Is My Partner A Narcissist Quiz

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Is My Partner a Narcissist Quiz

Healthy relationships are built on love, respect, and understanding. But if you're feeling confused or emotionally drained by your partner's behavior, it could be a sign of narcissistic traits. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) involves an inflated sense of self-importance and a lack of empathy, which can make it difficult for individuals to form meaningful connections.

The 'Is My Partner a Narcissist' quiz is designed to help you explore whether your partner’s behavior aligns with narcissistic traits. While it's not a diagnostic tool, it can give you insight into your relationship dynamics.

Interpreting Your Results:
After completing the quiz, you'll gain a better understanding of your partner’s behavior. Keep in mind that narcissistic traits exist on a spectrum, and a high score doesn’t necessarily mean your partner has NPD. If you're feeling uncertain or hurt, talking to a therapist can provide clarity and support.

You deserve to feel valued and understood in your relationship, and help is available if you need it.

Questions Excerpt

1. When you speak to them, they…

A. Shift the conversation to themselves

B. Shift the conversation to other topics

C. Sometimes tell a related story about them

D. Listen closely and tell me their opinion, if asked

2. Does your partner ever acknowledge their flaws?

A. Never, they think they’re perfect

B. Rarely, and even then it’s begrudging

C. Sometimes, if pointed ou

D. Yes, they are self-aware and open to improvement

3. When making decisions, whose opinion matters most?

A. Theirs, without question

B. Mostly theirs, but sometimes others

C. Both, but they tend to take charge

D. They consider others' opinions equally

4. How does your partner handle your emotions?

A. They dismiss them as unimportant

B. They find them bothersome

C. They occasionally listen but quickly change the subject

D. They show genuine concern and try to help

5. Does your partner apologize when they are wrong?

A. Never, they believe they are always right

B. Rarely, and only if pressured

C. Sometimes, but it’s half-hearted

D. Yes, sincerely and often

6. How does your partner respond when you succeed at something?

A. They downplay my achievements

B. They get jealous or competitive

C. They seem indifferent

D. They celebrate your success genuinely

7. Do they think they are special?

A. Yes, to the point where nobody else matters

B. Yes, they consider themselves pretty special

C. Yes, sometimes they think they are more important than anyone else

D. Yes, but in a positive way 

8. Do they consider other people’s desires and feelings?

A. No

B. Seldom

C. Sometimes

D. Always

9. How much attention do they need from you?

A. All of it

B. Most of it

C. They can need attention sometimes

D. They do not need attention, but like to be reassured

10. Are they argumentative?

A. Yes, they argue about anything and everything 

B. Yes, mostly

C. Yes, they do argue about some things

D. No, they always listen to other people’s opinions and ideas

11. How does your partner react to criticism?

A. They get very angry and start defending themselves

B. They simply ignore it

C. They are not happy about it but listen to critics

D. They listen to critics and try to improve themselves

12. How does your partner treat you when you don’t give them what they want?

A. They get angry and use ridicule and personal attacks

B. They give me the cold shoulder and withhold affection

C. They are upset but get over it

D. They accept it

13. Does your partner break rules?

A. Yes, and they take pride in it

B. Yes, sometimes

C. Not really

D. Never

14. Does your partner pressure you to do things their way?

A. Yes, always, and they get angry if I don't do as required

B. Sometimes

C. Rarely

D. Never

15. Does your partner ever offer something to other people?

A. Yes, but only to expect more in exchange

B. Yes, but I don’t think it’s out of generosity

C. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don’t

D. Yes, out of pure generosity

16. Does your partner reveal private information that most people would prefer to withhold?

A. Yes, and it's actually embarrassing

B. They follow this temptation sometimes

C. Rarely

D. Never

17. Does your partner envy other people?

A. Yes, a lot

B. Yes, sometimes

C. Occasionally

D. Never

18. Does your partner consider their needs the most important?

A. All the time, they would even ignore our children's needs

B. I am afraid so

C. Sometimes

D. Never

19. Does your partner accept contrary viewpoints?

A. No, and they get mad when contradicted

B. No, and they ignore them

C. Yes, whether they like it or not

D. Yes, they embrace them without any problem

20. What is your partner’s opinion about their achievements?

A. They exaggerate about it

B. They like to boast, but they are right

C. They talk about achievements without boasting

D. They are very modest about it


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