4 Obvious Signs of Being in Love
You suddenly become euphoric for no apparent reason, you can’t focus at all, and when you see a certain someone, you feel as if you were going to faint.
Could these be the signs of being in love? Or is it just a passing fling?
How to tell if you’re in love, or it’s merely a short burst of attraction that is going to fade away in no time. And, if you are in love, what are the signs of love to look for in that other person?
Read on to find answers to all your questions on love.
What love is and what it isn’t?
The reason why one would need this article in the first place is that love can be mistaken for other feelings.
We’ve all been infatuated with someone, misled by our momentary experiences to believe we’re in love. And, what happened next was that it vanished into thin air within a couple of days, weeks, or months.
The infatuation period usually lasts for three, up to six months. It’s the time of chemical changes in our bodies. So without the actual intake, you feel so euphoric as if you were on a cocaine high.
The hormonal changes lead to all sorts of atypical feelings and behaviors, including the increased sex drive and becoming obsessive about your new lover.
However, it isn’t the same as the initial stages of falling into love. It’s a lasting feeling that will remain there even after the hormones wear off.
So, love isn’t that ecstasy you feel in the first days of your romance. It also isn’t the romance itself. Romance can pave the way to love, but it doesn’t always happen that way.
The four sure signs of being in love
So, how to know the real deal from its vigorous counterpart? What are some signs of being in love for real, as opposed to the signs of being in love until the next interesting person comes along? Here are the four things to look for.
1. You’re selfless
When you’re looking for the sure signs of being in love, you won’t miss being entirely selfless. It doesn’t mean you are buying gifts and trickles for the other person wherever you go.
It means a gut feeling that you will always do whatever it takes for that other person to be well.
It also means you’ll tell them when they’re wrong, and highlight their weaknesses, only to help them become better and more successful.
2. Your values are in agreement
A fling can happen to anyone anywhere, and it’s often the thing movies are about. Because it’s the exciting part. Especially when there’s the “opposites attract” kind of storyline.
However, with true love, your values are in concord. That’s the only love that’s going to last.
You’re on the same page when it comes to your philosophy on the big issues – such as the purpose of life, what is worth fighting and living for.
The same goes for your ideas on how to organize your finances, how to raise children, etc.
3. You trust the person
One of the signs you are falling in love is that you get insecure. You obsess, you fear, you doubt. Nonetheless, true love comes with a feeling of security.
You’re able to trust the other person entirely. You feel that their intentions are good. You feel in safe hands with them. So, how to know you’re in love?
Even though you may have doubts based on your previous experience, you feel it in your heart that this is good for you.
4. It’s easy to communicate with them
One of the definite signs of being in love that’s going to last is that you can very easily communicate with that person.
It’s normal to lose the ability to speak when you suddenly meet them during the first days of your infatuation.
However, the sure sign you’re in love is that you can speak with them about anything with such ease that the word “soulmate” comes to your mind!
Even when it’s something you disagree about, you can just talk to them as effortlessly as if you were talking to yourself.
Watch this video to get deeper insights into what love is:
How do you know when someone loves you?
So, we gave you a few ways how to know you are in love, which is the real deal. Now, any person in love also craves the signs of being in love with the object of their devotion.
How will you know they share the emotion?
It’s hard to be objective when so much is at stake. After all, you already picked names for your children!
However, the same signs that we spoke about before apply to them too. So, now, it’s upon you to identify if the person whom you love, loves you back or not. Good luck!
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