Every human needs care, attention, and encouragement, especially people who they love. The dissatisfaction and feelings of hopelessness may also be the reason for them to be distracted by other people.
When house chores and kids’ responsibilities become more important and worthier of your attention than your partner, you may hurt their feelings.
Constantly feeling hopeless as they think that they’re not good enough for you anymore would only make them wallow in their self-doubt.
Taking your wife for granted or taking a relationship for granted will only push your partner to stop doing whatever little they are currently doing.
Disheartening them or not paying attention to their actions/gestures will just demotivate them completely.
When your spouse vocally speaks up about their feelings, firstly, respect that.
It takes courage to admit such feelings or thoughts, and as their spouse, you should not belittle them. Be a good listener to their complaints, ask if you have any misunderstandings, and explain if you think they have mistaken you.
If you focus too much on the little they’re not doing right, you will not be able to look at the bigger picture and understand the importance of appreciating your spousefor the things they are good at.
You will find yourself at peace once you start focusing on the positive aspects rather than the negatives, and will also take pressure off of your partner.
As their spouse, you must support them and encourage them. At times when they are wrong, correct them patiently rather than only criticizing.
If you catch yourself complaining about the same things, again and again, you are taking your partner for granted.
This shows that you’re stuck on one negative aspect and failing to encourage the other small positive aspects. If your approach to solving issues is to complain repeatedly, change your strategy.
Become more affectionate, encouraging, and supportive when you are trying to explain to them where and how they are wrong.
4. If you have lost the habit (or never had the habit) of saying thank you and please to your partner, you are taking your partner for granted.
Saying “please” and “thank you” will show your gratitude towards them and show them that you value whatever they have to offer you.
Complimenting them after they have cleaned the house for hours or simply thanking them for a “lovely dinner” (even if it wasn’t as extraordinary) will only add respect and love in your relationship.
You will get the same kind of appreciation in return, and no human dislikes appreciation and compliments.
Signs that show you are being taken for granted
Have they gradually or suddenly stopped taking your advice on matters and started making the decision all by themselves? This shows you are being taken for granted as your ideas and opinions are not valued anymore.
If your partner is not fairly doing their part of the responsibilities and depends on you for them, it also shows their attitude.
Some spouses stop celebrating or giving much importance to special occasions such as the valentine’s day because they start taking the relationship for granted and don’t think it needs any more investment or efforts.
Here are some more subtle signs that you are being taken for granted:
Lack of acknowledging your presence in their life.
Not including you in their plans or asking you at the very last minute.
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Rachael Pace is a noted relationship writer associated with Marriage.com. She provides inspiration, support, and empowerment in the form of motivational articles and essays. Rachael enjoys studying the evolution of loving partnerships and is passionate about writing on them. She believes that everyone should make room for love in their lives and encourages couples to work on overcoming their challenges together.