A loveless and unhappy marriage is the worst marriage ever. Love is the very basis, the bedrock and the foundation of marriage. Without it, a marriage is lifeless, unhealthy and should be put to an end.
Marriage is a relationship that is meant to be enjoyed not endured. If you’re not exactly blissful and happy in your marriage, you are not alone. “Only 60 percent of people are happy in their unions” according to the National Opinion Research Center.
It might be extremely difficult to tell if you are in an unhappy marriage, especially if you have been in the relationship for a very long time. While you may not say out loud that you are in a loveless and unhappy marriage, there are some signs that shows the fact that the marriage is a loveless and unhappy one.
Below are some of the signs that you are in a loveless and unhappy marriage:
1. Ineffective communication skills and structure
Just like communication is the very life of a healthy relationship, the lack of it means that the relationship is unhealthy and about to die. You don’t talk to each other face to face even if you are around each other. You prefer to use signs and texts instead of verbal communication.
You will not be able to communicate effectively in an unhappy marriage. This means you don’t really have anything to say to your partner anymore. When something comes up in life, whether that’s an accomplishment, event or an incident and your partner isn’t the first person you’re sharing it with. There is something wrong in the relationship.
2. No more active and healthy arguments
If you’ve given up on arguing with your partner, but feel distanced more than ever, it’s a sign that you are in a loveless and unhappy marriage. Fights lead to greater love intensity if the couple processes the fight and repairs the relationship.
When you lose hope of ever changing your husband or wife or helping them see their flaws, you’re in the loveless and unhappy marriage. Over time, there are little annoyances which could lead to arguments in your relationship but if resolved strengthen the relationship. But if you don’t seem to influence your partner regarding the lifestyle he or she chooses to live, you are in an unhappy relationship.
3. You don’t visualize a future together
What good is a marriage if you can’t visualize a future together? Married partners are in it for good, and foreseeing a future together especially a future with loads of happiness and hope, is essential. If you don’t visualize a future together, there are chances that there is no love in your marriage.
Also, if you often visualize a happy future without your partner, that’s a major sign that things aren’t right in the marriage. You try to convince yourself that you don’t care anymore so that the eventual separation feels less painful.
4. You live separate lives
You don’t live as a couple anymore. You live separate lives, and you’re both satisfied with that kind of existence.
Rather you choose to do things on your own without consulting your partner. In an unhappy marriage, both of you don’t understand each other and are not willing to offer a shoulder to each other.
You don’t ask your partner about his or her opinion about decisions anymore. When you need to invest or purchase an asset or go shopping? When married, your partner takes over the role of being your friend and advisor to crucial decisions. If they aren’t, it is obvious that there is no happiness in the marriage anymore.
5. No more sex or physical affection in the marriage
One warning sign of an unhappy marriage is that you don’t have sex with your partner anymore. If both of you are sexually active and you are having sex less than 10 times a year, it is a sign of a loveless unhappy marriage.
When you don’t show how much you love your partner physically like kissing, hugging, cuddling, it is a huge sign of an unhappy relationship.
6. You feel insecure in the marriage
When you feel you don’t know where you stand or belong to, in a marriage. You doubt your stance in the marriage. When you feel uncomfortable, uncertain, or anxious about where the marriage is heading, it is a clear sign of an unhappy marriage.
7. You don’t seem connected to each other anymore
The moment you are together but not really together, it’s a clear indicator of an unhappy marriage. You can be in the same room, but one of you is reading, one of you is working on the computer. You don’t feel connected to each other even if you still sleep together in the same bed.
If you find that you’re never actively engaging together, you’re both together, but you are alone doing your own thing, that’s an indication that you are not connected to each other anymore.