The saying is true that distance makes the heart go fonder, the fact that we haven’t seen the face of our loved ones add to the anticipation, the building desire to be close to them, this wait not only makes our heart grow fonder of our beloved but also makes us love them harder in the process.
For many people, having a long-distance relationship with someone who has an entirely different postal code may be hard. Still, those who are already invested in such emotional connections, understand that such commitment is hard, but so worth it when you finally meet your beau!
So, the question arises, why do people opt for such emotionally exhaustive relationships, anyway? And more importantly, are they worth it in the end?
We address these questions in this article!
Why do people go through long-distance relationships willingly?
Now, when we talk about the will, we’re really talking about circumstances surrounding the LDR.
One might raise doubts- Do long-distance relationships work?
Most people don’t want to stay away from the apple of their eyes, but they are compelled to do so due to various factors, the job being the most prominent among them.
Also, most couples meet up through institutions like high school and colleges, who often share different life ambitions. In the world we know today, most men and women are meeting up through various online dating websites, which link them to people all around the world with common likes and interests.
So, most people form an LDR on the basis of trust, effective communication, and the belief that they are doing this for a better future together, a better life together. Their love for each other prevails over the hardships of a long-distance relationship.
Of course, we cannot simply ignore the harsh realities you have to face while you are invested in a long-term relationship, some of which we have outlined below:
Different time zones can take a toll on how much you communicate with each other; this can really strain your relationship.
The fact that you sometimes have to miss out on important events such as anniversaries and birthdays.
While it is a fact that LDRs are hard, most people are often even compelled to analyze when to let go of a long-distance relationship, but all of that depends on how much both of you are willing to make this work.
Long-distance relationship tips
Starting a long-distance relationship might seem like an exciting idea. You would look at the bright side if the things and will be ready to face all odds. However, there are some tips to survive a long-distance relationship because such a relationship is purely based on understanding and trust.
Talk dirty to each other just like you would do if you both were around. Keep your intimacy game strong by expressing your sexual desires through teasing texts.
Set low expectations in the relationship. You both must discuss some ground rules so that none of you are taken by surprise.
In the video below, Kim Eng shares that there is nothing wrong with expectations, but we should not become overly attached. Instead, we need to inquire into the source of those expectations to determine whether they are healthy and reasonable or arise from the unconsciousness of the pain-body.
Are long-distance relationships worth it in the end?
So, how to make a long-distance relationship work?
We’ll be honest, engaging yourself in the LDR with someone who is so many miles away from you is hard, and it is not something you can take lightly. It will take effort, time, and a lot of trust to withhold the sentiment.
But, imagine when you finally meet your best friend, the person who you love, after all this time! You learn to appreciate their touch, smell, and their quirks; you learn to understand how beautiful your bond is, and that it is worth everything. Imagine how lovely it would be to hold their hands and not put your hand on screens to connect?
The little moments make all the hardships worth it. Love can overcome anything if it indeed exists.
Distance makes the heart go fonder, some people prefer to wait for their loved ones to come back, and some decide to relocate. We live in a world where love can truly thrive if we only let it. A thousand miles can’t possibly stop from a heart to love!
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Sylvia Smith loves to share insights on how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. As a writer at Marriage.com, she is a big believer in living consciously and encourages couples to adopt this principle in their lives too. Sylvia believes that every couple can transform their relationship into a happier, healthier one by taking purposeful and wholehearted action.