Ever find yourself having that tight feeling inside your chest because you feel powerless towards people who constantly mistreat you?
It’s a fact that almost all of us have been in a situation where we were treated poorly by another person, but the question here is, how do you learn what to do when someone treats you badly?
If someone mistreats you, it’s just human nature to react or choose to cut these people out of your life.
However, there are instances where a person chooses to stay although they are already being treated harshly. We may not understand this, but it’s very common, especially when the person who mistreats you is your partner.
Why do people choose to stay?
No one is blind to these types of situations, yet some people choose to stay even if they are already experiencing being treated harshly by their partners or someone close to them.
Why is this so?
You might feel like you are the only one who could understand your partner, and if you give up on them, no one would care for them as you do.
You feel as though your partner still has the potential to change. Maybe, they might be in a stage where they need to vent and that everything will be okay.
Your partner might be blaming you for all the things that are happening. Sadly, you might start believing all of this and think that you are lacking something that’s why your partner is mistreating you – so you try to be better.
You also might be blocking all the bad things your partner is doing, and you start to focus on his “good traits.”These are signs that you are justifying the other person’s actions of treating someone badly, and it’s never healthy.
10 things you need to do when someone treats you badly in a relationship
“Why do you treat me so bad? What did I ever do to you?”
Have you experienced telling this to your partner? Were you accused of being overly dramatic, or have you been shrugged off?
When is it okay to stay in a relationship and give another chance?
What to do when someone treats you badly, and where do you start? Here are 10 things to remember by heart.
1. Ask yourself first
Most of us can ask ourselves this question, “Why do I get treated so badly?” Did you know that you are asking the wrong question?
If someone mistreats you, remember that it’s not your fault. The person who is mistreating you is the one whose words, intentions, or actions are in the wrong. Don’t burden yourself as it’s not your fault at all.
But it’s your fault if you continue to let this happen. So ask yourself this, “Why am I letting my partner treat me badly?”
2. Address your issues
Having low self-esteem is one of the most common reasons why many people allow their partners to treat them badly.
Childhood trauma, a false belief of how relationships work, and even a mindset that your partner will still change are all reasons why you are not doing anything about your situation.
Remember this, and if you don’t respect yourself, other people won’t respect you.
It’s true that how they treat you is how they feel about you, but it’s equally valid that how people treat you is also a reflection of what you feel about yourself.
If you don’t respect yourself to walk away or do something about the situation, this will continue.
If you start feeling that you are inadequate for your partner, or you start feeling guilty or shameful along with depression, then these are signs that you are blaming yourself for your partner’s actions.
When people mistreat you, it’s on them.
Never allow your partner to blame you, and never blame yourself.
When someone treats you badly in a relationship, then know that this is already a red flag.
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Sylvia Smith loves to share insights on how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. As a writer at Marriage.com, she is a big believer in living consciously and encourages couples to adopt this principle in their lives too. Sylvia believes that every couple can transform their relationship into a happier, healthier one by taking purposeful and wholehearted action.