20 Best Sex Positions to Connect with Your Spouse

Sex is one of the most wonderful and intimate activities that you and your spouse can share.

It enhances your bond, increases your desire for each other, promotes good health, and offers the ability to embrace calls of desires from your spouse, which are all gifts from God.

If you are a newlywed couple starting to experiment on getting to know each other’s bodies, or if you need some new sexual positions to reconnect with your spouse.

We have curated the 20 best sex positions for married couples to reconnect with each other!

1. Missionary

Why: Ok, so this might not be a new sex position to try, but the classic missionary is not classic for no reason!  

This is a list of the “best sex positions to connect with your spouse” after all, and there’s nothing more intimate, nothing closer, nothing more comforting than missionary style, which is why it is in the top spot in our 20 best sexual positions.

Benefit: We have to give credit to this classic position for the intimacy it provides to the couples.

In this position, you can look into each other’s eyes while making love.

And there’s nothing sweeter than looking into your lover’s eyes as you make love.

Technique: In this position, the woman lies on her back with her legs lying flat on the bed. The husband enters her while in this position.

Tip: You can give this position a twist by putting a little pillow under the woman’s buttocks to elevate her a little more. This twist offers deeper penetration, which is good for when you are trying to conceive.

Another twist you can do in this position is to lie on the bed facing each other; the woman can wrap her legs over the hips of her husband.

2. Spooning

Why: When you’re both tired from working all day but are both feeling frisky, you can both enjoy the relaxing way that spooning lets you be intimate with your spouse.

Benefit: It helps men relax, but still gives them full access to their woman.

Technique: How do you do this position?

Lay down side by side to each other; the husband is behind the wife, he enters her.

Tip: Try switching positions so that you get to experience being the little and the big spoon.

3. Cowgirl

Why: Otherwise known as girl-on-top, and it’s number 3 in the 20 best sex positions to try with your spouse.  This position is one of those that offers partners face-to-face access to kiss and smile at each other!

Benefit: This is a favorite among women because it helps them have faster, multiple, and more intense orgasms.

And not only that, this position seems to raise the confidence of women, having been rated as the position they feel sexiest being in.

Technique: As the name suggests, in the position the man lays on the bed while the woman mounts him and grinds like she is riding a horse.

Tip: When lying on the bed the guy can thrust his hips to achieve deeper penetration.

4. Cuddle squat

Why: There’s nothing that satisfies those cuddle cravings more than tangling up your legs with your partners’.

Benefit: This position also gives you face to face access to your partner.

Technique: To perform this position, the husband should be sitting down facing his spouse. The woman is set to sit on top of her spouse’s erection; she then bounces up and down. 

Tip: It’s the most perfect ‘cuddle squat’ you could do with your spouse!

5. 69

Why: Performing oral sex acts (fellatio for males and cunnilingus for females) is one of the most intimate things that you can do to your spouse.

Performing such an act requires so much vulnerability. When you’re vulnerable to your partner, there would be no difficulty for you to share each other in this position.

Benefit: This position was rated by women as one of the most in which they feel most connected to their partner. It might be because of the amount of vulnerability involved in this position.

And there’s probably nothing that says “I want you” or “I crave you” than having your faces in front of each other’s genitals.

Technique: In this position, one of the partners lies on top of another while facing each other groin region. Maintain a little space between you and your partner sitting on all fours so as to allow easy breathing.

Tip: You can try this position by lying on the bed, side by side.

6. The koala

Why: Great for spicing up your sex life.

Benefit: It’s an exceptional, intimate, and satisfying position, which if it wasn’t a little bit difficult might have found its way closer to the top of the list of 20 best sex positions for couples.  

Technique: By its name, you can probably tell how this position is done.

Let your husband carry you as you drape your arms over his shoulders and your legs over his hips. Husbands should position their hands as if catching your spouse’s buttocks to support her as you enter her.

Tip: The difficulty of this position might be 8 out of 20, with 20 being the most difficult, but if your husband likes carrying you, why not give this position a try tonight?

7. The kneel

Why: The kneel sex position is a simple, intimate sex position.

Benefit: The beauty of this unique sex position is that you get close enough to your spouse as if in the missionary position, face to face with your hands-free to touch each other as well.

Technique: As the name implies, you and your husband will be in a kneeling position facing each other. Whether you do it on the bed or the floor, it’s your choice.

Tip: For partners with drastically different heights, the shorter partner can kneel on thick pillows or blankets to bring both partner’s pelvises more in line.

8. Spider

Why: Among our list of 20 best sex positions, this one may sound the trickiest of all.

Benefit: The best part of this themed position is the woman can take control – mirroring a spider catching a fly in their carefully-spun web.

Technique: To do this hot sex position, the man sits with his legs stretched out and leans back resting on his hands for support. The woman sits straddling him, facing her husband.

She also leans back on her hands and can use them to help her rock back and forth

Tip: Mix it up with long, sweet kisses, and opening and shutting your knees as you see fit.

9. Reclining lotus

Why: This intimate position is very close to the missionary.

Benefit: You can modify this position to vary the angle of penetration.

To do so, you can place a pillow under the wife’s buttocks. The pillow can also provide a support system in case of the husband tires from his initial position.

