How do most of your fights play out?

She always ends up screaming and things escalate quickly

She always has to have the last word

We usually end up agreeing to disagree

How does your partner react when you talk about how you are feeling?

With sarcasm, arrogance or apathy

She usually tries to make it about her

She will listen when I share my feelings

Which of these is most like how your wife would react if you told her you were thinking about leaving?

threatening to harm herself, harming me or threatening to blackmail me in some way

Telling me she doesn’t need me and doesn’t want to be with me anyway

Crying and trying to convince me to stay

When a fight is over, what usually happens?

Usually she won’t talk to me for a while or show she cares at all about what I had to say or how I was feeling

Nothing, we just move on from it

When you bring up something that is bothering you, how would your wife react typically?

Telling me I am completely wrong or crazy in some way, sometimes to the point where I actually start to question my own sanity

Turning it around on me and making it about her

She would get defensive most likely, but she would listen

How does your wife respond when you apologize or bring her a gift to show that you are sorry?

She would never go for that, she just acts like I am not even there

It depends, but usually she appreciates it

Is My Wife Emotionally Abusive Quiz

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10 Questions | Total Attempts: 941 | Updated: Feb 24, 2022

Abuse in any relationship is not okay, but some forms of abuse are more accessible to spot than others. Emotional abuse is probably one of the most complicated forms to detect because of the mind games an emotionally abusive partner plays. However, emotional abuse is just as harmful as any other form of abuse and should not be taken lightly. If your relationship feels unpredictable, your self-esteem and your self-worth have deteriorated over time. If you think of yourself in a highly negative way, or your relationship is starting to affect your mental health negatively. In that case, you may have an emotionally abusive wife. Emotional abuse takes a toll over a while with subtle things that might not seem like a big deal at the time. Still, you become more accustomed to the negative behaviors and allow them to continue without even realizing it. If you think you may have an emotionally abusive wife, take this short quiz to find out.