Congratulations! If you are reading this, it means you are in a happy relationship, and everything is going great, but you are wondering if he is giving you signs he wants to marry you.
It’s been a good few months or years, and now you’re at the stage of your relationship where things are fabulous, but you’re puzzled whether he is going to propose soon or not.
How long does it take a man to know he wants to marry you?
No one can tell you how long does it take a man to know he wants to marry you.
This is very individual, and although there is no definite answer to this question, there are signs he wants to marry you. Luckily for us ladies, we can (maybe) guess it and see it coming if we are paying attention to certain behavior or gestures.
Not to forget, according to research where 2000 people polled, it was found out that on average, a person takes 6 months or 172 days to be sure of marriage with their partner.
Looking for signs he wants to marry you? Here are 50 signs that will help you be sure and make the next move:
1. He plans the future with you
It is a very clear sign he sees himself with you for a long time. If he’s talking about 5-year goals with you, it’s certain he is serious about taking the next step. Guys don’t talk about future plans unless they are serious about the relationship.
If he brings you to all occasions, work, family-related, or even business events, it’s very clear he wants you to meet all the people in his life, and he wants them to meet you since you are obviously someone he is proud of and in love with.
If he invites you to his sister’s wedding and is proud to introduce you to everyone, he’s giving signs he wants to marry you.
3. He is always on time
Being on time is a sign he respects you. Even more, he appreciates you and loves you very much, and he is grateful for every minute you get to spend together. Isn’t it great to have a guy who is always punctual?
4. He’s touchy
Do you catch yourself cuddling a lot more, just like you did at the start of your relationship? Is he touching your hand more than usual or massaging your neck when you don’t expect it? This might be a sign he’s thinking of popping the question!
5. He’s texting you. A lot
Some of the signs he wants to marry you are not that obvious and can even be confusing. If he’s constantly reminding you of how much he misses you when you’re not together, it means you’re on his mind (a lot).
He doesn’t notice other women; he won’t make comments to guys about other good-looking girls passing by. His eyes are on you, and you only.
7. He proposed to move in
Not quite THE question, but pretty damn close! If he suggests moving in, it means he is very serious about your future together. If the first thing when he asked you to move in was “ he wants to marry me”, well, you might have been right!
8. He’s vulnerable
If you notice that he is opening up more than before and showing his gentle, vulnerable side more, it’s a clear sign he trusts you and sees a long-term friend and lover in you.
Some guys can be very mysterious when it comes to their careers and everything that’s happening at work. If your guy is going after a career and is sharing stuff happening at work with you, he trusts you and wants to hear your opinion.
14. You hang out with his married friends
It could be awkward being around married people if you had no desire to become one of them too.
However, it’s a good sign he’s ready for marriage if you keep hanging out with his married friends! There are many clear signs he wants to marry you, and this is one of them for sure.
15. He wants to join accounts
Yup. This is a HUGE thing and definitely means he sees wifey material in you. Otherwise, he would never suggest this. It’s also one of the signs he’s the one because you don’t want a man who’s afraid to share his financial background with you.
16. He’s giddy
As in “seeing his high school sweetheart again” giddy, he’s probably trying to find a perfect moment, or he is thinking about your face seeing the ring and just having fun planning it all out.
Maybe you thought his all of a sudden great mood is not a big deal, but it actually might be one of the signs he wants to marry you, which definitely means it is a big deal!
Some men worry they are getting too old and might pop the question sooner rather than later if they want to start their family on time.
18. He gives you hints
If he is giving you some hints such as “start looking at dresses” or “book your calendar off,” it means he has something planned for the two of you. He must be too shy to blatantly put it forth, but things are sure in his mind.
19. He cares about your interest
If he’s asking about your work, or friends, or hobbies, it means you matter to him, and he wants to know what’s happening in your world. This also opens up a great source of communication.
If he stopped saying “if” and is using “when” instead, he has clearly made a decision in his mind that the marriage is happening soon. This only shows his confidence in being with you.
21. Sharing is caring
He doesn’t mind sharing his things with you. Personal or business, he’s willing to share them with you. Once he does that, be sure that he is comfortable with you and trusts you.
22. You’re the only one
Listen attentively. We don’t know how long does it take a man to know he wants to marry you, but one thing we know: if he keeps saying, “You’re the only one who…” He is thinking about making you his wifey.
23. He asks for your opinion
Important decisions to be made, and who does he go to? You.
Now, he no longer handles things in his head but shares them with you. You are his go-to person.
24. He likes sleepovers
You at his place, or him at yours. Doesn’t matter. If he really likes sleepovers, he’s very, very fond of you, trusts you, and sees a future with you. This shows his extreme level of involvement.
25. He makes marriage jokes
One of the clearest signs is that he jokes about marriage a lot. Except that he’s not joking, but he’s not ready to come out yet.
