Quotes That Will Help You Forgive Your Husband

Quotes That Will Help You Forgive Your Husband

When you’re trying to forgive your husband for past transgressions, quotes can be there to assist you. Because in many marriages, unfortunately, resentment and anger tend to build up so much that they cloud the love and care. But, forgiving your husband is something that you should do, for yourself, for him, and for your relationship. Holding a grudge may seem like a safety net for many hurt women, but it is only ruining your chances of a happy life. So here are a few forgiveness quotes for husbands, and a psychological rationale behind why you should take the advice provided in these words of wisdom and forgive your husband.

“Once a woman has forgiven her man, she must not reheat his sins for breakfast – Marlene Dietrich”
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This is a famous quote by a famous woman, who probably knew a thing or two about women, men, and relationships. And her quote is the first to be discussed here because it holds the very essence of the practicality of forgiveness from the psychological standpoint. If you do forgive, it means that the relationship should start moving forward.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean accepting that the wrongdoing was alright. It wasn’t and it will never be. But, if you reach forgiveness for your husband, you should be certain that you’re able not to treat him as the culprit every step of the way before sharing with him that he is forgiven. Be sure that the issue is resolved and that you are capable of letting it go.

If you do forgive, it means that the relationship should start moving forward

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you – Louis B. Smedes”
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This is an interesting quote because it outlines the psychological purpose of holding a grudge. It is to have control over the other person, and what happens to you. If your husband caused harm to you, you might be tempted to hold him prisoner to his own guilt. You might even be doing this unconsciously.

But, as soon as you forgive, you are letting go of that control. However, as the quote reveals, once you relinquish the power over your husband, you will realize a beautiful thing. You yourself were imprisoned by your resentment and anger. There are toxic emotions that have a way of poisoning the person who experiences them. You might think they’re directed towards to your husband or anyone else, but they are holding you hostage.

To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you

“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future – Paul Boese”
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As we already mentioned in one of the previous quote analysis, forgiving doesn’t mean either changing what happened nor proclaiming that it was alright for your husband to do so. And, unfortunately, forgiveness doesn’t change the fact that you were betrayed in some way. It doesn’t magically make the pain go away either. Otherwise, it would be the easiest and the most common thing to do.

It isn’t because it’s about something entirely else. Forgiveness isn’t about erasing what happened to you. It’s about building the new future for yourself and your marriage. The reality is harsh, and the probability of you getting hurt by your husband was high from the start. However, it can do one of the two things. The first is to ruin your marriage, your confidence, and your future.

And the second is to build the enlarged future for you and your relationship, as the quote says. How? By forgiving, you are growing. You are also letting your husband become a better man. When you hold a grudge, you are both prisoners, as the previous quote said. By forgiving, you are opening the path towards both of you becoming stronger, knowing each other better, and building a new, reinforced marriage.

Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future

“As long as you don’t forgive, who and whatever it is will occupy a rent-free space in your mind – Isabelle Holland”
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Another woman pinpoints exactly how a mind of a betrayed wife looks like. Whether it is insults, maltreatment, addictions, or, most commonly, infidelity, the husband’s transgressions have a tendency of overtaking the woman’s mind entirely. You will soon find yourself ruminating endlessly about every second of the trauma you went through.

You will try to fill in every crack of your mind with constructions of the horror story you’re imagining. All your capacities will be locked up, gathering dust. You will probably find yourself unable to do anything, to think anything anymore. Your hobbies, your work, your interest, they will all suffer. Until you forgive your husband and unlock your mind for all the beauty in the world!