Long-term relationships can fail for many reasons. Sometimes, couples can grow apart. They can become bored with the relationship, or simply halt in their efforts to respect, understand, and communicate with one another.
One of the most crucial, and yet overlooked aspects of a successful and fulfilling long term relationship is the presence of romance.
Marriage and romance must co-exist for a marriage to be happy and fulfilling. Being romantic in a relationship is often what a marriage needs to survive.
This article aims to express the importance of romance and gives practical tips and relationship advice on how to be romantic in a relationship, add or rekindle the romance in a relationship.
What’s so great about romance?
Knowing how to be romantic would energize your relationship. Romance is the fuel that keeps a fire burning. It is the small and yet meaningful gestures, the comical, the happy, the silly, the crazy.
It’s those events that leave lasting memories, enhance bonds, and work to maintain a sense of connectedness.
And, when you have fun doing it, what have you got to lose? Try new ways to be romantic and show how much you appreciate each other.
When love is new
Consider what you did to keep your partner’s interest, to impress her, in the first few months of dating. You probably went out of your way to look your best, maybe cooked his favorite dish, and even participated in some of your least favorite activities just for him (like the playoffs or poker night).
Let’s face it – you were putting plenty of effort in finding new ways of being romantic in that relationship then; probably much more than you are now.
As time goes on, it’s only natural that couples “forget” that these activities that used to raise butterflies were in fact created through hard work and discipline –even if you didn’t realize it.
Do not rest on your laurels
You should not become complacent when things are going well. In fact, this time might be even more critical as time goes on. The time elapsing by itself doesn’t equal love increasing. No romance in relationship only pushes you two further apart.
Adding romance can rekindle the love between you. So, spruce up your appearance like you did in the good old days; impress your partner with a renewed sense of energy and confidence.
All this talk about being romantic in a relationship, but have you ever wondered how to do romance? how to create romance? or how to add romance to a relationship?
To recreate romance or a romantic act, start by remembering the person you were before you got married. What were your interests? Taking care of yourself first and reinventing your own identity can bring you in touch with your motivation and inner creativity.
Though it may seem counterintuitive; it takes knowing and loving yourself first, before you can begin to truly romance your partner.
Next, consider your partner’s interests, personality and sense of humor. Would she benefit from a day trip? Is she into comedy? Is she sensual? Does she just love Porky Pig? Whatever these may be, answers to these questions will ultimately yield the key to your approach.
Starting out small can yield big changes. Placing a live note in his briefcase, calling her from the office, or playing her favorite song into her voicemail, are small ways to start reintroducing romance with the addition of a little fun.
Starting with a few quirky and creative acts of love, you can dive in headfirst or test out the waters – either way, your journey is to figure out what impulsive gestures gain momentum.
Up the ante
Once you are in the habit of initiating those small and spontaneous acts of love, it’s time to break out the big guns. It does not have to cost a fortune, either.
Here are just a few ideas on how to make your relationship more romantic:
- Give your lover flowers
- Create your own “Love Coupons”
- Give your partner a random and unexpected foot bath
- Give cheesy greeting cards
- Give chocolate
- Decorate your room with rose petals
- Send her truffles
- Read a poem you’ve chosen into their voicemail.
- Subscribe to a truffle, perfume, or magazine they love
- Read aloud to one another
Rules and milestones
Romantic people often have a set of guidelines they keep to. Sound silly? For the romantics at heart, the rules of romance should be taken seriously and adhered to at all times. For example:
- Give gifts only when wrapped – an unwrapped gift is a disgrace to the truly romantic – unless it is given creatively.
- Remember important dates
- Know your partner’s favorites
Milestones in your relationship, as well as events that were noteworthy for your partner, make for great excuses to celebrate. On the occasion of your first kiss, for example, you could present your chocolate-loving partner with a jewelry box filled with Hershey’s kisses.
Each kiss could be wrapped with custom “ribbons” in place of the original Kiss ribbons, that provide statements or fortunes that are unique to your relationship.
Alternatively, you could place a cheesy note that says – “I hereby present the recipient with a lifetime supply of kisses”, or “kisses for my partner, to remind us that every time is like the first time…”
Reminiscing is the simple act of pulling out those old photos, family videos, or simply sitting together with a glass of wine and reliving those good old times. Doing so is bound to bring laughter and rekindle those old fashioned feelings as you relive past moments.
Being romantic in a relationship is not something that comes naturally for everyone. But it is fun to practice. Once you get the hang of it, your friends and married acquaintances will want to know your secret.
Maintaining creative gestures of romance will remind your partner of your love for him or her, and can enhance the bond between you for years to come.