Let’s accept the fact that today’s dating scene is far more advanced than what it was some 5 years back. In these 5 years, a lot has changed.
The dating these days is dominated by online websites and mobile applications, like OkCupid and Tinder. These days, casual sex is not a big deal and younger generation is quite okay with that.
However, things are not the usual for those who still want to pursue the traditional catholic dating method. They have seen their parents and are sure that it is a successful way of finding someone who can be trusted and will be loyal to you.
Let us have a look at how to make it possible in today’s technology advanced scenario.
1. Seeking but not desperate
Okay, so you’re single and looking for someone to settle down with. That should not make you desperate.
Remember, by sounding or acting desperate you would only push the possible person away. You have to be open to meeting new people but not desperately. Your primary goal should be to surrender yourself to God. He will surely connect you with the right man at the right time.
2. Be yourself
Never pretend to be someone you’re not.
Being deceptive will not take you far and eventually you would end up hurting the other person and God. Relationship can’t be laid on the foundation of a lie. So, be true to yourself. This way you don’t have to worry about pretending to be someone else and good thing will happen with you, sometime soon.
3. Make friends
Loneliness can lead to temptation which is not a part of conventional dating.
It is surely hard to control temptation when you’re alone or don’t have much of social life. In fact, make friends with like-minded people. They will help you control your temptation and will guide you whenever needed.
When you’re surrounded by people of the same kind you don’t feel lonely and your mind is away from all sorts of distractions.
4. Long-term relationship
The entire foundation of the dating is laid on the long-term relationship.
The conventional dating methodology has no space for casual sex. So, when you’re looking for someone online or are meeting someone through reference, make sure that there are also looking for something substantial. If you sense that you both are seeking something different, don’t take the conversation further.
5. Making the first contact
Who should send the first message online is a tricky question. Well, the answer to this should be simple; if you liked the profile and want to start a conversation, than send out a message.
Remember, you don’t have to sound desperate and this is just a message. You can use various features of the online platforms to show that their profile got your attention, just like offering a drink or dropping a hanky in the conventional dating setup.
6. Don’t be obsessed
When you’re moving ahead with catholic dating rule, you should leave your obsession about a perfect partner behind.
God knows what’s best for you and will introduce you to someone who will be the best partner for you. So, you should learn to accept the person unconditionally. Remember, God also teaches us to accept people as they’re, without judging or questioning.
7. Quick response
It is understood that starting a conversation won’t be easy for you, but it is best if you respond within 24 hours.
The other person has taken time and has shown interest in your online profile. The best way to reciprocate is to respond within a day and let them know what you think about it.
8. Keep sex aside
It may be okay to get physical whilst dating someone, but it is so not recommended.
Sex leads to parenthood and you must understand this. There are various ways to show love other than sex. Explore those creative ways and keep sex aside till the time you’re ready to be a parent.
9. Don’t play around
It may happen that you’re talking to someone despite knowing that you are not attracted to them. This may be okay in a casual dating scene where two individuals are chatting and are just goofing around.
However, in Catholic dating, this is not at all okay.
You have to be honest with the individual. If you think that there is no spark or you won’t get along with each other, just say so. Even God asks us to be true to ourselves.
10. Social media before personal meeting
Everyone is on some social media platforms.
If you’re thinking of moving out of the dating website or app, then connect with each other on social media before your first personal meeting. This way you can get to know each other well and can be sure if you want to meet.
Don’t meet unless you’re absolutely sure of it.
11. Do some activity together
Only conversations will not help you take a better decision.
Get involved in some activity like a hobby or attending the church group together. Getting involved in such activities will help you explore each other’s qualities and personality.
12. Seek help
You can always reach out to priests, nun or a couple who can guide you to understand each other. It is important that you learn to balance your life properly before you get into any kind of relationship.
Knowing and understanding how you complement each other is essential.