You don’t feel the same passion in your relationship anymore. It doesn’t excite you, and you don’t feel wild like you used to. The magic is gone. Simply put, there is no spark left in your relationship. Now the question comes, what to do when the spark is gone?
What is the spark?
Remember how you get butterflies in your stomach when you talk to someone you like. How wild you want to be when you’re with them.
The magical show you witness when you’re in love. Well, that’s the birdie we call spark, those butterflies, that wildness, and that pretty magic.
You have shuffled your priority list, and now your partner is out of it.
Less or no communication about your feelings with your better half.
You don’t feel attracted to them like you used to.
Reasons your relationship has lost its spark
Many relationships go through tough times and revive, but some things can hurt your relationship and turn it into a passionless relationship.
Here are a few reasons that might be the reason why there is no spark in your relationship now:
True love and intimacy are about being honest. If you are not entirely yourself with your partner, you will hold things back from your partner. Dishonesty can leave a noticeable scar on trust and can wound your relationship.
If you do not have enough action in the bedroom, you might lose that spark sooner than you estimated. You need to keep things hot there.
You are not spending enough time with your partner. You are not making any valuable or happy memories with them.
You have accepted your relationship as it is, and you have stopped trying to do anything new for a breath of fresh air.
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Signs that the spark is gone
There are pretty high chances that you’re not even sure if you have lost the spark in the relationship or it’s just you overthinking everything. So to help you out, here are some signs of not being in love anymore:
You two lovebirds don’t go on dates anymore. Yes, dates do matter.
You two don’t hold each other’s hands. Those gentle and sweet touches have gone ‘poof.’
You criticize each other on every little thing.
Your sex life is wilting like its winter out there.
You don’t make an effort to make each other happy.
You’d instead appreciate the idea of having fun with your friends rather than your partner.
Now that you have read the above signs, below is what to do when the spark is gone.
Go on a movie date or a dinner date. Surprise them with little gifts.
If you don’t usually do it, then dress up for them. These little things are more than little. They make a notable impact, which could be good for your relationship.
10. Don’t set false expectations
More importantly, always remember that not every day will be magical. Somedays, you will feel tired, or your partner will feel down. And that’s the time when they’ll want you to understand them and support them.
Relationships are dynamic. They’ll need your continuous attention and effort. Don’t let the movie world tell you otherwise.
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