Am I The Toxic One In The Relationship Quiz

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20 Questions | Total Attempts: 52275 | Updated: Dec 08, 2024
1. Which of the following behaviors happens the most in your relationship?

Communicating openly and listening actively
Apologizing when necessary
Fighting without ever resolving the conflict
Frequently criticizing, belittling, or controlling my partner
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2. How do you express your needs in the relationship?

I openly communicate my needs and encourage my partner to do the same
I share my needs occasionally but avoid deeper conversations about them
I find it difficult to express my needs and hope my partner figures them out
I focus more on what I want without considering my partner's needs
3. How do you handle your partner’s emotions when they are feeling down?

I offer support and help them talk through their feelings
I try to be there, but I sometimes struggle to know how to help
I may listen for a while, but I often get tired of it quickly
I tend to dismiss their emotions as an overreaction
4. How do you react when your partner spends time with their friends without you?

I encourage them to enjoy time with friends, trusting them fully
I feel a bit uneasy but know it's healthy for them to have space
I sometimes feel neglected and want them to spend more time with me
I feel jealous and question why they need to spend time with others
5. How do you feel when your partner expresses dissatisfaction with the relationship?

I take their concerns seriously and work on improving things together
I acknowledge their feelings but may not always know how to address them
I feel frustrated and sometimes ignore their concerns
I get angry and dismiss their complaints as invalid
6. How do you handle conflicts with your partner?

I calmly discuss the issue until we reach a resolution
I try to listen but sometimes I get defensive
I tend to avoid the conflict and hope it resolves itself
I usually blame my partner and escalate the argument
7. What role does self-awareness play in determining if you're toxic in a relationship?

Self-awareness helps a relationship by allowing me to recognize and take responsibility for my actions. I actively reflect on my behavior and make changes when I see that it’s affecting my partner negatively
Self-awareness helps a relationship by making me aware of my actions, though I don’t always realize the impact right away. I’m open to making changes if I see it’s causing issues
Self-awareness helps a relationship by pointing out problems, but I rarely think my behavior is the cause. I usually don’t feel a need to change unless my partner insists
Self-awareness helps a relationship by showing me that the real issues come from my partner’s behavior, not mine. I don’t see a reason to change my actions
8. Which action demonstrates a non-toxic approach to disagreements in a relationship?

Yelling, blaming, and refusing to listen to your partner's viewpoint
Neglecting small gestures like remembering important dates or listening attentively
Telling little white lies to keep your partner out of your business
Acknowledging your mistakes and discussing potential solutions
9. How do you think your behavior affects your partner and the relationship?

By making your partner feel unsupported, insecure, and hurt
By leading to misunderstandings and unintentional emotional distance
By fostering resentment and pushing your partner away
By causing a cycle of control, manipulation, and emotional strain
10. What is a potential sign of toxic behavior in a relationship?

Blaming your partner for things within their control
Neglecting your partner's emotional needs unintentionally
Failing to communicate openly and honestly with your partner
Controlling your partner's actions or decisions
11. How often do you begin arguments with your partner?

Very often
Often
Rarely
Never
12. Do you build your partner up with compliments?

Yes, I regularly compliment my partner
Yeah, I give them a compliment every once in a while
I don’t intend to, but sometimes they do get an earful of bad things
I don’t find anything compliment-worthy about them!
13. How often do you tell your partner that you love them?

Very often!
Sometimes; a couple of times a week
Not really, maybe monthly or whenever I remember
What's the need of doing this? They should know I love them.
14. Do you support your partner’s dreams and goals?

Yes, their goals are as important as my own
Sometimes, but sometimes I get distracted by my own goals
Not really; I don’t think their goals are very relevant
I can't. I only have time to focus on my goals and dreams.
15. Do you yell or raise your voice at your partner?

Very often, I feel like I’m always yelling
Often, I feel like I can’t help it
Occasionally, I try to not yell usually
Never, I don’t think yelling is a good mode of communication
16. Do you engage in intimate moments with your partner?

Yes! I can’t keep my hands off them
Yeah, we are intimate regularly
Occasionally, I tend to postpone sex
That's rare. I have a busy lifestyle or I get angry at my partner when they need an occasional break from intimacy
17. Are you often frustrated with your partner or relationship?

No! We rarely fight with one another. It's mostly discussions.
Sometimes; we fight a couple of times a month
Yes, I find myself angry with them regularly
All the time! Everything they do makes me mad!
18. Do you listen to your partner’s feelings and concerns?

Yes! Their feelings and concerns are important to me
Yeah, I listen when they come up but I never ask about them
Sometimes, I don’t ask, but they just keep talking about them
No, I don’t have time to listen to their nonsense
19. Do you spend time with your partner’s family?

Yes, we see their family as much as they want to
Sometimes, it is hard to make time for their family
Not very often, we see their family less and less
Not at all; we do not have time to see their family
20. Do you like spending time with your partner?

Yes, I enjoy seeing them every day
Yes, but not every day
Sometimes, but I prefer my space
Never, I prefer to be alone
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