There has been a lot of talk about the dangers of being intimate in this digital age via modern technologies. However, this digital era has given us many options for dealing with long-distance relationship struggles.
Love is supposed to rise above space and time, but every long-distance relationship couple will claim that the magical bond of love is less like a fairytale-esque.
It is easy to understand why most people, especially young couples, stay away from long-distance relationships.
Sometimes a text, call, or even a Facetime session may be the only interaction couples have in weeks and even months.
Visitations can be very expensive, and fleeting, and maintaining a healthy relationship is already very hard even without distance being an issue.
Like every hopeless romantic person, we all wonder how to deal with long-distance relationships despite all the distance.
It turns out the secret behind coping with long-distance relationships is not luck or personality but instead is a lot of love and great communication.
Importance of modern technology
Modern communication tech has given couples in long-distance relationship tools to share their lives.
Now, couples can connect not only through a phone call but also through video chatting services such as FaceTime and Skype.
This provides couples with access to their spouse’s face, body language, and eyes. This relationship in today’s age has a lot of advantages compared to the days of letter, pen, and ink.
A study conducted to determine the most popular media used to communicate in long-distance relationships found 81.61% of participants accept that social networks have improved their long-distance communication.
Nowadays, people do not have to sit around and wait for the mail to arrive; there is no disappointment when it doesn’t come.
Now spouses can communicate with one another easily whenever they want. There is less disappointment in the relationship and better and effective communication.
Another study exploring the perspectives of individuals who have experienced long-distance relationships determined that social media provides a mode of communication that allows them to connect instantaneously with ease and build a stable foundation for their relationship.
Truly the advances made have made it easier for you to connect easily throughout the day; however, the fact is that the method of communication is only one side of the relationship coin. On the other side, it is how you communicate.
Communication in a long-distance relationship
When you stop and think about your feelings, thoughts, and the words used in expressing it, you communicate your deepest feelings at the most intimate level.
This kind of communication helps in building you a lifetime of love and trust. With a long-distance relationship, the success of the relationship depends entirely and completely on communications.
The method you use to communicate, how often you communicate, and how many times you communicate are all the negotiating points of your relationship.
Successful relationships are those in which partners negotiate on the basic points early on the relationship and aim to make it work.
Technology has made it very easy for people to talk with one another, leading to better and more effective communication.
You must choose your words correctly because they can make a huge difference in increasing and decreasing the love you both have.
Recognizing the intention behind the words is easy
With so much distance between one another, your tone must be filled with care and love when addressing your spouse.
It is the loving words, caring tone of voice, the trust and intimacy that help complete one relationship. Whether the person is next to you or overseas, recognizing a harsh tone is very easy, and so is the intention behind the words.
As we have grown older and technology has evolved, marriage has deepened into commitments and intimacy over the years.
Nowadays, people know that patience is a virtue and a foundation for marriage; however, with technology, this lesson can be hard to learn.
A recent study examining the effects of mobile technology in human relationships found that out that the use of mobile technology has a negative impact on both the quality and the number of face-to-face communications.
The study concludes that mobile use by individuals has reduced the time they spend engaging in face-to-face communications with each other because of the time spent on the mobile.
Combing modern technology with LDR
Long-distance relationships are hard and require that the couple must look for different ways to interact with each other.
Here are some ways mode technology can help you from growing apart in a relationship and also help you to deal with your long-distance relationship problems:
1. Play games
If you are looking for something more interactive, try to play relationship games online against each other. Multiplayer games like Warcraft or Second Life tends to put extreme interest in players.
Watching your partner’s character make you feel like hanging out in real life. Because it’s 2019, there are numerous couple games online.
For example, the Couple App allows you to play games with your boo, make lists of your plans together, and plan your favorite destinations. This is one of the best long-distance relationship activities to pursue.
2. Video calls
Another sweet thing couples can do is making surprise video calls. This era has the best options for anyone for video calling.
There are many activities you can do over Skype, like playing games and taking personality quizzes from each other.
Other things to do over Skype include drawing challenges, telling your daily stories, etc.
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Talk about your day by literally showing it through a video-blog is a great idea.
Use a randomizer to pick a certain hour (or half-hour) of the day and show your partner what you are doing during that exact time regardless of what it is. Even if you are at work, taking a bath, eating, or sleeping.
Keep it safe while doing your half-hour, especially when driving or working. Like a real video-blog, see if you can describe what you’re doing as much as you can without getting caught.
If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.
Sylvia Smith loves to share insights on how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. As a writer at Marriage.com, she is a big believer in living consciously and encourages couples to adopt this principle in their lives too. Sylvia believes that every couple can transform their relationship into a happier, healthier one by taking purposeful and wholehearted action.