Remember, you don’t have to jump with sex talk; there are some easy ways on how you can slowly transition to the topics that you want to discuss.
Take it slowly
You just don’t upfront and ask your partner, “Hey, let’s talk about sex”. That’s awkward, right? The sexual talk should come naturally.
Try to begin with your goals or any topic that you both like.
Never start off with what your partner lacks or what you hate, that’s a negative approach. Try to focus on the things that both of you want, sharing what turns you on, what you find attractive, and what you think are the hot sexual things to say to your girlfriend or boyfriend.
Learn to express yourself
Talking sexually to a guy or girl means that you need to feel comfortable and to open up. If you have reservations, then this won’t work.
Men and women talking about sex with their closest friends means that they can express themselves well and this is what we want in our relationships, right?
Imagine, girls, talking about sex with their partners and boys who know how to talk about sex freely with their girlfriends – such a nice practice right?
Be respectful and understanding
Talking about sex in a new relationship may seem like a challenge but it’s not impossible.
Just remember that respect and feeling respected is very important.
Be careful, not to sound too demanding or being too eager to criticize your partner’s shortcomings. We want to have open communication and not a misunderstanding.
Sex topics to discuss
Women talk about sex because it’s fun and it’s also possible to do this with your partner.
Let’s talk about sex and start getting to “really” know each other. These are just some of the topics that you can talk to your partner.
Talk about your desires. This includes what are the things that turn you on. What you find sexy and desirable.
Explain sex terms you want to hear and the sexual things to say to a guy or girl. Do you like talking dirty or not?
Sexual things to say to your girlfriend or boyfriend may start off with sweet words to those nasty dirty phrases – do they like it?
Any specific requests? Do you like your partner to specifically wear lingerie? Wear perfume?
Do you like it rough, passionate or sexy? If you have ideas – tell this to your partner. Open up.
Do you like to try out sex toys? How about using sex furniture?
Do you have fetishes? How about role-playing games with your partner? Would you want to be that hot teacher or the submissive guy?
If your partner opens about BDSM or any other requests and you are not comfortable about it – speak up.
Birth control? Would you want to use it? What method and why? This is another important thing to discuss.
If you are just starting or maybe if you are friends who decided to have sex, then maybe it’s also time to check your status and your commitment to each other.
Let’s talk about safe sex. This is important and should never be skipped. Having an open mind in understanding this is vital for any relationship.
If both of you agree to get tested, then that’s better. It should never be an issue to be safe for your loved one.
As they say, “great lovers are made, not born.”
So, if you want to be the best not just in your partner’s heart but also in bed, then you’ll start asking if your partner wants to talk about it.
Let’s talk about sex and let’s see just how this can help you in pleasuring your partner and more than that, to make your relationship stronger and better.
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Rachael Pace is a noted relationship writer associated with Marriage.com. She provides inspiration, support, and empowerment in the form of motivational articles and essays. Rachael enjoys studying the evolution of loving partnerships and is passionate about writing on them. She believes that everyone should make room for love in their lives and encourages couples to work on overcoming their challenges together.