Relationships are supposed to uplift your mood, cheer you up, and bring out the best in you and not otherwise.
When in a relationship, each partner complements each other.
They stay together in good and in bad. They’re there to help other overcome weaknesses and support their partner to achieve their dreams.
However, some people are in a relationship where things work otherwise. They lose their identity. They feel dominated and their unsupportive partner puts unwanted pressure on them which further leads to both mental and physical ill health.
What most people don’t realize is there is a deeper connection between unhealthy relationships and mental health.
When you’re in an unhealthy relationship, your partner traumatizes you to an extent that the worst in you comes forth. Such hard relationship negatively impacts your physical and mental health and over the years you turn bad to worst.
So, it’s necessary that you walk out of such toxic relationship in due time and save yourself from any mental ill health.
Listed below are some hints helping to you to know if you’re in a bad relationship and if it’s impacting your mental health.
1. Happiness is a thing of past
When you’re in love there is a smile on your face. People could sense your positivity and your perspective towards life changes.
Everything around you is good and happy. As the law of attraction goes, since you’re happy, you attract all good things in your life. Romantic movies have captured such events pretty well.
However, things are totally opposite if you’re in a bad relationship. When you’re in a relationship that’s putting toll on your mental life, you’re upset most of the time.
For you happiness is a thing of the past. You don’t seem to be satisfied with what you have and feel depressed mostly. It’s a sign that you should reconsider your relationship.
3. Second thoughts for everything
It’s okay to have second thoughts. Everyone has it at some point or another. It’s a sign of healthy mind that shows you’re attentive to things and options around you. It shows that you have the capability to think outside the box and look for options that might not be there at that time.
However, as they say, excess of everything is bad.
When you’re having second thoughts for everything, almost everything, it means you’re partner is manipulative and has captured your mind. You tend to lose self confidence since you start to doubt your thoughts and actions. If you think you’re been too thoughtful about your actions, it’s time you change the partner.
3. Decline in physical health
The best way to spot someone who is going through a bad mental phase is to observe their physical health closely.
Our mental health has a direct connection with our health. If we are happy, we go for health food and our health is maintained.
The decline in physical health can show the direct connection between unhealthy relationships and mental health.
If your partner is stressing you up or you’re going through a toxic or difficult relationship, your physical health will decline rapidly. This isn’t good for you at all.
It’s better to walk out of such relationship than to suffer unknowingly.
4. Losing self control and not able to take rational decision
It’s fine to consult others or your partner over certain decisions but this doesn’t imply that you lose control over yourself.
Every individual has brain and can take their decisions. In a healthy relationship, your partner will encourage you to expand your thinking horizon or would suggest you to think outside the box.
When in unhealthy relationship, your partner would try to control you.
They would stop you from taking decisions on your own. They would not like you to make any decision, be it related to household or your personal life. If you continue to be in such a relationship, you will lose your identity.
Walk out, immediately.
5. Constantly looking for distraction
No one looks for distraction when in a healthy relationship.
Couples are happily into each other and would see the world revolve around their partner. They would do things and activities that would bring a smile on their partner’s face.
When in an unhealthy relationship, they want to escape from each other. They would try to keep themselves busy and distracted, as much as possible.
If you’re one amongst those who are happily taking up extra office work over spending the weekend with your partner, then you’re in an unhealthy relationship and it’s taking a toll on your mental health.
6. Experiencing a tiff while interacting with your partner
When couples speak, they shower love upon each other. They are concerned for one another and care for each other. One can easily make out through their tone, choice or words and expression they have on their face.
However, when you’re in an unhealthy relationship, you tend to do completely opposite.
In an unhealthy relationship you don’t care much about your partner. You are frustrated, anger or disappointed while talking to them.
You are constantly hurting your physical and mental health if you continue to stay in such a relationship for a longer period. So, for the sake of self-concern, walk out.
No one wants to be in a relationship when things just don’t work as expected. The above pointers explain clearly the connection between unhealthy relationships and mental health and how former can impact your physical and mental self.
Relationships are supposed to bring out the best in you, not the worst. If you’re in one of such relationship, walk out before it’s too late.
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