There is nothing attractive about having to mother your boyfriend. Occasionally picking up after him is one thing, but if he frequently asks you to do things for him or expects you to take care of him, then he’s not right for you.
If you never do date nights or find your partner more interested in their phone than in your conversation, then you’ll know he’s just not right for you.
13. You don’t bring out the best in each other
When you’re with the right person, you’ll both encourage one another and make each other a better version of yourselves. You’ll be more patient, loving, and kind.
When you’re with the wrong person, you’ll bring out the worst in each other. You may regularly fight, nitpick, and behave in ways you never had before you got together.
If you never feel like your best self when you’re together, take it as a sign he is not the one.
14. Your relationship is only about one thing
One of the biggest signs he is not the one is if your relationship revolves around physical intimacy and nothing more.
One study of 119 male and 189 female university students reported that when intimate encounters are based solely on sex (without friendship or romance attached), 50% of survey participants felt deceived by their partner and experienced higher instances of loneliness and psychological distress.
15. You’re not honest with each other
Have you ever related to either of the following?
“I thought he was the one, but I feel uncomfortable opening up to him.”
“I thought he was the one, but I feel like he’s always lying to me.”
Domestic violence statistics reveal that1 in 4 women will experience abuse at the hands of a romantic partner.
One of the biggest signs he’s not the one is if he has shown troubling behavior such as grabbing you firmly when angry, hitting you, threatening you or your loved ones, or using verbal aggression to get his way.
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Rachael Pace is a noted relationship writer associated with Marriage.com. She provides inspiration, support, and empowerment in the form of motivational articles and essays. Rachael enjoys studying the evolution of loving partnerships and is passionate about writing on them. She believes that everyone should make room for love in their lives and encourages couples to work on overcoming their challenges together.