Relationships are not simply about being physically intimate; they are a lot more that involve love, trust, respect, and commitment. Apart from being physically intimate with your partner, it is important that the two of you are able to connect through emotional intimacy.
A great way to achieve emotional intimacy is by having intimate conversations. Intimate conversations are simply about being together and enjoying each other’s company. Such conversations are a great way to strengthen bonds between partners and enhance their feelings towards each other.
Listed down below are a few ways that you can use to have intimate conversations with your partner.
1. Be the one to initiate the conversation
Do not feel embarrassed or ashamed and instead, be the first one to initiate the talk. Be the first one to ask questions, tell details about yourself and you will find that in no time, your partner will follow and adding in their own part to the conversation.
2. Be vulnerable
Put away all fears and worries when you talk to your partner. Be open and honest with whatever you say and be brave enough to share.
Fearing to lose your partner over your vulnerability displays lack of trust.
3. Share secrets with each other
Relationships require each of the partners to be completely honest and candid with each other. Many experts recommended couples to share secrets that they would otherwise never share with each other. Opening up a deep secret is a great way to get closer to your partner.
4. Appreciate and show gratitude
Feel free to tell your partner how grateful you are to have them in your life. Tell them how much you value the time you spend with them and how much this relationship means to you.
5. Be a comfort for them
Be a supporter if your partner shares something that has been disturbing them or has affected them in a certain way. Let them know you will always be by their side and hold them up no matter what and help them move past the incidents that bother them.
6. Have practical expectations for the session
Intimate conversations are simply not being all lovey-dovey but instead can be something more meaningful. Engage in talks about finances, family, children, even wills. These are all subjects that show that both of you are willing to further invest in this relationship and wish to see it last forever.
7. Share details about your childhood or any other time you hold important
Talking about your childhood or time before you met your partner is a great way to show your partner how you were before they stepped into your life. It helps you reflect as well as allows them to see how much you’ve grown, learned and changed yourself over the years.
8. Tell each other about the moment you fell in love with each other
During these moments of tenderness, it is good to share and tell your partner about the moment when you fell for them.
It could’ve been the tiniest of moments when you realized they were the ‘one,’ but it was so meaningful for you.
9. Tell your partner why you love them
Share with each other the reasons why you love each other. We love our significant other for everything, but there are always a few things that remind us over and over again why we chose this person such as their smile, the color of their eyes, the way they talk, etc.
10. Ask many questions
Ask everything you wish to know about your partner. Ask them about their life before they met you, about their plans for the future and anything that you feel would help you understand them better.
11. Connect mentally and physically
While sitting there and talking, it could be of further help if the two of you gazed into each other’s eyes every now and then or hold hands or anything small physically gesture. This could help knit the two of you further close and enhance the status of your relationship.
12. Be yourself
All in all, be yourself! Be the person you are at heart and do not try to change yourself just for the sake of your partner to like you.
Your partner should love you and accept you for who you are and not the façade you put up. Similarly, you should love and accept your partner for who they are without trying to change them or fix their flaws.
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