Ways to Know When to Leave a Relationship
All the romantic novels and movies tell us about the long-lasting relationship wherein the protagonists grow old together. They stay together in good and bad times and die in each other’s arms. However, the reality is far-fetched from the dreamy world these pieces of arts take us to.
In the real world, there are heartbreaks and often one has to put an end to a relationship, for various reasons.
We all might have come across a time when we have said adieu to our partners as the spark perished with time. We all get to hear about when to get into a relationship, but seldom people talk about when to leave a relationship.
So, here we are with some signs and observations that will help you make a smooth exit from the relationship before it’s too late.
Toxic Relationship
It’s the rule, everything seems good and sweet in the beginning and then it turns sour and painful. Like movies, our relationships face ups and downs with time.
Sometimes, they survive and see the bright day whereas sometimes they’re lost somewhere in the journey. No one aims at a toxic relationship that drains you out completely and leaves you half dead.
It’s always better to make an exit from a toxic relationship where you’re at the receiving end. If you think the situation is going out of hand and you’re feeling stressed all the time, leave it immediately. Relationships are supposed to light up our mood and not otherwise.
Foundation is shaken
Honesty, loyalty, trust, and unconditional love; these are foundations of a successful relationship.
No one wants to be with dishonest, untrustworthy, disloyal, and suffocating love, never ever.
If, by any chance, you’ve discovered that the foundation of your relationship has shaken, leave.
These four foundations are important for a successful and long-lasting relationship and will guide you when to leave a relationship. Speak to your partner about it and see if the foundation is intact or is about to fall. Before you’re deeply hurt and disturbed, leave the relationship on a good note.
Past coincide with present and future
When in a relationship we all leave our past behind, cherish the present and dream of a better future. We are so much in love with our partner that we hardly miss our past. Together we work in present for a better and promising future. However, sometimes, this goes in reverse.
If you find yourself revisiting your past quite often and instead of future missing your past life, something is wrong with the relationship.
We suggest that you analyze the entire scenario. Look for the reason what made you dwell more on past than planning for your beautiful future. If this continues, take this as a sign to end the present relationship.
Feeling devalued
Relationships are supposed to bring in the best in you. They must make you feel great. Your partner should unleash the best in you and should make you feel important. However, this doesn’t happen all the time. There are times when you might be in a relationship that made you feel devalued and unwanted.
This happens because you’re in a relationship with a wrong person; someone who thinks highly of them and treats you like nothing. If you continue in this relationship for a longer period you would lose yourself over the years or might just lose your entire self-confidence.
So, before things go bad, run away from that person.
Physical love is replaced by physical abuse
Where there is love there is no space for any physical or mental abuse.
We have already spoken about emotional abuse your partner may give you, which will guide you when to leave a relationship. However, you must not ignore any sort of physical abuse as well.
When in love, you respect each other, as a person, ideas, lifestyle, and aspirations. You work together to support your partner in every way possible and ensure they achieve what they dream of. Nonetheless, when there is any sort of emotional or physical abuse, it’s a sign that the love has dried off.
Take this as an unsaid communication that they don’t need you anymore and walk out of a relationship.
Unnecessary expectations
Foremost, there shouldn’t be any expectations in a relationship.
In relationships, you accept the person the way they’re. Expectations demolish the entire foundation of love and then it shifts to an agreement between the two individual, thus suffocating love in the union.
When you see that your partner is having unnecessary expectations and demands are being unreasonable, consider that the relationship is perishing. You do things to make your partner comfortable and not because you’re obliged to. It’s not a trade that you’re expected to do some tasks in exchange for something.
Relationships are nothing less than a gamble today.
Sometimes, you hit the bull’s eye and find someone who brings the best out of you; and sometimes they evoke the worst version of your own self. It’s important that you know when to leave a relationship before it’s too late.
People often lose themselves and get used to things around them without realizing that their relationship with a bad person is killing them from inside, every minute. So, keep these things in mind and walk out of the relationship before it’s too late.
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Sylvia Smith loves to share insights on how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. As a writer at Marriage.com, she is a big believer in living consciously and encourages couples to adopt this principle in their lives too. By taking purposeful and a whole-hearted action, Sylvia feels that every couple can transform their relationship into a happier, healthier one.
