10 Dos and Don’ts for Dating Someone With Multiple Sclerosis

Dating has its challenges in the best of scenarios. When you have a disability, especially one that may not be visible, such as multiple sclerosis (MS), it may feel like the scales tip in favor of the challenges. Dating can and should be a fun and fulfilling experience. 

With the ten tips discussed in this article, you’ll be able to navigate dating someone with multiple sclerosis more easily and confidently.

What is Multiple Sclerosis (MS)?

MS is a chronic, autoimmune disease that affects the central nervous system (CNS). 

Specifically, MS affects the fatty, insulating tissue around nerve cells called myelin. Damage to these myelin sheaths results in MS plaques (like scar tissue) developing and key electrical signals between the brain and body getting interrupted.

Depending on where in the CNS demyelination occurs, MS can physically and mentally impact a person. In some instances, MS can lead to serious limitations and disabilities that drastically impair one’s day-to-day life — including their dating or love life.

10 dos and don’ts of dating with multiple sclerosis

If you are dating someone with multiple sclerosis, you should know a few dos and don’ts of dating to help you and your partner enrich the relationship.

5 dos of dating someone with multiple sclerosis

Here are some things you should do regarding MS and relationships or exploring dating with multiple sclerosis.

1. Let them tell you when they are ready

Allow your partner the space to let you know that they have MS whenever they feel comfortable sharing that information. Don’t hold it against them if they take time to be open with you. 

That time is different for everyone, and it depends on several factors. Some people will immediately want to tell someone they’re dating about their MS. Some may prefer not to disclose their MS to a new partner until the relationship is serious, if at all.

2. Learn about MS and fertility

Women and men with MS can be successful parents of happy, healthy children. The disease process and treatments to manage MS may pose challenges for some people.

Whether you want or can have biological children may be important to you and the person you’re dating, so it can help prepare you with the right information. 

Discuss conception, pregnancy, delivery, and breastfeeding with your MS treatment team to ensure the safest experience for you and the baby.

3. Learn about how MS may affect your family planning

One of the dos of MS and dating is to know that the disability does not mean you cannot have a family, even as it affects your family planning. MS should not get in the way of being successful parents of healthy children.

The question, “Is MS hereditary?” is often asked when considering having children if you or your partner have MS. While MS is not hereditary, there is a genetic component to the disease.

A person’s risk of developing MS increases when you have a close family member with MS. This genetic component does not necessarily mean you can no longer have a biological child.

4. Learn extensively about how MS affects you specifically

One of the dos of multiple sclerosis dating is to be well aware of the way MS affects you.

According to Grady Shumway, LMHC

Understanding your own symptoms and limits helps you communicate more clearly and confidently with a partner. This self awareness creates space for support, honesty, and a healthier dating experience overall.

MS is a complex and unpredictable disease that affects everyone differently. It would help if you learned as much about MS and how it impacts you specifically. Only then will you be able to explain it to your partner in the best way.

5. Understand the emotional impact MS can have on your dating life

Dating someone with multiple sclerosis, dealing with the myriad symptoms of MS, and specifically, MS’s impacts on your personality can take an emotional toll.

Depression, anxiety, and irritability are very common in those living with MS. Its emotional impacts may also include loss of self-esteem, anger, grief, and stress. This can get in the way of a healthy relationship and sex life. 

Counseling or therapy — for you and your partner — can help address the physiological and psychological issues you’re going through.

Five don’ts of dating with MS

Here are 5 don’ts of MS relationships or dating someone with multiple sclerosis that you should know about.

6. Don’t be alarmed if you experience changes in your libido

When dating someone with multiple sclerosis, remember that any physical and emotional effects may contribute to a decrease in sexual desire.

Women may experience reduced sensation in the vaginal area and the clitoris. They may also experience heightened sensations that can be painful. Vaginal dryness is another side effect of MS experienced by women that can get in the way of their sex life.

You can look into relationship counseling to help you understand the relationship between MS and sex. 

7. Don’t leave room for assumptions

Instead of leaving space for assumptions and conflict, communicate your needs when living with someone with MS. 

