Rather than blaming ourselves for relationship problems, simply acknowledge it is toxic or dysfunctional and put an end to it because that’s the only way to repair the damage caused by the toxic partner and also to improve your emotional, mental and physical well-being.
Now that you have put an end to the toxic relationship, it’s time to take some steps toward reclaiming yourself and restoring your self-confidence, self-confidence, dignity, integrity, self-esteem, pursue of self-growth and sense of self-worth that belong to you.
Below are points of advice to begin your recovery and healing from the damage rendered by your toxic relationship.
Re-establish who you are (Re-create your identity)
You have to get to know the fact that you are no longer in a relationship, meaning you are free from the toxic partner.
Then you have to re-introduce your new self to the people that care about you and those who you think need to know who the new you is. In other words, re-introduce yourself to all that makes up who you are as an individual. You have to realize that your purpose and identity cannot revolve around another person only.
Don’t contact him or her
Change is not instant, it is a gradual process. It is so tempting, but no matter what, do not call, text, email that person. Nothing! Unfriend the toxic person on Facebook, block his or her Twitter feed and resist the urge to look him or her up on instagram.
Yes, even if it hurts not talking or communicating to the person, even if you have been in the toxic relationship for years and even if he or she claims to still be in love with you.
Cleanse your mind, body, and spirit of toxicity.
Toxic relationships infect and contaminates. Be sure to be clean of toxicity and the negative energy toxicity causes. Engage in some type of movement or mental activity to cleanse and renew yourself after you have left the toxic relationship. Follow through by cutting contact with the toxic partner. Examples of activities to cleanse your mind and emotions include yoga, tai chi, aerobic exercise, meditation, journaling, detoxification, talk therapy, or religious practices within a supportive faith community.
Make decisions that will boost your confidence
The major reason a toxic partner belittles or counts you as nothing is because he/she feels you cannot without him or her. Broaden your scope of knowledge about things you avoided doing because you were too timid and scared; set goals and objectives to tackle and complete small tasks, followed by bigger tasks to create a feeling of accomplishing something on your own without depending on anyone.
You are responsible for whatever needs fixing and replacement in your life, your financial debts, your career, taking care of your body and so on. It is not your partner, your best friend or your parents that is responsible for your welfare. You will feel much better and have much more confidence in yourself once you start doing things on your own.
Get surrounded with people with Positive energy.
It is a known fact that negativity and drama is a feature of toxic person. It is very important to fill the void you’re feeling with people who will have a bright, positive presence in your life. Hang out with people who are making moves to accomplish their dreams, and they will take you along for the ride.
You have to fill up your schedule with friends who understand you are going through a hard breakup and a toxic relationship recovery and are willing to help you out of that dark place.
Be your own best friend
The major reason why people stay in unhealthy and toxic relationships is that they are scared of being lonely. The reason they cannot stay lonely is because they cannot make themselves happy and they have not developed the best friend relationship with themselves.
If you want to fully recover from an unhealthy and toxic relationship, try to reach a point where you can actually enjoy your own company. And if that doesn’t help, know that to be alone is healthier and preferable to being in an unhealthy toxic relationship that filled with hostile drama lies and negativity.
Give love a chance once more
Because, you have had a relationship with a toxic partner does not mean there is no Mr. or Ms. Right for you. You should dwell on past experiences but rather move on. There is a billion and one right person for you.
Of course you should have alone time, but when you feel ready to see and date other people , you should keep an open mind.
In other words, when you move on and decide to date, thoughtfully consider the personalities of you have dated before, and work to engage in new and different types of personalities. As it is said, Humans can thrive well in Isolation.