And to the lives of our children. Because, from observing the lack of communication in your marriage, they’re building the same relationship patterns for themselves.
And thus, lack of communication in a relationship transfers onto the following generations. So, stop the cycle now!
Common relationship communication problems
In psychotherapy, couples usually come with one of the following eight unhealthy communication patterns:
Passive-aggressive– When you think of no communication in a relationship, you imagine this style – one of the partners keeps quiet about their feelings and retaliates in a passive manner.
Screaming – Although the arguments may even be reasonable, the delivery is aggressive and offensive, so there’s no communication in relationships like these.
Being histrionic– When one of the partners is being overly dramatic, the content of the conversation ends up being pushed aside, and all that remains is the drama.
Chronic crying– Sometimes, the lack of communication comes with one of the partners playing the victim, consciously or not.
Withholding/exploding– Usually, one of the spouses withholds their expression, until they’re eventually ready to explode in anger.
Being conflicted– Sometimes, one of the partners is so conflicted that their messages are difficult to understand. Hence, the lack of communication sets in.
Shunning– Some people tend to shut down or distance from issues, and this often reflects in marital communication.
Anxiety-ridden communication– In such relationships, one of the partners has an anxiety attack the moment challenging messages are expressed, which makes it impossible to have a constructive conversation.
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Rachael Pace is a noted relationship writer associated with Marriage.com. She provides inspiration, support, and empowerment in the form of motivational articles and essays. Rachael enjoys studying the evolution of loving partnerships and is passionate about writing on them. She believes that everyone should make room for love in their lives and encourages couples to work on overcoming their challenges together.