If you are in love with a married man, you need to be on the lookout for unclear or ambiguous answers.
If they promise to leave his wife, ask when and ask for proof. Words alone shouldn’t be enough.
5. If he divorces, your relationship will change too
Falling in love with a married man is different than being in a relationship with them after the divorce.
They will be confused, ashamed, relieved probably, but overall processing a lot. This will affect your relationship with them; hence it won’t feel the same as it did initially.
6. Very likely he won’t leave his wife
Feeling attracted to a married man can have you unconsciously increasing the odds of you being together. The truth is that his marriage is, for a long time now, is a unhappy marriage, yet he is still in it.
Yes, you might be the turning point. However, if he is not ending it within a few months of getting together with you, his chances of leaving his partner decrease more and more as time goes by.
Also, ending his marriage might effectively end your relationship too. If either of you were giving him all he needed, he wouldn’t need both relationships.
This might hurt to hear, but it can help you prepare for what is to come.
Also watch: Why there is no future in loving a married man
7. Their marital problems are not all on her
Being in love with a married man doesn’t let you know him for real, cause you know how it is to be with the married him, not the single him.
Although he might put the marital problems on his partner, he has a share of the responsibility. Have that in mind when picturing the future with him.
8. Be honest with yourself
Surely, falling for a married man wasn’t in your plans. Beating yourself about it won’t help you resolve the situation.
If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.
Milica Markovic has graduated from the Faculty of Philosophy with a degree in Clinical Psychology. She has 7 years (and counting) of Psychotherapy and Coaching education (both Transactional Analysis and Psychology of Personal Constructs) and experience in working with clients. Throughout her career, she has had remote clients around the world facing various personal, academic, or professional challenges.
She finds her primary duty is to establish a trusting environment in which clients can feel safe enough to discuss anything that might be troubling them and grow closer to their goals. She believes that whether you are experiencing a personal, relationship related, or professional challenge, the journey to surpassing it can be made easier with the right help by your side.
Milica is also a strong advocate of lifelong learning and continuous improvement.