When planning for your wedding, it can be very easy to believe that once you return back home from your honeymoon, the stress will be gone. But every married person knows that maintaining a good and healthy relationship can be very stressful; even more stressful than walking down the aisle.
It is not uncommon for couples to feel disconnected or overwhelmed during the holiday season especially if both partners feel triggered by specific events. This added stress can give birth to tension and create relationship difficulties during a time when it is essential to feel loved and connected.
But there are ways that you can make use of to get through the holiday stress season. Having a plan and sticking with it is a great way to eliminate stress and enjoy the company of each other.
Take the stress out of your relationship
To stress-proof your marriage you must come together as a team and create a sense of balance with one another.
You must wrap your mind around certain facts that will help you to get rid of the stressful aura around you and your spouse.
1. Understand that marriage is a permanent decision
The sooner you let go of the idea that your marriage is temporary and will end once awful conditions are completed and met, the sooner you can let go of the stress and conflicts dancing around your marriage.
Yes, you may find yourself facing a situation where divorce can be the only solution, however, thinking about going along with a divorce, even in the back of your mind may cause unnecessary angst. Make sure you accept the fact that you will stay with each other and get a divorce out of your brain.
2. Stop unrealistic expectations
Parenting problems, disagreement about money and morning breath are some common problems you will come across. You must remember that your spouse will not be perfect all the time nor will you agree with everything. But make sure that these differences do not divide one another but instead can help strengthen your relationship.
Marriage is a journey based on acceptance so make sure that you accept your spouse for who they are.
3. Do not compare your marriage with others
Once you start looking at other people and their marriage, you may start seeing your spouse in a negative light. It is important to remember that every person has a different marriage, a different partner and hence different ways of being happy.
Start accepting your relationship and do not get in complex through social media.
4. Avoid having busyness on your plate
One of the biggest pressures faced by couples is that they sometimes have a lot of their plate and they wear busyness as a badge of honor.
For this reason, they do not have time to build and strengthen their relationship. So, avoid being too busy for one another and take some relaxing time with your spouse.
5. Don’t argue at night
Some conflicts can be impossible to ignore and have to get tackled right away, but it is important that you do not face these issues at night time. When you argue to try to solve the argument in the evening instead of the night because when both of you are tired, you may say things that you will regret in the morning.
Focus on working on your issues at an appropriate time such as early morning; they will go much better.
6. Stop overspending
Money is the number one reason for having stress between couples. It is important that both, husband and wife have a tight budget and do not overspend money; avoid starting problems by living way beyond your means.
7. Unplug And reconnect
With this era of technology where we all are so driven by gadgets and mobile phones, we lose track of relationships. We are so busy posting pictures with one another that we forget to live in the moment and soon we lose the connection and spark that was once there.
In order to bring back this spark, it is important that you unplug all your devices and try to reconnect with one another. Sign off from all your accounts and vices and keep anything away from getting your time interrupted together.
At the end of the day, it is important to remember that stress can enter your relationship easily, but it is up to you and your partner to kick it back out. Try to put your spouse first and have fun together; find a shared activity and make time for each other.
Reprise your first date, go for movies, games, picnics trips and laugh together. Laughing together is great medicine for your relationship.