Technique: While lying back on the bed, the woman’s legs should come close to her chest, as if doing the child’s pose with her feet in the air. The husband then supports his weight on his arms and penetrates his wife from the top.

Tip: Another variation that you can do to deepen the penetration is to put your wife’s ankles over your shoulder.

10. Splitting bamboo

Why: Splitting bamboo is a classic Kama Sutra sex position that adds a nice little twist to the missionary position.

Benefit: Splitting bamboo is a relatively comfortable position that leaves both of your wife’s hands-free to caress herself or her spouse.

Technique: To achieve this couple’s sexual position, the wife should be lying on her back with one leg stretched out and the other resting on her spouse’s shoulder.

Tip: For a more straightforward example, the legs of the woman should be in an L-shaped position. The man straddles her thigh while holding on to his spouse’s raised leg to balance himself.

11. Lapdance

Why: Inspired by an actual lapdance, this position is number 11 on our best sex positions list.

Benefit: Rather than jumping right to sex, you and your spouse can indulge in some striptease and intensify the passion you are about to experience.

Technique: In this sexual position for married couples, the women grind her buttocks against her husband’s groin just like a stripper would.

Tip: Switch roles with your partner so the both of you get to enjoy the position to its fullest.

12. Man chair

Why: This delicate, light and incredibly intimate position is perfect for two romantic natures who like to experiment.

Benefit: It’s a great position for super-deep penetration!

Technique: The position is as it sounds, the man or the husband sits on the edge of a bed, chair, or even a stair while the women sit on top of him as she would on a chair with her back facing her husband.

Tip: Swaying movements and the lovers focused on this pleasurable process are the key features of this exotic position.

13. Little dipper

Why: Great way to burn some calories.

Benefit: A bit difficult position for the wife, but if done right, it offers easy penetration and resembles a ‘T’ formation.

Technique: The husband lies on the back with his legs stretched out while the wife sits on him with her legs closed and stretched out towards her husband’s head.

Tip: An alternative way to perform the Little Dipper that will allow you to last a little bit longer is to just hold yourself in position while your man thrusts in and out.

14. Golden gate

Why: Another adaptation of the classic ’69’ position.

Benefit: There is something mysterious and enticing in this position, it can not be called comfortable, especially for the woman, but maybe, if we take such position, the world will turn upside down, as well as feelings.

Technique: In this husband and wife’s sex position, the wife sits on her husband’s face and then archer back to taker her husband in her mouth.

Tip: Again, a very difficult position to achieve and sustain, it definitely requires a lot of flexibility.

15. Butter churner

Why: An advanced sex position to know how nimble you are.

Benefit: Blood rushing to the head can intensify the orgasm.

Technique: Here the woman is lying on her back with her legs raised up and curled above her head to form a ‘C’, exposing her vagina. Then the guy squats over her and inserts his penis.

Tip: Men need to be cautious in this position, as vigorous thrusting could cause neck injuries.

16. Ballet dancer

Why: A quite simple position where both the partners are standing up.

Benefit:  It is great for sex within tight quarters or quickies in semi-public areas.

Technique: The woman raises one of her legs to allows the man to penetrate her and then for support wraps her raised leg around the guy’s waist.

Tip: The guy holds onto the women to offer her balance and support.

17. Hoover maneuver

Why: This position can get a bit tricky but can be very electrifying if you get it right.

Benefit: Great for deep penetration and losing some calories.

Technique: Her the guy while standing up penetrates his partner from behind; the partner then extends her arms forward fro support while the guy picker her up from her pelvic region.

Tip: It is helpful if the women wrap her legs around the guys back after he picks her up.

18. Thighmaster

Why: Fun and frisky position to mix things up.

Benefit: The steady rocking motion and thrusting create a pleasure buildup that primes you for the Big O.

Technique: Opposite of the splitting bamboo, in this position, the guy lies on his back with one leg, stretched out while the other bent at the knee.

Then women then squat and straddle herself onto his bent leg and leave enough room for penetration.

Tip: In this pose, your stomach is almost touching his bent knee; use it for support and leverage as you rock back and forth, and up and down.

19. The socket

Why: An extension of the reverse cowgirl.

Benefit: The position can cater to you foot fetish if you have one.

Technique: In this different sex position, the guy is lying on his back while the woman sits on top of him with her back facing him.

She then bends all the way forward and stretches her legs, giving the guy a great view of her butt.

Tip: If you find it tiring keeping your waist held upwards, then try putting a pillow under your back to give you some support.

20. Standing O

Why: Another one of the oral sex positions that couples must try.

Benefit: The essence of consummation is to bring married couples even closer to each other.

This is also to teach us that as partners, the husband and wife should be able to find comfort in each other’s bodies to share in one of the most beautiful gifts that God has given us.

Technique: Here one of the partners stands upright while the other goes down on their knees to perform oral stimulation.

The partner standing up then wraps one of their leg around their partner kneck. To make the struggle even, you can also restrain the hand of the partner standing up and tie them up to a beam keeping their hands out of reach.

Tip: Feel free to lean on a wall or other surface behind or in front of you for support.

We hope that these good sex positions will help you enhance your closeness further.