Holding on to toxic relationships can adversely affect your mental and physical well-being. But, understanding if a relationship is toxic or healthy is not easy to figure out, especially for those who are in an unhealthy relationship.
However, just because you have frequent arguments and issues with your partner does not categorize your relationship as a toxic one.
Every relationship has positives and negatives. When the negatives heavily outweigh the positives is when a relationship can be called an unhealthy relationship. If you are wondering if you are in a healthy relationship, take this quiz and find out.
1. What do you do when your partner has had a bad day?
A. I comfort them and try to do things to help them relax
B. I just listen to them if they want to talk about it
C. I leave them alone and give them space
D. I say “I told you so!”
2. You hear your partner is going to a party you haven’t been invited to. How do you react?
A. I stay calm because I know they won’t go without me
B. Nothing; they can go alone
C. I feel disappointed
D. I start a fight
3. You notice your partner texts a lot and stops suddenly when you enter the room. What do you do?
A. I ask them sincerely to discuss the situation with me
B. I tell them I feel bothered by this
C. I do nothing
D. I check their phone secretly
4. Your partner invites you to a romantic dinner but you already have planned to go out with friends. What do you do?
A. I politely ask him or her to reschedule
B. I give up on going out with friends
C. I tell my partner that I can’t cancel on my friends
D. I get angry and walk out
5. How often do you have a good laugh with your partner?
A. Every single day
B. Every few days
C. Maybe once a week
D. Rarely
6. Do you resist checking your phone when you are dining with your partner?
A. Absolutely and it is not a problem
B. I resist because I know it's bad not being completely present
C. I resist reluctantly
D. No, I think it's normal to check my phone whenever I feel like
7. How often do you say exactly how you feel in an argument?
A. All the time
B. Sometimes
C. Rarely
D. Never
8. Do you hold a grudge after having an argument?
A. Never
B. Rarely
C. Sometimes
D. Often
9. Your partner plans a vacation without considering your opinions. What do you do?
A. I compromise and try to see the best in this situation
B. I politely tell them I don't like the idea
C. We go on vacation separately
D. I reproach them endlessly
10. How much do you respect your partner’s way of being and life choices?
A. A lot
B. Moderately
C. Not much
D. Now that I am thinking about it, not at all
11. Do you resolve your problems before going to bed?
A. Yes, totally
B. Yes, most of the time
C. We try to resolve things over time
D. We move on without resolving things
12. Have you spoken to your partner about things that bother you about them?
A. Yes, totally
B. Yes, sometimes
C. In rare moments
D. Not until we are fighting
13. Do you envision a future with your partner?
A. Yes, totally
B. Yes, sometimes
C. I’m not sure
D. Not really
14. Are you able to give each other space in the relationship?
A. Yes, it enhances our relationship
B. Yes, I do it reluctantly sometimes
C. No, it bothers me somehow
D. No, it makes me jealous and insecure
15. Has being with your partner made you a better person?
A. Yes, for sure
B. Yes, I think so
C. I’m not sure
D. No, it has made me feel more emotionally unstable and insecure
