for decades or are just embarking on a new romance, romantic gestures are important for both men and women.

We usually think that it is only the woman who craves romantic gestures—such as her partner showing up with a huge bouquet of long-stemmed red roses—but guess what? Guys need these, too.

So let’s celebrate love by looking at his and her guide on how to be romantic.

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Romantic gestures for him

Showing your love through actions and words is important wherever you are in a relationship. These acts reinforce your loving bond and keep it vibrant.

What are some great romantic gestures for your husband?

• Touch  

And we aren’t just talking about being intimate in the bedroom. Men are tactile creatures and love when their special someone touches them.

Put your hand up to his cheek while telling him he is looking especially hot today. Can you sense he is tense? Why not slip behind him while he is at his PC and start a deep tissue shoulder massage? How long has it been since you’ve taken a walk hand in hand?

Touching both sexually and non-sexually—is both sweet and romantic and a non-verbal way to convey your loving feelings to your partner.

• Compliment him daily

Another romantic gesture is to give your partner at least one compliment a day.

Appreciating your partner is easy enough to do and goes a long way in boosting his self-esteem and making him feel like the king of the world.

“I love that sweater on you, it brings out your gorgeous eyes,” or “It sounds like you handled that problem at work with your usual brilliance” are just a couple of examples of nice things you can tell your partner that will send a message that you are paying attention to him.

• Tune in to him when he is talking to you

With our busy lives, it is easy to fall into the multitasking trap.

How many of us half-listen to our guy while scrolling through messages or posting a photo on our Instagram feed?

Listening effectively is a small romantic gesture but one packed with appreciation.

So the next time your husband recounts his day at the office to you, put aside your phone. Turn towards him, look him in the eye and be present for what he is sharing with you.

Acknowledge what he is saying by nodding your head, saying, “I see,” or just smiling, all while keeping eye contact. You will find yourself connecting purely, undiluted by distracting electronics.

Romantic gestures for her

Wondering how to be more romantic with your wife or girlfriend? Here are some romantic gestures that make her feel seen, heard, appreciated, and loved.

• Just like you, your wife or girlfriend adores being complimented.

Even if you have seen her in that dress a thousand times, tell her she still rocks it. If she comes home from the beauty salon, tell her how gorgeous she looks with this new hairstyle.

It is important to offer compliments that highlight her talents, too.

What is a romantic gesture but simply telling her how much you appreciate how good she is with the children, or with your parents? Tell her you are proud of the job she is doing at work.

Romantic gestures need not be compliments on just her physical looks, but also on who she is at her core.

Also watch: How to compliment a woman.

• Communicate genuinely

Women are verbal creatures and love a good discussion. A good deep talk can be a lovely romantic gesture.

Taking time to share your thoughts each evening puts a pause on the day’s hectic activity and gives you both a moment to draw closer.

We all appreciate being heard and acknowledged, so taking the time to talk is a small but important part of showing your partner you love her and value her input.

Remember, when she is blowing off steam about something that annoyed her at the office, she isn’t looking for you to fix it. She merely wants you to hear her.

“That sounds awful” or “I can understand why you’d be upset by that” are examples of good responses when she is in a full-blown rant.

• A surprise gift  

A surprise gift can be a simple romantic gesture. Send flowers to her workplace for no reason but that you were thinking of her. They will be doubly-appreciated because they are out of the blue.

Pick up a funny card that reminds you of her and slip it into her book on the nightstand. This romantic gesture will touch her!

The surprise doesn’t have to break your budget or be over-the-top to be romantic. Sometimes taking out the garbage without having to be asked can be ones of the great ideas for romantic gestures, enough to win you some points!

• Support her self-improvement endeavors

A meaningful romantic gesture is getting behind her campaign to better herself.

Is she taking up running? Remind her to set out her running gear the night before so she can get up and go out quickly.

Is she trying out a whole foods diet? Go all-in with her and don’t bring home the candies and ice cream.

The point is to show her that you support her efforts and will provide her with whatever she needs to these successful. How sweet and romantic is that.

Romantic gestures show that you went the extra mile to bring joy to your partner, and as cliched as they might appear, simple romantic gestures are proof of your love for your companion.

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