Is he using me for money or sex? A man who can’t seem to communicate (or doesn’t WANT to communicate with you) is one of the big signs he’s using you.
Communication is how you deepen your bond, especially in a new relationship. If your boyfriend doesn’t want to open up or problem-solve with you, it may be a sign he’s not as into the relationship as you are.
14. You never go out on real dates
Another sign that may make you ask, “Is my boyfriend using me?” is if the two of you never seem to leave the bedroom.
If your boyfriend’s idea of a perfect date night is Netflix and Chill, then he’s made it clear that he isn’t going to put any effort into your ‘relationship’ than is necessary.
15. He’s always asking you for something
Is my boyfriend using me financially?
Is he using me for sex?
Is he using me to pass the time?
The biggest sign he’s using you is if he’s always asking for something. Whether he comes over and he just wants sex, or he’s constantly dropping hints about how broke he is, take it as a warning.
16. You can feel it in your gut
One of the stronger signs that he is using you is your intuition.
Your gut feeling is your body’s way of telling you to be careful. It’s your instinct designed to protect your emotional and physical wellbeing.
If you can’t shake the feeling that something is off in your relationship, it may be time to investigate what’s really going on.
17. He doesn’t seem to care about your feelings
Did he love me or use me?
Blatant signs he’s using you can be seen by the way he treats you. If he just wants sex and never asks you how you’re doing – take it as a bad sign.
Someone who is invested in you is going to be considerate of your feelings and will care what’s going on in your life.
18. He has a reputation for using girls
There’s something to be said for giving someone the benefit of the doubt. Gossip is not to be trusted and often comes from unreputable information.
However, if your man has a public reputation for using women for sex, money, or just to pass the time, it may be a rumor worth your attention.
19. He ghosts you
Did your relationship take a turn that you never saw coming? One of the big signs he’s using you is if he cuts off all contact with you without an explanation.
Much like a ghost, a man who is not interested in you will stop answering your calls and texts, remove you from social media, and avoid you in person without telling you why.
20. He never goes out of his way for you
Is he using me for sex? One tip on how to test a guy to see if he really loves you is to take note of what he’s willing to do for you.
We’re not saying a man should bend over backward for you every minute of the day, but if he cares about you, he’ll want to be there for you when you need him.
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Rachael Pace is a noted relationship writer associated with Marriage.com. She provides inspiration, support, and empowerment in the form of motivational articles and essays. Rachael enjoys studying the evolution of loving partnerships and is passionate about writing on them. She believes that everyone should make room for love in their lives and encourages couples to work on overcoming their challenges together.