You suddenly become euphoric for no apparent reason, you can’t focus at all, and when you see a certain someone, you feel as if you were going to faint.
Could these be the signs of being in love? Or is it just a passing fling?
How to tell if you’re in love, or it’s merely a short burst of attraction that is going to fade away in no time. And, if you are in love, what are the signs of love to look for in that other person?
Read on to find answers to all your questions on love.
What love is and what it isn’t?
The reason why one would need this article in the first place is that love can be mistaken for other feelings.
We’ve all been infatuated with someone, misled by our momentary experiences to believe we’re in love. And, what happened next was that it vanished into thin air within a couple of days, weeks, or months.
The infatuation period usually lasts for three, up to six months. It’s the time of chemical changes in our bodies. So without the actual intake, you feel so euphoric as if you were on a cocaine high.
The hormonal changes lead to all sorts of atypical feelings and behaviors, including the increased sex drive and becoming obsessive about your new lover.
However, it isn’t the same as the initial stages of falling into love. It’s a lasting feeling that will remain there even after the hormones wear off.
So, love isn’t that ecstasy you feel in the first days of your romance. It also isn’t the romance itself. Romance can pave the way to love, but it doesn’t always happen that way.
The four sure signs of being in love
So, how to know the real deal from its vigorous counterpart? What are some signs ofbeing in love for real, as opposed to the signs of being in love until the next interesting person comes along? Here are the four things to look for.
1. You’re selfless
When you’re looking for the sure signs of being in love, you won’t miss being entirely selfless. It doesn’t mean you are buying gifts and trickles for the other person wherever you go.
It means a gut feeling that you will always do whatever it takes for that other person to be well.
It also means you’ll tell them when they’re wrong, and highlight their weaknesses, only to help them become better and more successful.
2. Your values are in agreement
A fling can happen to anyone anywhere, and it’s often the thing movies are about. Because it’s the exciting part. Especially when there’s the “opposites attract” kind of storyline.
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