Types of Romantic Relationships That a Person Encounters in a Lifetime
Love is one of those very few feelings that have a plethora of different definitions. People belonging from different backgrounds or in different parts of the world define/describe love in different ways. For some, love requires the beloved to be within reach. The meetups, the get together, the need to be in touch at all times is a must; and then for others, love is a mere promise. They find solitude, strength, hope, and freedom by being in love. All in all, there are several types of romantic relationships.
In a nutshell, it can be said that love chains some and frees a few.
If you thought that being in a relationship is hard work, then welcome to another level; keeping track of which part of the relationship do you have. Suffice it to say that a lot of people feel flabbergasted upon finding out that there are more than the handful types of romantic relationships they know about.
Well, there is no consensus when it comes to types of romantic relationships as well. Plato and Aristotle gambled with Greek relationships and its history and named seven types of relationships as:
Out of these infamous seven, only three types of romantic relationships have been able to fight the test of time and survive for the millennials to argue and fight over; namely:
1. Eros (Passion)
Eros is all about passion. Believed to be the result of a hit from a cupid’s bow, Eros can result in disastrous outcomes. The most famous being the Trojan War; where Paris fell in love with Hellen, leading to the fall of Troy. Passion without a sliver of thought or rational can have catastrophic conclusions.
Eros is what drives our media industry and thrives in the lives of the millennials. It is all about impulsive thinking, attractions, and acting without thinking much about the consequences.
2. Ludus (Fun)
The millennials call it a more of a casual relationship or being in an open relationship. It is merely flirting, laughs, dancing, a little seduction, and conjugation. Ludus works best when both parties involved are mature, relaxed and do not mistake Ludus for Eros.
When it comes to Ludus, the goal is having fun and being in a relationship that is not demanding, that does not require a lot of work or is not that complicated.
3. Pragma (Practicality)
Pragma, as the name suggests, is all about practicality. Impulse takes a back seat here. The couple involved thinks about the long process, the long road, and how their presence will be an essential part of the other’s life.
Unlike today, in the days when arranged marriages were the thing, Pragma must have thrived as personal growth, shared goals, and compatibility was focused upon instead of sexual attraction.
Although Pragma is not that common these days, however, it can still be seen trickling its way down in several high profile celebrity or political marriages.
People have been debating the different types of romantic relationships for quite some time. Ever since Adam and Eve to this modern day, there has been a multitude of romantic stories cropping up from all different parts of the world. Though the ancient Greeks have done their fair share of research and study on the matter of the heart and have tried to explain the best types of romantic relationships; however, modern psychologists have attempted to list down a handful of other romantic relationships as well, which can prove to be helpful if you are trying to determine where you stand with your significant other.
1. The first love
The first person whom you fell in love with or crushed over, whatever, is always special (whether you like it or not). That relationship will pave the road to all the future ones to follow.
2. The one that got away
This relationship is generally the closest to the heart and one which will be the Titanic of one’s soul; always there, always present, but hidden and locked away from the world.
3. The rebound
After your first love and the one that got away comes the rebound. It usually occurs when you are fresh out of heartbreak and are still nursing some deep bruises. You are essentially looking for some validation and do not really care about where it comes from.
4. Controlling partner/Clingy or toxic relationships
This one is a no brainer. The person who is either extremely clingy or just want to be in the know-how of your whereabouts at all times; such a toxic relationship only defines the uncertainty and lack of trust. In such cases, there is no room for growth and the relationship becomes overbearing or suffocating.
5. The ONE
Here comes our knight in the shining armor (and no, a knight in shining armor does not mean the dragon slaying and ninja fighting the pickpockets) rather the one whose mere words, presence, or thought can make our worries, pain, and tears fade away. The one who will make all the heartbreak, the long lonely nights, and crying into our pillows worth the wait.
These are the types of romantic relationships there are. You should now be able to make out which type of romantic relationship you are in and where your relationship is headed.
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