10 Reasons Why You Should Date the Girl Who Likes to “Fix” People
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Some people seem to be natural fixers. You’ve already met them. They’re the type of people who always have spare coffee when you run out, or offer you a blanket and sympathy when your low-down dirty ex-cheats on you.
If you find yourself in a relationship with a girl who likes to “fix” people, you might never be the same. She’ll do her best to help and support you. If you treat her with respect and kindness and take responsibility for yourself, you might just end up in a relationship that is nurturing for both of you.
Here are 10 reasons the best relationship of your life will be with a girl who likes to “fix” people.
1. She won’t give up on you
This girl won’t give up on you when things get rough. Even if you’re struggling, she’ll be there for you and wait patiently for you to heal.
If everything feels like an uphill struggle, she’ll sit with you until you feel ready to go on.
2. She’s not afraid of your dark side
Everyone has a dark side, and most of us try to hide it, too. We’re scared that if the people we love get to know what’s really inside us, they won’t want us anymore.
Not so this girl. She knows you have a dark side. She knows she does, too. Because she’s faced her own dark side, she’s ready to help you face yours.
3. She’s dedicated to growth and self-improvement
Chances are this is a girl who is dedicated to personal growth and self-improvement. She’s insightful and wise, and she’s not afraid to give you a gentle kick in the butt when you need it.
If someone thinks they have the power to fix you, that’s not healthy. But if she’s smart and kind enough to help you fix yourself, work with her and let yourself heal.
4. She’ll stick with you as you grow and heal
Someone who is truly dedicated to your growth and healing has real staying power. She’ll stick with you as you grow and heal because she knows it isn’t a quick road and there are no instant fixes.
You can take your time as you work through your problems because she’ll give you the space you need, and stay by your side.
5. She cares about what you need
This girl is a giver – so be sure you don’t take advantage of that! She truly cares about what you need, not just in your relationship, but in your life. She wants you to have what you need.
Take the time to figure out what she needs too and you can build a strong, mutually respectful relationship.
6. She’ll inspire you to be a better person
Being loved by someone who really cares about you and wants to help you, is powerful. It changes you. You see first hand what true love and dedication look like, and it inspires you.
Let her kindness inspire you so you can take care of each other and learn how to trust and share openly.
7. You’ll learn what it’s like to be loved for who you are
Being loved for exactly who you are is an amazing feeling. Someone who truly wants to help you doesn’t want to change who you are. Instead, she wants you to heal and will support you so you can become a better version of yourself. More healed, and happier.
8. You can grow together
One of the most beautiful things about this kind of relationship is that you can grow together. After all, no healthy relationship is one-sided.
As she helps you heal, so you can support and help her too. It’s a recipe for a mutually healing connection.
9. You’ll learn to give and receive true love
The openness and acceptance she offers you gives you the space you need to let true love in. Being truly loved opens your heart and makes you want to give in return – so do it! Learn how to love her with the same devotion and honesty and you’ll both benefit.
10. You’ll build a strong foundation for the future
Working together on your issues can be a strong foundation for the future, with one caveat: You still need to take responsibility for your feelings, actions, and happiness. Don’t rely on her to provide those, but simply accept her love and support so you can fix yourself.
That’s the real key to a relationship like this – fixing yourself with her support so you can build a trusting foundation for your future.
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