Emotional abuse is a severe problem that can plague relationships. When you are emotionally abusive, you do everything to manipulate another person and break them down.
In relationships, emotional abusers use things like verbal insults, threats, rejection, and gaslighting as tools to gain complete control over someone. If you have done some of these things, you may wonder, am I emotionally abusive? This quiz will give you a better understanding of whether you are emotionally abusive towards your partner.
1. When it comes to relationships, who would you say is in charge?
A. I am always in control
B. My partner is usually in charge
C. Nobody, everything is equal between myself and my partner
2. Does your partner feel anxious around you?
A. I think so
3. Does your partner avoid voicing their feelings to you?
B. Not always
4. Do you criticize your partner publicly?
A. I think that’s correct
5. Do you trust your partner and treat them with respect?
A. try but I fail to do so
C. Yes, absolutely
6. Have you ever accused your partner of having an affair, because you were jealous?
B. I don’t think so
C. I will never do that
7. Have you ever screamed at your partner and insulted or threatened them in a bullying manner?
A. Yes, this happens frequently
B. No, I would never do that
C. This does happen occasionally and I’m not proud of it
8. When you and your partner are having an argument, who usually wins?
A. My partner is mostly right
B. I make sure to always win no matter what
C. It’s mostly even
9. How would your past partners describe your treatment of them in a relationship?
A. Respectful and caring
B. There would be good moments and bad moments
C. Condescending and cruel
10. Your partner wants to spend more time with family and friends. How do you react?
A. It’s fine, I encourage my partner to have healthy bonds with others
B. It’s unacceptable, my partner should be spending time with only me
C. I am indifferent
11. The term “gaslighting” means to manipulate someone into questioning facts or reality. Have you done this?
A. I am unsure
B. I do this often
C. I have never done this
12. Your partner has put on some extra weight recently. What do you do?
A. Degrade them and make them feel bad about themselves
B. Tell them that they still look great no matter what
C. Mention it once and then move on
13. How would you describe your temperament?
A. I get angry and aggressive often
B. I am usually calm and peaceful
C. I am sometimes angry and sometimes calm
14. Do you keep tabs on what your partner is doing at all times?
A. Yes, I have a right to know everything
B. No, I trust my partner
C. I secretly do this sometimes
15. Who is usually at fault for the problems in your relationship?
A. I am mostly to blame and I hold myself accountable for my actions
B. I am never at fault, my partner is always the problem
C. It is sometimes my partner and sometimes me