Bad communication affects your entire marriage.
If you and your spouse aren’t communicating well, it bleeds through into everything else: How you handle issues, how you tackle the ups and downs of life, and how you speak to each other.
If communication in your marriage isn’t as strong as you want it to be, working on it together is a top priority. When you have good communication, you both benefit. You’ll feel closer to each other, and your marriage will be stronger and more affectionate as a result.
But sometimes fixing communication issues feels like an uphill struggle. It’s so easy to get caught up in trying to fix it and before you know it, everything revolves about your problems and it feels like you’re both getting weighed down.
Improving communication doesn’t need to be a struggle. Instead, why not try playing some communication games? They’re a cute, fun way to help fix bad communication in marriage. All that’s needed is the two of you, some free time, and the willingness to play and have fun in the interests of growing closer.
1. Twenty questions
This game is an easy way to learn more about your partner, without pressure or focusing only on the hard stuff.
All you need is a list of twenty questions – of course, those questions can be anything you would like! Why not try some of the following suggestions:
- What’s your favorite of all the dates we’ve been on together?
- When do you feel more confident?
- What’s your fondest childhood tradition?
- When do you feel most loved and appreciated by me?
- Where do you see yourself in five years?
- What would you like to do that you’ve never told anyone before?
- When have you felt proud of yourself?
Asking questions gives you insight into your partner’s thoughts, beliefs, dreams, and values. Then when the time comes to swap, they’ll get to learn more about you, too. Try playing this game when you have some free time in the evenings or over the weekend, or even in the car. It can make a real impact on your communication levels.
2. Seeing eye to eye
This is a fun, silly game, that nevertheless encourages you to communicate more clearly and listen to each other attentively.
For this game, you will need either paper and pens or pencils, building blocks such as Lego, or crafty putty such as Playdough.
First, sit back to back, either leaning on each other or by placing two chairs back to back. Decide who is going to make something first. That person uses the craft materials to make or draw anything they like. It could be a piece of fruit, an animal, a household object, or even something abstract. Anything goes.
When the maker has finished with their creation, they describe it carefully to the other person. Go into as much detail about color, shape, and texture as you can, but don’t tell your partner what you are describing. So it’s ok to say an apple is “round, green, sweet, crunchy and you can eat it”, but of course you can’t say it is an apple!
The partner who listens, then uses their own craft materials to recreate what is being described as best they can. Sometimes you’ll get it just right, and other times you’ll both be laughing at how far from the mark you are, but either way, you’ll be practicing to listen to each other.
3. The three thank you activity
This is the easiest communication game of all, and one of the most effective. All you need is each other and ten minutes together every day.
This game works best if you make it a habit, so try to find a time in your routine where you can fit it in reliably each day. Generally, it works well towards the end of the day – perhaps you could do it just after supper, or just before bed.
Although it only takes ten minutes, it’s worth making those ten minutes as special as you can. Brew some coffee or a fruit infusion, or pour a glass of wine for each of you. Sit somewhere comfortable that you won’t be interrupted.
Now, look back over your day and think of three things your partner did that you really appreciated. Perhaps they made you laugh when you were down, or did a chore that you hate. Maybe you love how they made time to help your kid with their science project, or the way they remember to pick up your favorite treat at the grocery store. Think of three things, and tell them to your partner, and remember to say “thank you.”
If you want to, you can write your three things down before reading them, and then your partner can keep them after. Grab a box or a mason jar each and before long you will each have a beautiful collection of messages from the other.
Always remember! Bad communication in marriage can create a sense of dissatisfaction, distrust, confusion, restlessness, and fear between couples. Communication in marriage is something every couple needs to work on.
But, improving your communication with your partner doesn’t have to be a struggle. Try these easy games, and you’ll learn to communicate better, while having fun and growing closer, too.
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