Whether or not they’ve disclosed that they have MS, allow them the space to be clear with you about what their needs are. 

Let them speak up about how they feel and what they need. This understanding gives you the information and insight to have a chance to show support in the way that they need it.

To learn more about assumptions that could be ruining your relationship, watch this video:

8. Don’t be self-conscious when it comes to sex

Becoming intimate with someone when you or they have MS may be different than it used to be.

Throughout its disease course, MS may affect the nerve pathways that are responsible for sexual arousal and orgasm. Successful sex may take some trial and error. It’s okay if it just doesn’t work out sometimes. Work with your partner and make adjustments.

9. Don’t become despondent if you encounter sexual challenges

MS can affect your ability to have sexual intercourse or experience the same sensations you once did.

Wondering how does MS affect intimacy?

The most common sexual issue reported by men with MS is erectile dysfunction or trouble achieving or maintaining an erection. Additionally, men may experience reduced penile sensitivity and challenges in achieving ejaculation.

10. Don’t forget to maintain balance in your relationship

When one person in a couple has MS, the other person lives with MS too. 

Grady Shumway highlights that:

Maintaining balance helps protect both emotional connection and personal well-being. When each partner feels valued and supported, the relationship can stay strong even in the face of chronic illness.

When dating someone with multiple sclerosis, it is essential to ensure that both people in the relationship give and receive in their partnership. This balance can be especially difficult to strike when one person is a caregiver. 

But again, finding ways for both people to give and receive in the relationship is critical.

Related Reading: 10 Tips on How to Maintain Balance in a Relationship

How does MS affect dating and romantic relationships?

When dating someone with multiple sclerosis, you may have to get used to the significant impact that this disease can have on your relationship. 

MS would impact most aspects of the relationship, making one partner heavily dependent on the other. The partner with MS may require physical and mental assistance from time to time, causing complications in their intimate life. 

However, equipped with knowledge about the disease, love for your partner and the desire to make things work, you can have a warm and loving relationship that lasts. You can also seek the help of a mental health expert for guidance in case things get too difficult for either of you.  

Conclusion

If you have MS or are dating someone with MS, there is no reason you cannot have a fulfilling, loving relationship. You may have some bad days between the good days. 

Dating someone with multiple sclerosis may require some adaptations and patience, but MS doesn’t have to end your romantic life.

Continue exploring this topic

Talk to our Marriage.com AI Relationship Coach

Chat with me, ask questions and get help

Start Chatting

Marriage.com AI: Your Relationship Guide

Talk through what's on your mind.

Automated

Hi, I'm your relationship guide. What's on your mind?

YOU COULD START WITH

What are some dating tips for someone with MS?

How can dating be fun with multiple sclerosis?

AI guidance only - not therapy. In crisis? Call a helpline or Find a Therapist

Terms

Nyaka Mwanza

Nyaka Mwanza is a freelance writer for MyHealthTeams. She completed a B.A. in Communications: Visual Media from American University and undertook post-baccalaureate studies in Health/Behavioral Communications and Marketing at Johns Hopkins University. Nyaka is a Zambian-born, E.U. citizen who was raised... Read more in sub-Saharan Africa and Jacksonville, N.C. However, she has called Washington, D.C., home for most of her life. For much of her career, Nyaka has worked with large global health nonprofits focused on improving health outcomes for women and children. Nyaka believes words hold immense power, and her job is to meet the reader where they are, when they’re there. Read less

Marriage.com Assessment

What Help Does Your Relationship Need Most Right Now Quiz

Reviewed byJennifer Schulz, LCSW

Backed by relationship science and evidence-based psychology, this assessment helps identify the area of your relationship that deserves the most attention right now, whether things feel strong or slightly off. Research shows that even healthy relat...

Questions: 20 | Last updated: Jan 23, 2026

Sample Question

When you and your partner talk about something important…

We listen with care — even hard talks feel safe and productive

We try to talk, but lately emotional closeness feels harder to reach

I want to be open, but part of me still guards my heart

Our discussions sometimes spiral or end unresolved

It’s hard to feel close because our physical intimacy hasn’t felt strong lately

We often see things differently about goals or priorities

Take the Quiz Now