If he’s thinking about booking vacations for next year already, it might be one of the signs he wants to marry you because why would he think so far ahead in the future?
28. He is choosing exotic destinations for holiday
Now, this might be one of the hints he will propose. If you’re usually not going to the Bahamas for summer, there might be a good reason why you’re choosing it now.
29. He’s already in the role
If he acts like your husband already: asks for your advice, turns to you for support in hard times, respects you, and values you, and is not afraid to show it in public too, it means he is already playing that role in your life.
30. He believes in marriage
Some guys don’t. And those who do, they will let you know. He wants you to know he believes in it, and that’s plenty of signs he wants to marry you in the future (or very soon).
31. He doesn’t laugh when others talk about marriage
There’s a tendency to laugh off a topic that anyone wants to avoid. And with marriage, most people do that to avoid further talks. But he’s mature enough and even more. It might be another sign he wants to marry you.
32. He is very relaxed near you
Very, very comfortable. It might mean some romance is gone, but being friendly and open and feeling comfortable with someone are the most important things. And if you feel the chills in your company, it’s definitely a positive thing.
33. You’re family too
He considers you a part of his family. He counts you, invites you to family events, and does the same things for you as he’d do for his family, and if you feel like part of his family already, you probably already are.
34. He talks about the future, and you’re there too
If he’s talking about changing careers, buying a house, or moving to another country, he sees you there too and mentions it.
If he’s using “we” instead of “I” or “me,” it is a sign he has changed perception and accepted the idea you two are one now.
36. He talks about kids
If he mentions kids, or you see him looking at other families with kids and commenting on it, it’s probably because it’s on his mind too.
37. He mentions weddings and venues
One of the common things to consider before making your wedding is the venue. If he’s looking around at hotels or other venues, he’s going to ask you to marry him soon.
38. He’s never jealous
Some guys are more jealous than others, but it’s certain he wants a future with you if he never reacts to certain things and has 0 jealousy. He trusts you, and he is the one to marry.
In the relationship below, Matthew Hussey discusses you can overcome jealousy in the relationship and convert it into pride:
39. He’s saving
To date, he has been living a carefree life, but all of a sudden, he is saving money for something and being very mysterious about it. Wedding maybe?
Or it could be that he has become more cautious with money because he is saving for the future.
40. Talking about parenting
It’s important for him to know where you are when it comes to kids, and he wants to know this before he pops the question in case you have totally different ideas about raising kids.
41. Aging together
If he says how nice it would be to grow old together and gets you to imagine all the things you could do when you’re older, he sees himself marrying you.
This is, in fact, one of the biggest lines of the proposal as well.
42. You’re the one to call
He can count on you at all times. You both have built such a strong connection that in times of need, he thinks of you first. You’re his emergency contact. Not his mom or sister. You.
43. You feel free to be yourself around him
You can be yourself, without any filter. You both lay bare your insecurities. The crucial thing to consider before popping the question– Can I be me when I am with her? If you’re both free to be yourselves, happy days!
44. He opens up a saving account (with you)
If he’s discussing saving plans with you, he sees you in his future, and he sees himself sharing his future with him. This is classical “he wants to marry you” psychology,and it’s good he’s thinking this way.
45. He gives you the credit card
He trusts you so much that he lets you have his money. He almost considers his money as yours. If he feels free to share his credit card with you, it’s just like you’re married already. He feels safe and comfortable with you.
46. He wants to know it all
He’s dropping questions about your dream wedding. What is the dress like, what’s the location, food, etc.? He discusses all such things because he wants to understand where you both match and how all of this can be planned.
47. Your rings are missing
Is your ring missing for some time now? Cutest of all. Don’t worry. You’ll find it back soon. He just stole your ring to get the ring size!
48. He asks about your ring size
He might look for tactics to know your ring size as some guys are quite direct and will just ask for the right size. That’s when you know your relationship is reaching another level.
He has already begun shopping mentally. He is planning things, from jewelry to wedding, and wants you to comment on diamond rings so he could get to know your taste. How cute!
50. He is very mysterious
He is planning things in secrecy. Probably because he wants to surprise you, and you wonder about what he does, where he goes, and what he’s up to. He is probably arranging the ring or the proposal site! How exciting!
There are so many signs he wants to marry you, but it’s still a mystery what makes them decide when is the right time.
As we said, no one knows how long does it take a man to know he wants to marry you, but when a man wants you, he will do anything to win you permanently.
Men and women speak in different languages, and we knowMen are from Mars, Women are from Venus, but we can still get around and try to decipher men’s behavior and see if he’s getting ready to pop the big question soon.
If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.
Rachael Pace is a noted relationship writer associated with Marriage.com. She provides inspiration, support, and empowerment in the form of motivational articles and essays. Rachael enjoys studying the evolution of loving partnerships and is passionate about writing on them. She believes that everyone should make room for love in their lives and encourages couples to work on overcoming their challenges together.