17 Kinky Sex Ideas for a Thriving Sex Life

So you want to spice up your sex life, and you and your partner have agreed that kinky sex sounds hot and exciting.

Maybe you read the 50 Shades series (more on that in a moment) or maybe you’ve heard about different forms of kink on the internet and you are intrigued with the exploration of kinky sex ideas that can boost your sex life. 

What is kinky sex?

Unconventional sexual tastes and practices in sex that, many perceive as wild or unusual can be called as kinks.

Many people introduce kinky sex in their relationship for the sake of enhancing sexual pleasure. Kinky bedroom ideas are your best shot at beating bedroom boredom. Vibrator using, candle wax dripping, fruit penetration, foot sucking and wearing sexy, outlandish lingerie qualify as some of the ideas on how to have kinky sex.

So, how do you get started with kinky sex ideas?

First, kinky is in the eye of the beholder.

When it comes down to kinky things to do in bed, some folks find full-on bondage kinky, while others prefer to incorporate hot wax and others get their thrill from a simple silk blindfold.

There’s a whole world of kink out there, and not everything is for everyone. But here’s a collection of kinky sex ideas that could spice up your sex life and enhance your relationship satisfaction. 

Read on for sex ideas and tips on introducing kinky sex acts into your relationship

1. Give your partner a hot blow job at an out of ordinary place

Don’t wait for you or your partner to run out of kinky things to do in the bedroom, instead, head to a mountain cliff, parking lot, top of the terrace, in an empty apartment, or a beach with a breathtaking view.

Get down to your knees, with your hands behind your head, allowing your partner to use their hands to guide you and give your man a mind-blowing blow-job.

Extend him the “extra courtesy” allowing him to finish the blowjob on your neck, breasts, sexy bottom, back or any body part that your man fancies.

Alternatively, you could slip into the role of a ‘Dominatrix‘ (a woman who takes the dominant role in BDSM activities) and command him to give you cunnilingus while you stroke his head, massaging his ears, head and being as explicitly vocal as it gets.

2. Tease them with sexual rewards and punishments

To add an element of thrill in your sex life, introduce sex rewards and punishments system while having a lot of fun.

• Rewards: Waking up your partner every Sunday morning with a blow job or a handjob, giving a passionate minute-long kiss,  giving a lap dance when he is back from work and sits down with his beer. You talk dirty in bed and excite him enough to let go of his load. You pleasure him with cowgirl position.
• Punishments: If he cums before she has her orgasm, she gets to spank him, slapping his balls (careful, there) if he fails to live up to his expectations during cunnilingus. You give him hickeys just when he has his presentation lined up for the next day. You force him to stay naked if he doesn’t give you that quickie you demanded.

3. Engage in a masseur and client role play

Oil your partner, massaging them with fragrant, aromatic oil,  gently wrestling with them for the skin to skin contact that makes your cloth slathered in oil.

So what is the best possible outcome for this massage? Offering your partner a happy ending in the form of a sex act.

Alternatively, let your partner initiate a request for a sexual happy ending massage, to which you can coyly agree or reluctantly decline, but finally, give in.

End the full body rub down with a hot sex act.

4. Tip your guy to play the delivery boy who gives you quickies

Ask your man to get you pizza.

But that’s not all that is to it. You add a little craziness to it.

He goes out only to come back as a delivery guy, rings the doorbell, and finds you in sexy lingerie. Seeing him interested offer to tip him, only if he gives you both the pizza and an over-the-counter quickie in your kitchen.

Don’t forget to tip your guy for all the hard work.

You could also videotape this act and watch it later for fun.

Create your personal porn collection with more of such crazy fantasies acted out.

5. Switch roles playing dominant and submissive

Level-up the power dynamic between you and your spouse by switching between domination and submission.

In a dominant/submissive relationship, the kink is the diversity in the sexual acts of domination and submission. Decide to switch roles as dominant where you take complete control over your partner who is in the submissive role.

Flip the roles as you play kinky sex games between the sheets. Repeat.

