Romantic relationships are important for our happiness and well-being. Relationships seem to be more and more transitory and complex. Divorce rates are skyrocketing, break-ups have become very frequent, and long-term commitment is reducing drastically.
More than 40 percent of new marriages are ending in divorce, it is clear that relationships are not easy, they are complicated. This shows that love alone isn’t enough to sustain a relationship or marriage. To make a relationship last, research suggests you need to be smart and conscious about how you love your partner.
Fortunately, there are a few tips you can take to keep your romantic partnership in good working order.
1. Figure out your common interests
It is okay if your partner is much more interested in watching football than you and you have a keen interest in watching Hollywood movies than your partner. You shouldn’t get concerned or worry if the thing you find most boring is what really gets him going. But there will be a thing you and your partner enjoy doing together, that thing is your common interest.
If common interests aren’t present, happy couples develop them. Be sure to develop something you and your partner enjoy doing and at the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting and prevent you from appearing too dependent.
2. Always remember to say “I love you” and “have a good day” every morning
Complimenting each other is one of the best ways to thank a special someone for the effort they have taken for you, for being there for you and most of all for loving you. Saying I love you every morning is a way to make her feel happy and glad for seeing the brightness of another day.
Telling her I love you every morning reminds her that you are grateful for her being there for you. It’s a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to get their shit done.
3. Express the love you have for your partner physically
Intensify the affections and love you have for each other in a relationship by showing it physically. It might be through hugs. It is a known fact that hugs strengthen the love partners have for each other.
Always hold hands. Whenever you’re out together, make sure you are fully synchronized by holding one another’s hand. It is a public indicator of love and affection.
Similarly, in secure and long-term relationships, having more romance sex is often a positive expression of love’s intensity. Even researchers confirm it that frequent sex could be the answer to maintain feelings of love and happiness.
4. Learn to trust one another
Trust is essential in a relationship as it is the foundation on which all relationships are built on. A relationship that does not involve trust is in vanity.
When you can trust someone, you have this strong feeling that they will always tell you the plain truth. You know they care about you and you know that they will always be there for you. You will not have to worry about manipulation, unfaithfulness, deceit, or betrayal. Ultimately, you can relax when you can trust and rely on your partner.
5. Always learn to forgive and forget
Don’t keep a scoreboard. Whenever your partner accepts he or she is wrong and apologizes, forgive him or her and let it go. Don’t claim to forgive her and then when there is a disagreement you bring up what he or she has done and apologized for in the past.
Also, whenever you are right about something in an argument, shut up. Don’t rub it on your partner’s face. You can be right and also be quiet at the same time. Your partner will already know you are right and will feel loved knowing that you didn’t rub it on his or her face.
6. Keep a steady line of communication with your partner
Communication is the only key that keeps relationships healthy. Good couples make time to check in with one another on a regular basis. It is essential to talk about things that you deem fit to be discussed. Try to spend a few minutes each day discussing deeper or more personal subjects to stay connected to your partner over the long term.
In case your partner is not around you, always keep in touch with him or her. This might be through the use of social media like Whatsapp, Facebook, twitter etc and other electronic media like faxes and emails.
7. Be playful
Make sure you have fun in the relationship. Break from the norm of seriousness and tension caused by work by playing with each other, going to the movies together, going on picnics and so on.
Being playful is most times overlooked, but it is needed to take a break from the work and seriousness of everyday life. When you are being playful with your partner, you are taking that break together.