Spot These 10 Signs of Unhealthy Emotional Dependence in Your Relationship
The idea of being in love is indeed beautiful, is not it?
The perfection and positives of a healthy love life being shown in movies, seasons, and novels, etc. is something everyone craves for at some point in their lives to make they’re living a complete one.
However, some of us are too immersed in this that we believe we are incomplete without our significant other. Due to this many of us end up making connections too early in the midst of desires, and tend to give a little attention to the red flags and things that are necessary to be noted before committing to someone for the rest of your life.
Soon, for such people becoming emotionally attached or dependent on their partner is a normal thing. Such people unknowingly take relationships as a source of driving validation and self-worth.
Unfortunately, studies and reports suggest this being unhealthy for a relationship as it has led to relationships being ended, and people being guilty of ‘taking it too far too early.’ Thus, it is important for every one of us to see if we’re truly in love or are we just emotionally dependent on our spouse.
Here are 10 signs that will help you figure this out
If you unexplainably hate it when your spouse spends time with their friends, family, colleagues or any other person other than you, you may be emotionally dependent on them.
Such feelings and behavior demonstrate that you do not want a shareholder when it comes to the attention of your partner.
You may also be doing things to stop your partner from meeting others, hence, creating issues and harming your bond.
However, it is important to note that a little jealousy sometimes is a normal trait, and indicates that you or your partner are truly possessive, loving and caring about each other.
2. Dependence for validation
Valuing your partner’s views and feelings about you is a very good thing to do.
However, if their opinion or approval is more important than yours to you for everything, then it is something to worry about. It is very important for us to know that even our partners shouldn’t be trusted more than ourselves.
3. The urge of wanting to dominate
This is a very powerful sign indicating your lack of emotional independence.
If you are one of those people who want to control their spouse, and you get upset if things don’t go your way, here is bad news for you.
4. Reliance on your spouse for self-worth
Wanting simple compliments from your partner is a normal thing to ask for. However, people emotionally dependent on their spouse have the desire of being showered with compliments all the time.
Such people feel genuinely down if they do not get this as they start doubting themselves. This behavior and characteristic show how they ‘need’ this validation as they are not in love but are emotionally dependent.
5. You believe in no life without them anymore
You believe you would have no purpose in life after your partner is gone, and strongly feel like you would not be able to cope up with their absence.
6. You are always with your spouse
This might seem to be a ‘couple goals’ thing, but it is important to note that everyone needs personal space sometimes.
If you never leave your partner alone, this may be a sign of you being too dependent on them.
7. You feel extremely insecure
Feeling insecure sometimes is totally okay.
After all, we are all humans and have fears; one of which might be losing a loved one, I.e., your partner. However, if you feel insecure and worried all the time to such an extent that you become overly possessive indicates emotional dependence.
You simply have the urge of locking them up in this relationship with you and fear that every other person around them might take them away from you.
8. Missing out on plans with others to be with them
Ditching others for your loved one at times may indicate that your partner is your number one priority. However, exhibiting this behavior ‘ every time’ is a warning sign.
9. Appearances matter more
You are more concerned about how your partners appear to be than being original.
You want your partner to look like the perfect being in the crowd, and want your family and friends to find him good.
Furthermore, sometimes there may be things about him you do not really like, but it is okay for you if people around you approve of it because you apparently care more about how your spouse looks than who he/she is. This is a very strong warning sign.
10. You want to transform your spouse
Wanting a little change in your partner might be a normal thing. However, wanting to transform them completely, and is not happy with who they genuinely indicate your emotional dependence as why else would you be with them?
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