Try out different play scenes where you can engage in whipping, bondage to verbal humiliation and forced restraint.

6. Masturbate in front of your partner

In the list of kinky sexual things to do, figures -masturbating while your partner watches.

Initial awkwardness and vulnerability aside, it is one of the most enjoyable things that will add a thrill as a prelude to your final sex act with your partner.

Heat up the things by asking your partner to pleasure themselves while you watch, or engage in mutual masturbation.

To take it a notch higher, touch yourself in the shower and pretend being caught in the act by your partner who has been enjoying the show for a while.

7. Open up Kamasutra and go on a sex spree

Grab a copy of Kamasutra, read it together or give your partner a head as they read it out to you, explore the exciting (and acrobatic) positions in the oldest surviving Hindu text on erotic love.

Take up the challenge to stay in the house all day, roam around naked and get down to try each one of the Kamasutra sex positions, till you are deadbeat.

8. Talk about kinky sex fantasies with each

This is crucial. Spend time talking with your partner honestly about what it is you’re looking for. It can be difficult to have these conversations, but they are necessary.

Ask about your partner’s fantasies and tell them about yours.

Here are some sexy fantasies:

• Being held down and kissed or penetrated suddenly, minus the foreplay(rough sex)
• Fantasizing about performing  a striptease for your partner
• Acting as a porn star in an adult movie
• Fantasizing about hot sex with a celebrity
• Sex with a professor, stranger, same-sex acquaintance or an ex

Both of you should have the chance to spell out absolute deal-breakers, things you’re unwilling to do or explore as well.

Find the areas where your kinky sex fantasies overlap or find places where you’re willing to explore your partner’s fantasies and they are willing to explore yours.

As always, consent is key and no one should be asked to do anything that makes them feel uncomfortable unless it’s in the mutually negotiated sexy way.

9. Have sex in front of a mirror

Explore this sexy and sensual idea of in front of a mirror with your significant other. Make sure you let go of all your inhibitions while engaging in mirror sex.

If you still feel vulnerable about the cellulite, sagging skin or less than perfect body, dim the lights.

Enjoy an element of voyeurism and exhibitionism as your partner goes down on you, or you decide to give them fellatio. Take your pick while putting your mirror to good use- it could be face to face sex, standing sex or doggy style.

Watch each other’s expressions and wait till you drop dead as you finally see your orgasm face!

10. Visit a sex toy or a kink shop

We know, research doesn’t sound sexy.

But it’s important to have good information about kinky sex, especially if you’re going to explore bondage or other types of kink where you can get hurt if you don’t do things properly.

Seek out information and no, 50 Shades doesn’t count, for your sole inspiration for kinky sex ideas. 

Those books are full of inaccurate portrayals of kink. Instead, search out some good guides to kink at the bookstore or online. If you have one available, visit a leather or kink shop. You can also meet people and peruse articles on sites like FetLife.

11. Agree on a safeword during kinky sex

A major protocol to follow while you and your partner have decided to implement some kinky sex ideas in your sex life is to agree on a safe word.

Consider this a key point when you are chalking out kinky sex ideas to try on your woman.

Before boarding on the kinky sex fun flight, it is important that your lady is in it full throttle and not just because she is eager to please you and dreadful of coming across as a prude.

In most kink situations, you will want a safeword. This is a word that, when spoken, brings everything to a halt.

Anyone involved in the activities going on can use this word if they feel unsafe or overwhelmed. Agree on this beforehand. Do not choose a word like “stop” or “no” you want something that will snap everyone back to reality with a screeching halt.

12. Try light bondage BDSM style sex toys

If you and your partner are turned on by the kinky sex idea of being restrained, light bondage can be a great place to start and clearly makes it in the coveted list of kinky sex ideas with your partner.

This is simple and requires no fancy equipment.

Though you will often see images of people being restrained with scarves, this is not recommended, they can create dangerous slip knots.

Instead, choose a silk rope designed for bondage or shibari (Japanese rope bondage).

You can purchase this online or at a good sex shop. Even with the best rope, though, have a pair of safety scissors nearby to snip the rope if things go wrong.

13. Explore texture play

Kink doesn’t have to be all restraints and blindfolds, either. Kinky things to do during sex can be about sensual stimulation without getting rough. 

Texture play can be immense fun, and immensely hot. It’s just what it sounds like using materials of different textures to stimulate your partner. so, how to have kinky sex with texture?

Feathers, fur, silk handkerchiefs, you name it. Choose whatever will tantalize your partner leaving them moaning with pleasure. 

Being blindfolded can increase the sensation, but even just closing your eyes and enjoying being touched is amazing.

Choose a variety of textures to experiment with.

14. Turn the temperature up or down

Temperature play is another way to explore kink.

Use ice cubes to trace down your partner’s back. Oral sex given with ice in the giver’s mouth can be intoxicating. You can also experiment with heat, but you need to be careful here.

If you want to experiment with hot candle wax, a common fantasy, don’t just use any old candle.

Waxes burn at different temperatures and can burn skin. Instead, choose a “massage candle” that melts at low temperature and is suitable for pouring on the skin.

15. Try spanking

Kinky sex idea of spanking can be hot if both partners are into it. It’s also a relatively low-stakes but potentially high-reward foray into a little kink.

Start off the light, with an open hand. Don’t smack with all you’ve got and, allow the receiver of the spanking to determine how much is too much.

You can graduate to another kinky sex idea of using objects like a wooden hairbrush or even invest in specialty spanking tools like riding crops and floggers.

One of the interesting kinky sex ideas for him can be to have sex in front of a full-length mirror in your bedroom and let your man savor the sexy visual of your peaks and valleys. 

16. Try blindfolded sex positions and lapdance

Kinky sex idea of blindfolds is another easy way to try out the kink.

Ease yourself in the exhibitionist’s role by blindfolding your partner, making him sit on the edge of the bed while you squat down on him, allowing your body weight in his lap for deep penetration.

Try out kinky sex moves like giving a lap dance to your man, or kinky sex positions like splitting bamboo or lotus position for more skin-to-skin contact and breathtaking sex with many orgasms. 

You can incorporate blindfold into light bondage, or you can use a blindfold by itself. Limiting one sense intensifies the others, so being blindfolded can really increase the tingle.

Choose something that is comfortable and easy to remove, a silk eye mask, sold for airplane travel is ideal.

Do you find yourself searching on the internet for ‘kinky sex ideas for my boyfriend?’, or ‘kinky sex ideas with your partner’, well bondage works for you even if you prefer vanilla sex and are not the most enterprising type.

You can have your guy pin down your wrists with just the hands, and that too for fun. No unnecessary affliction of pain, if you’re not up for it!

But, having said that, if you are in it and like the vulnerable act in the bed, the world’s your oyster. Go for handcuffs, ankle cuffs, leashes, ropes et al.

One of the kinky sex ideas to try on your man can be to blindfold your man and go down on him. Be a dominatrix and make him go all weak in knees. You can even try props like feathers, ice cubes, kink toys, and even food.

17. Practice aftercare

This is the most neglected part of kink in the list of kinky sex ideas. 

Aftercare involves checking in with each other afterward, providing any processing space, and simply coming back down to earth together.

Cuddling, stroking, or snuggling can all be part of aftercare as can a shower, a snack, or a drink of water.

Even if you feel like you and your partner were engaged in some pretty mild kink and everyone seems to be fine, it’s a good idea to check in with interesting sex ideas for couples. 

And aftercare is essential after very intense kinky sex, as lots of emotions can come up that can be overwhelming to deal with. 

Introducing kinky sex ideas into your relationship can turn up the heat and take intimacy to a whole new level.

Take some time to explore kinky sex ideas for couples and figure out what you and your partner find hot and feel comfortable doing. Then have a super hot time as one of the wildest kinky couples.